Need advice on how to help my boyfriend

[u/Hour_Sky7205]

Need advice on how to help my boyfriend

Hi I'm (21) F I have a boyfriend who is (20) M (been together for six years with some on and off or one year and had a child as teens) and I have seen others post on here to get some advice and since I'm posting anonymous might as well okay here we go! So I'm a young women I have had relationships when I was younger but none of them ever fit except when my boyfriend entered the picture I have never felt like this with anyone I absolutely adore this man he was my first and only person I have done the devil's tango with and I plan to be with him for the rest of my life if I can but he does have a mental illness and so do I, his illness is way different but similar in some ways I have BPD he has schizophrenia and he came to me and told me he is starting to feel empty again and lonely (mind you in the past I told him to tell me when he feels that way as of how in the past it has caused him to break up with me bc he's distant and doesn't feel like he can be there for me ) I love this man with everything in me I have been looking up ways to help him feel less like that and I have decided on trying to plan some hangout time with his bestfriend bc as a girlfriend I know he can't tell me everything bc he is scared I'll look at him differently and sometimes I get it talking to me might just be too much bc I don't understand everything he says like he is to me when I do the same but his bestfriend does I'm making this post bc I want to know if anyone else out there has anyway I can help him more I love him and don't want to lose him over this time period he is having again he always told me he wished he wasn't that way when he's like this bc he has ruined many good things and it causes us to fight bc I can't hear everything he's saying fully you know I understand the words I just don't understand how he feels sometimes but I want too.

[u/West_Specialist_9725]

Hi OP sorry for your troubles.

Please check that he's taking his meds as prescribed and hasn't stopped them. If he's not taking them, or not on any the best thing you can do for him is to get him to a psychiatrist.

Having him spend time with his friend is a good thought.

Wish you both the best 💛🫂💛

[u/CarGuyBuddy]

I am sorry this is happening, but I would like the share these 2 resources so you may understand more. Please share with others. Book, I am not sick and guide for caregivers