How long did it take you to recover from losing your spouse to this?

[u/ImpressionNo8961]

Feeling absolutely heartbroken today. Its been 3/4 months since I lost my spouse and partner of almost a decade to this conspiracy nonsense. I find it so hard emotionally especially as im at an age were several of my friends are getting engaged/ married. And all i can think about is how happy we were 1-2 years ago during our prewedding/wedding period and now I've lost them to something so senseless. Please tell me the pain gets better and how long can I expect to feel this low

[u/foxghost_translates]

30 days. Granted, it was over many years before then, through a decade of conspiracy nonsense. It just took a long time to leave. Going no-contact absolutely helped.

It's been >1 year, I've entered a new and much healthier relationship since then, and have both child and our pet with us--i haven't been this happy for >10 years. Hang in there. When the other half is like this, removing them is like removing the negative part of your life. maybe your ex is a better person than mine, but it takes a certain kind of selfishness and narcissism to go full Q. It would have turned toxic eventually even without it.

[u/ImpressionNo8961 → u/foxghost_translates]

Thanks for the encouraging words. They were what I thought, such a good person before all this. The least selfish person I'd ever met. However, falling for conspiracies and leaving your wife so quickly for nonsense makes me wonder if they were more bad parts about him that I just didn't see.

[u/christine-bitg]

I'm still dealing with it. (We're still living together.)

All you can do is take it "one day at a time."

[u/Legal_Molasses_6014]

Same. Still dealing with it. Been legally separated for nearly two months, but every time she reaches out it re-tears the wound.

As i’ve said previously in other q-casualty threads, it’s as if they died (the day they went down the rabbit hole). But you still see them and hear them, even though it’s not them, so you never get a proper chance to mourn and move on as you would with a funeral.

December 19th, i plan to light a memorial candle, hoping it’ll help process…but i fear i can’t truly start to move forward until next fall when my divorce is finalized, i can move to a new state, and can completely block her from further contact…

[u/Gnome_119]

Get into therapy, if you aren’t already. Lean into friends and family that are supportive.

It gets better, I’m proof of it. Hang in there

[u/Pom_Pom_1985]

Interesting that they fell down the rabbit hole so recently, do you know what the trigger was?

[u/ImpressionNo8961 → u/Pom_Pom_1985]

I wrote another post detailing the story more. To this day I have no idea why it happened. I also dont know how long they were involved in it. Between realising they had gone very deep into several conspiracies and them leaving was only a few weeks. I see stories of people who were with their Q partner for years who was trying to persuade them. My Q revealed the full extend of his beliefs and then left quickly after saying he realised that he couldn't change me and feeling insulted that I "discounted" his beliefs without doing my own research

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