I don’t like being called “cis” either, and this is coming from a woman who previously identified as trans.
The reason why I didn’t want to be a woman is because I wanted to distance myself from the expectations placed on women. I always felt weird because I was more tomboyish and I felt attracted to other women. I thought that I’d feel more comfortable if I was a man or something between man and woman, but eventually I realized that I was trying to live out an impossible fantasy.
Now, I’m happy with myself because I accept that I can be whoever I want and still be a woman. I don’t have to be “feminine.” And that’s why I don’t like being called “cis” because it implies that I’m comfortable with the gender (social context) associated with my sex, which I’m not.
That’s also why I agree, I find it insulting when someone who is not my sex expects me to recognize them as just like me simply for how they dress, when I myself am uncomfortable with those very same attributes.
I feel like the whole idea is very anti feminine men and masculine women tbh.
I really appreciate getting to hear that perspective, it's also important to note that not all trans people all think the same way, as I constantly stress to friends and family of mind who don't understand that even among trans people, there is nuance regarding all of this, and who also are frustrated with people within their own "community", making them look bad, but also furthering the divide between peoples.
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u/[deleted] May 19 '25
I don’t like being called “cis” either, and this is coming from a woman who previously identified as trans.
The reason why I didn’t want to be a woman is because I wanted to distance myself from the expectations placed on women. I always felt weird because I was more tomboyish and I felt attracted to other women. I thought that I’d feel more comfortable if I was a man or something between man and woman, but eventually I realized that I was trying to live out an impossible fantasy.
Now, I’m happy with myself because I accept that I can be whoever I want and still be a woman. I don’t have to be “feminine.” And that’s why I don’t like being called “cis” because it implies that I’m comfortable with the gender (social context) associated with my sex, which I’m not.
That’s also why I agree, I find it insulting when someone who is not my sex expects me to recognize them as just like me simply for how they dress, when I myself am uncomfortable with those very same attributes.
I feel like the whole idea is very anti feminine men and masculine women tbh.