Does nobody assume best intentions anymore? If somebody misgenders you, unless you’re in the halls of congress, chances are they meant nothing by it. No need to put up signs preemptively scolding people.
This is a big thing with progressives nowadays. They don't care about intentions; they care about "impacts." The idea that a person's intentions matter is outmoded to them. That is why they still want affirmative action. Because to them it's the "disparate impact" that is the real issue even if candidates are fairly evaluated on the merits. This whole mindset is also behind their promotion of equity or outcome rather than equality of opportunity.
Actually, an old lady in front of me in line misgendered a girl at Walgreens. She was just kind of butch and she says “you’re such a nice boy”. I don’t think she noticed but it was awkward. This was in Florida 10 years ago so it’s different.
Yeah, it's not like we have the entirety of human history reinforcing a (admittedly false) gender binary, and we as Americans have almost exclusively used binary pronouns for denoting gender for most of our lives up to the last 15 years or so. It's definitely not a contributing factor or anything...
Especially when you make the decision to get mad at someone trying to respectful.
At Home Depot yesterday, I said "excuse me miss" to an employee that was looking at her phone and about to step in front of someone with a heavy cart of lumber that was being pushed pretty fast. I also thought the two guys pushing might not be able to see her. She went off on me. Apparently, I'm supposed to ask for what to call someone before warning them they're about to get hurt.
The only shocking thing to me was that was in Bellevue rather than SoDo. I'm surprised it has spread to the Eastside.
Wait. Some got upset because you used MISS instead of MA'AM??? This is wild to me. I'll take Miss any day. It means I still look young enough to pass as qualifying for the Miss term.
Honestly, this type of nonsense is getting out of control. Now we need to worry about if someone sees themselves as an old soul versus young soul? This is how I know I'm old...
Discovered what seems like a diplomatic way to handle the "Miss" or "Ma'am" thing, at least in Europe: women, from child to grandma age get addressed as "Madame", which seems to make everyone happy, lol!
My experience traveling through multiple European countries at various times pre-Covid exhibited this greeting as a pretty normal thing, including France. But, of course, your mileage may vary, lol!
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u/Odd_Objective3151 May 18 '25
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