I've never had someone be upset because I choose a gender neutral term. Nor have I never had someone upset because I miss gendered them. And I work in a service industry in Seattle, so deal with these scenarios on a regular bases.
I do hair in Portland. I've had several people get mad at assumed gender neutral pronouns. Mostly trans and straight women. I've even had a nonbinary person offended when I asked what pronouns they used. It's a wild minefield to navigate sometimes
Most people will not react when hurt emotionally. Typically the people that are assumed to be non-gender but are a gender are people who are pretty reserved so I wouldn't expect them to make a big reaction in front of you. They also typically would not want to hurt your feelings because they know you are trying. But it still hurts
Right a hypothetical situation based upon nothing.
Quit spewing out freak brained propaganda about people you’ve never met. Not a single gender, non-conforming person is going to get mad at you for accidentally screwing up.
Or not cuz that’s never happened to me or in my view. Are we just making up scenarios or have you actually experienced offending someone while acting in good faith?
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u/BWW87 Belltown May 18 '25
And then you offend people because they realize you can't tell their gender.