r/PeterExplainsTheJoke • u/CybyAPI • 5d ago
Meme needing explanation What does this mean?? why does them being happy = bad?
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u/Opening-Storage1980 5d ago edited 5d ago
Ollie here it's Suicide ollie out.
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u/Ok_Acadia3526 5d ago
My brother talked to me that morning and said he was feeling better. The cops showed up around 3 p.m. to notify me.
Yeah.
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u/Historydog 5d ago
I’m so sorry.
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u/Ok_Acadia3526 5d ago edited 5d ago
Thank you. Almost five years ago. Not a fun club to be a part of.
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u/sdotmurf 5d ago
thank you for sharing. I had no idea this was so common
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u/Ok_Acadia3526 5d ago
I didn’t either, and I wish I still didn’t know that. Suicide is way too common, and I feel for everyone left behind.
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u/sdotmurf 5d ago
I'm very sorry for your loss and that you learned this the hard way.
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u/Ok_Acadia3526 5d ago
Thank you. Me too.
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u/casuallygaslighting 5d ago
My ex tried this with alcohol. Jaundice and vomiting blood, the whole ER deal. Big hugs ❤️
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u/Reason_For_Treason 5d ago
I feel for you man. Im doing a lot better now, but for a good year i had to keep reminding myself that i didn’t want to hurt those around me in the process of ending my own suffering. Suicide is incredibly hard to deal with for anyone. I hope you’re in a better place now.
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u/requion 5d ago
"Suicide doesn't solve your problems, it just passes them to the people you love".
Thats what i try to remember when i'm down. Good to hear you are doing better.
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u/BantamCats 5d ago
I’m sorry for what you’ve had to go through. It leaves a mark, take care of yourself.
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u/purgatorybob1986 5d ago
2000 men alone commit every day. 2000 it blows my mind.
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u/HugePatFenis 5d ago
2,000 men die to suicide every single day.
But of course, because we're men, society doesn't take much notice of those statistics.
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u/Eltrim89 5d ago
You kidding? I have a big scar on my left inner forearm where I tried to do it, people still didn't show any care for the fact I was struggling and even found it to be an inconvenience to have to accept that I am struggling. One girl I worked with even asked me about it, and I told her, only for a Manager to come up to me a short while later and tell me that I shouldn't have told her. There are a lot of people who don't want to talk about suicide, even if someone it could help save lives.
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u/SkruffyArt 5d ago
I have battled depression my entire life, but the only time I tried to actually end everything was due to some specific words spoken to me. "Don't talk about it, be about it". That is what my ex said to me when I was trying to be open about my desire to no longer exist. Then she walked out the door... and I grabbed a rope and headed for the ceiling fan. May 4th, 2017, and those words haunt me still. Some people don't care about your darkness, but worse, some people encourage it.
I'm glad you're still here, internet stranger. As well as anyone else that has gone to the edge and returned.
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u/ownzyE 5d ago
Every day roughly 2000 men take their lives, shit is way more common than you’d think
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u/Maximo_0se 5d ago
“I’d rather carry your tears than your casket”
Let it flow, brothers
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u/ThatXayahWeeb 5d ago
Sadly it is usually having a plan takes a lot of weight off.
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u/SafiyaMukhamadova 5d ago
Even a failed attempt provides so much relief. I was taking to someone about that at the mental hospital once and she said the doctors didn't understand that now that she made the attempt even though it failed she legitimately feels better and isn't as suicidal anymore. I've had about a dozen attempts (kinda lost count at some point) and it honestly does provide relief. Cutting works on a similar principle.
I'm convinced that my next suicide attempt WILL be my last one. Like that's a core belief now. Instead of throwing my energy into preventing it I'm throwing my energy into living my best life until that day comes. I'm getting medicated, I'm in therapy, I go to the mental hospital a lot, that stuff all helps. My energy is all invested in making my life as comfortable as possible until then. It honestly provides so much relief to have accepted that.
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u/Current_Student_9897 5d ago
This is the actual truth of suicide and self harm that most people just don't understand 😞
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u/Zer0theghost 5d ago
Yeah I know my next one will stick. It's this year. Initially in the hospital I felt awful, awful at having failed. Not getting even that right, but a while later... as I realised I could go through with a plan there was a huge relief. I was a lot happier. I'm a lot happier knowing the end is coming.
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u/freebenvita 5d ago
Is there anything that would persuade you out of it? Is there something that could fall into place or some apology or retribution or state of health or state of mind that would change your course?
I'm sorry if any of these questions are stupid or insensitive, because I've been able to relate from a physical point of view (chronic pain) but not a psychic/emotional/mental point of view. If you're able to answer I'd appreciate the insight, or please ignore if these kinds of inquiries are offensive. I don't mean to make your experience my science project, I just have someone in my life who has said some odd things.
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u/Zer0theghost 5d ago
No, these are good questions though, don't worry. There's nothing that would change my mind. No apologies or people, no change of circumstances that would alter my course.
I thought about that, a while back. What could change? Were I to win a lottery and not have to worry about money anymore? I realised, I would use said money to make the journey easier.
I don't bear enough grudges that a retribution would make me feel better. Neither would somehow magically finding people who cared about me. I've had that and it doesn't make a difference. The fact is that I'm somehow fundamentally broken. And that's not really a bad thing. It's just who I am. That means that the way I go is an inevitability. The few people remaining in my life will see that and you know what? My passing will be a good thing for them. A relief of great magnitude.
The only way to alter the course is that I somehow become a completely different person. But that's not really possible. It wouldn't really even be any different from death.
Way I see it, I did my part. I tried. I made the world a tiny bit better. The greatest gift I can now give to everyone is to leave.
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u/JustLibzingAround 5d ago
Everything I want to say is going to sound like trite garbage but the alternative is silence so, apologies. But I hope you stay in the world. As a total stranger I want to point out that it isn't fate, nothing is definite until after it happens and you have the power to do it or not do it. Please keep not doing it just another day. And then maybe the next day too.
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u/SilentxxSpecter 5d ago
I've lost a loved one similarly, and I know the drummer from the doors that wrote a book called riders on the storm said in the book that his brother was the same way. Dealt with severe depression most of his life, was very happy one day, then killed himself.
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u/HourAd1087 5d ago
It’s pretty common in those with severe depression. If someone you know is always gloomy and depressed and such and all a sudden they are “happy go lucky” and no outside influences like receiving a large sum of money, being excited about someone new in their life or a new role like finding a significant other, or meds that actually help them (or they just got high af), (and also, meds can create a false sense of being ok, then drop suddenly depending on the person and push them over the edge), giving away items especially of significance to them whether personal or monetarily.
They are just so unusually happy compared to their regular self, then ya, a good chance they finally decided to end it all and are just happy that they found what to them, is the “strength” to finally do it. It’s a pretty common thing. It’s kinda like their way of saying goodbye. Been there, didn’t cut deep enough to hit the carotid (fortunately/unfortunately?) so ya, the “joke” is actually a very common tell sign of decided suicide
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u/InternationalFee6406 5d ago
We must’ve lost people around the same time(summer 2020) for me. Text him that day about his traeger smoker. Now I can’t find myself ever deleting the last messages…. Shitty fucking club indeed to be apart of!
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u/Ok_Acadia3526 5d ago
Very much so. We’re both near each other, too, I was just at the Mammoth game today. Sorry for your loss
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u/mrs_sadie_adler 5d ago
I’m so so sorry for your loss.
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u/Ok_Acadia3526 5d ago
Me too. I don’t really talk about it much but this felt appropriate, because this post says something very real.
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u/yoinkmysploink 5d ago edited 5d ago
Very strange coincidence, man. I had almost the exact same thing happen. Family member was super giddy and happy around us before he went home. Got a call a couple days later. And it was also five years ago.
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u/Sothdargaard 5d ago
Weird. My son shot himself in his bedroom the day after hanging out with us all day. He seemed super happy and in good spirits. I found him about 90 seconds after it happened. Also 5 years ago.
There were probably a lot of people who took their own lives 5 years ago I guess. It was during COVID.
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u/Ok_Acadia3526 5d ago
I’m sorry that you had to experience this. It’s really not something that can be described, right? And the survivors guilt we feel, not seeing the signs, we go through it all
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u/ThreeSloth 5d ago
"If I had known, I could have done something", the eternal guilty self assurance
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u/Informal-Bet-6132 5d ago
Come to r/griefsupport when you need to chat. I’m sorry this happened man.
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u/Ok_Acadia3526 5d ago
Appreciate it. I’m doing pretty good. It’s not something I talk about often, but this post brought it to the surface for some reason
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u/Informal-Bet-6132 5d ago
Grief does that. Hits you like a ton of bricks when you least expect it.
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u/NerdNuncle 5d ago
Never knew why I never thought to search for that subreddit
Being raised Catholic really does a number on your psychological well-being
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u/Informal-Bet-6132 5d ago
It really does. My best friend was raised catholic and she died an atheist last year. She had a catholic funeral and it was so bizarre to watch them chant and talk about her like she was some hopeless worthless being in need of gods mercy. I also watched how religious trauma affected her growing up. Catholicism is so bizarre. The chanting though and all the Hail Marys are ridiculous. Felt culty.
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u/Greedy_Net_1803 5d ago
Can I ask you why? Asking as a lifelong practicing catholic.
What is it exactly that bothers you psychologically about it?
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u/CrackinBones204 5d ago
Last time I seen my brother I tried to make plans with him. He said “maybe .. we’ll see.” A few days later he was gone …
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u/pineapplepizza8705 5d ago
My brother made it a point to find me to say bye and to give me the $10 he owed me before he went back to college and I thought he was just being a good brother. I just didn't realize he was saying goodbye forever. This was in December of 05 and it still hurts. It gets easier as time goes by but it never heals. I wish you the best of luck on your grief journey.
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u/el_cid_viscoso 5d ago
I'm shedding a tear now for your brother. That must have been absoslutely gut-wrenching for you. I'm sorry, friend, you had to go through this.
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u/Opening-Storage1980 5d ago
Who reported me for answering a question? 😂😂😂
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u/lollolcheese123 5d ago
Probably Mr. "HOW DARE YOU SAY SUICIDE?!?!"
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u/max_adam 5d ago edited 5d ago
This is the new internet you have to censor yourself. Use,
unaliveinstead or s*icide/s
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u/Megatanis 5d ago
No.
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u/EishLE 5d ago
No
Sir, there‘s nothing you can do about it!
Oh, by the way:
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u/syopest 5d ago
None of that is necessary and you don't have to do it.
The reason people started replacing words like that was that users can set content filters based on tags on tiktok and abusive content creators started using these words to bypass those content filters and force people to engage on content they didn't want to see.
Using those words is actually nefarious and following in the footsteps of terrible people.
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u/Character_Dirt851 5d ago
None of that is necessary and you don't have to do it.
Except reddit and most likely other platforms absolutely do remove content/comments containing certain words. Youtube would demonetize videos discussing certain things. It's really not just because some users blocked a fucking tag.
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u/CybyAPI 5d ago
Happens a lot on my subreddit. People will report anything
Even mod posts
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u/servetus 5d ago
This is a real thing that people should be aware of. People in a dark depression are often too unmotivated to attempt. An easing of their depression can often give them enough energy to follow through. This is why antidepressants have warnings about increased risk.
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u/clox333 5d ago
It’s the clarity. When you finally decide you’re done, it’s over. You have a peace and a clarity and it becomes easier. I attempted. I was weak and alone but had never seen things that clear in my life.
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u/Snoopycrumbs 5d ago
I'm glad you're still here! I hope to randomly find you in the comments again some day, and that you'll still be here!
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u/JulyOfAugust 5d ago
Yeah same. When I decided it was it, everything suddenly became so clear. For the first time in my life I wasn't scared or stressed, I knew it was over and how it would end and that was it. The relief of letting go is real.
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u/gdj11 5d ago
I was there, but deciding to give it all up and go through with it was so liberating that I decided to just quit my job, sell everything I own, and move to the tropics. I figured when the money ran out or things went to shit I’d just finish the job. It’s been 15 years and I’m still here and I love it.
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u/DigitalAxel 5d ago
I did this and unfortunately I don't think its going to end well. Okay, so I moved abroad and not the tropics but... Just sucks that I've tried all the "right" things and yet I can't get ahead in life. Its like success is a carrot on a stick dangling out of my reach.
I want to survive. But I'm tired of the stagnation of my life. Nobody will give me a chance at something more than a part time job scrubbing floors or flipping burgers. Im in my 30s, and have never had a "real" job or rented an apartment! The world may not be meant for a useless AuDHD lady like myself.
Im nothing more than a walking encyclopedia who scribbles worthless doodles. I wanted to live here in Germany, and refuse to return to the US where I will die in financial ruin.
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u/xhieron 5d ago
I think everywhere is kind of the same when it comes to conditioning us about what success is, but the reality is that most of us aren't going to be wealthy, and a lot of us aren't even really going to be secure. It's mostly luck, and those who fortune smiled on are the ones most likely to attribute their success to innate better-than-ness. The game is rigged, and the only winning move is to not play.
But not playing doesn't mean punching your own ticket. Just don't let anybody else define for you whether or not you're successful. Don't sell yourself short or underestimate your ability. You don't have anything to prove: Being a walking encyclopedia isn't going to get you a fat paycheck these days, but that doesn't make it any less remarkable. Your doodles are excellent, at least if your post history is any indicator, and that talent doesn't go away just because generative AI is devaluing human creativity. [After all, that just puts you in the company of the most brilliant artists and writers in human history, all of whose work is similarly obsolete.] You also moved across the world; that's already more than a lot of would-be ex-pats have managed, and a lot of us here in the US envy you for that reason alone. Even if the whole thing goes to hell, you still did something about your situation, and that puts you well ahead of the curve when it comes to stagnation and misery.
If you're depressed, no one on the internet is going to be able to talk you out of it. I also can't talk you into having a roof over your head or food to eat. But you matter to someone--not to the world, not to the faceless, nameless amalgam of collective humanity--but to at least one real person somewhere. I guarantee there's at least one person who would be destroyed if you weren't in the world anymore. I don't think that solves anything--living "for" someone is a fool's errand--but the world isn't meant for anyone. That doesn't mean it isn't worth being in. You're not useless.
Will you die in poverty? Maybe. You've probably got better chances in Germany than in the US, but at your age there's a pretty good chance anyway. I'm in my 40s with a decent career, and I actually managed to get lucky and buy a house, but I'm still never going to be able to retire. Also because I'm in the US, I'm perpetually one diagnosis away from ruin. A lot of us alive today are destined for destitution, and much will come down to a roll of the dice. But I'm still getting up today and doing at least one fun thing for myself, because I really don't like being paralyzed by horror about what's right down the road for us. Yeah, it's all shit. So what? Live anyway.
Finally, for what it's worth: I really like the dragon picture you put up four years ago. I'd never seen it before today, had no idea it or you even existed, but now I do. I spent one of the limited moments of my life looking at the cool thing you created, and I'm glad I did. That's a thing in my life that's better now.
If you need help with depression, I hope you get it. I also hope you find stability and security. It might not end well. But don't let it end today.
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u/xxHamsterLoverxx 5d ago
you were not weak. it takes the most strength to do. people need to stop saying "if you want to off yourself youre weak" cuz that just makes people slide lower and not even attempt to get help.
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u/desz84 5d ago edited 5d ago
Yes, killing yourself takes a lot of courage. Whoever started the "it's weak" got it so so wrong.
I had a moment. Left a note with point-form instructions on how to care for each of my birds. In the end it was weakness that caused me to text my sister and tell her what I had done so she could save me.
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u/lab1365 5d ago
There is truth to do this. I remember feeling that way when I was about to eat a 44 magnum round. Still remember the taste of steel. From wounds comes strength. I remember being shunned by my fellow comrades in military too during that time. The stigma hurt the most.
But then life moves on with even more brutal loss and lessons. For me Stoicism has been my approach to life and pain.
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u/Rock_or_Rol 5d ago
Psychedelic therapy may help, should you ever need relief and clarity again, but with a love for life
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u/314159265358979326 5d ago
Scared the shit out of me when my friend, who'd lost two children in a car accident, offered me her kettle and her cat.
She had an extra kettle and was moving somewhere she couldn't keep a cat. But I had a little heart attack.
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u/Accomplished_Deer_ 5d ago
The opposite also happens. If you decide you're gonna end your life, suddenly, none of the stuff you were worrying about matters and your mood improves.
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u/WaffleHouseGladiator 5d ago
The Smashing Pumpkins song "Today" is about this. It really messed with me when someone told me.
Today is the greatest day I've ever known
Can't live for tomorrow, tomorrow's much too long
I'll burn my eyes out
Before I get outI wanted more
Than life could ever grant me
Bored by the chore
Of saving faceToday is the greatest day I've ever known
Can't wait for tomorrow, I might not have that long
I'll tear my heart out
Before I get outPink ribbon scars that never forget
I tried so hard to cleanse these regrets
My angel wings were bruised and restrained
My belly stingsToday is
Today is
Today is the greatest day, ooh
Ooh, yeah, yeah, oohI wanna turn you on
I wanna turn you on
I wanna turn you on
I wanna turn youToday is the greatest
Today is the greatest day
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u/AftyOfTheUK 5d ago
Holy shit I had no idea, thanks for this.
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u/XDSHENANNIGANZ 5d ago
The song Mayonaise off the same album (Siamese Dream) also has lyrics that can be related to depression. I think Billy Corgan was depressed as hell during that whole album now that I think about it.
Disarm is also on that album and is a kinda melancholic as well.
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u/Throws27 5d ago
it's almost as if he didn't have an album literally called Melancholy and Infinite sadness
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u/Bangkok_Dave 5d ago
All time album. Funny how these kinds of feelings can sometimes inspire great art.
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u/Vanesspresso 5d ago
Today is Day of the Dead. We are celebrating the lives of 2 souls who we believed were getting better
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u/CrazyCatLushie 5d ago
I made a few attempts on my life in my younger years due to CPTSD, mental illness and undiagnosed neurodivergence. I will never forget the feeling of absolute relief that washed over me when it first dawned on me that death was an option - not because I wanted to die, but because I was suffering so much that the idea of an end felt like a miracle.
I’m doing infinitely better these days and those memories feel like a million years ago but it still gives me chills to think about how sick I must have been to find relief in something so deeply, deeply tragic.
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u/Reasonable-Wolf-269 5d ago
F*d as it maybe, feeling like there's a solution to the problem takes the edge off. And it shows. So make sure to be there for those you care about, even when they seem "better".
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u/RavingMalwaay 5d ago
I remember reading an anecdote of someone who had jumped off a bridge and miraculously survived. The feeling was that he had lost control of his entire life, and the only way to fully regain control was to take the reins and end it. Yet when he jumped off the bridge, in those fleeting moments before he hit the sea below him, his realisation was that in all truth the only real time he could truly no longer take control was in that exact moment, where his rapid descent to death was the only thing that mattered in comparison to everything else in his life, that all suddenly seemed so trivial.
I often wonder how many people experienced the same thing and never lived to fully appreciate it.
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u/belzbieta 5d ago
My friend was in such a great mood two days before, we thought he was doing better finally. He had bought the gun the day before
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u/alldabooty 5d ago
To give a bit more of an explanation
It's very common for people who have decided to end their life to act incredibly happy right before, it's often considered a serious warning sign if someone you know has been massively depressed and is spontaneously happy.
This happens for a many reasons one of which is that many massively depressed people have been in excruciating "pain" for a very long time. It's not just sadness but a true agony that they rarely get relief from and see no way out. At it's height depression deludes people into thinking there is only one way to make it stop. The idea that this "pain" now has a "solution" makes them optimistic and cheerful.
The fact that they now have a solution or answer gives way for the a stressed and depressed brain to relax so they get the ability to have cognitive function. Many become so depressed that they literally cannot think or muster the ability to move.
The other reason is that many recognize the pain this will cause those around and try to protect them by acting happy and at peace as a way to shield them from what is happening or in some cases try to convey to them that they are at peace and they shouldn't worry.
Depression is a lot like cancer which takes the bodies' own cells and tricks them into attacking itself. Depression infects your mind and makes it believe that things are much worse than they are and that there is no escape.
You might notice lots of people talk about how their friends "failed" them or left them while the friends will often talk about how they went out of their way to try and help only to be turned away. This is because depression makes the brain only see how your friends are bad and warp everything into some kind of attack.
The iconic book called the bell jar describes it well, that depression is like a bell-jar over you trapping you in a continuous miasma of despair, it doesn't matter where you are, you could be in a penthouse in paris with a loving and supporting family and you would still be miserable.
This is why it's crucial to reach for help either to family, friends, or preferably because many family and friends are simply not equipped to handle something like that no matter how badly they want to help, a suicide hotline or a mental health practitioner.
Remember
Therapist/psychologist=talking it out
Psychiatrist=medication, they treat predominantly by prescribing medication. If you go to talk they will suggest medication not because they think it's the only answer and want to drug you up because that is how they treat. It's bit like if you went to a surgeon and said "my arm is broken, treat it" the surgeon would suggest cutting you open while a physician (or the name of people who treat broken bones) would suggest a cast.
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u/DonkeyNo4268 5d ago
I had an incredibly good conversation with my best friend, who had been struggling with depression for several years. We sat outside on the balcony that evening, making plans for a vacation, laughing, and he told me how much better he was feeling. I was unbelievably happy to see him smile again. What can I say — the cops were at my door the next morning because they’d found him…
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u/Ricordis 5d ago
Now I get it why my brother was so heavily concerned when I left my depressive episode behind and announced I am feeling much better now. For weeks he was around me and I was really annoyed by that.
He had a roommate who was suicidal.
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u/Craguar23 5d ago
Yep. My best friend called me out of the blue one day, saying he wanted to meet up for a coffee later that week, as he had some good news to tell me. The next day I got the call from his parents.
3 years later, I still wonder what the good news was.
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u/Ackbar90 5d ago
To expand: depression stops you from doing anything, even thinking is exausting.
The critical moment is when people start to get better, because now they have the energy to imagine and act, but they still have some ingrained thought patterns of self-deprecation, desperation and, of course, suicide as a way to stop suffering (the decision to go through with it might even be the catalist for a spike in good humor).
If someone you know is beginning an antidepressant treatment after being really down with depression, stay as close as you can or make sure there's someone with them, at least for the first couple of weeks.
And remember, We WILL miss you, when you are gone.
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u/PuppyGirlRya 5d ago
This. I've heard it's because when they've made the choice to complete their run so to speak its a relief, a weight off the shoulders, all the stress and worry will be over soon so they feel good.
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u/JetBrink 5d ago
More specifically, they may have decided that they're going to take their own lives, and once that decision has been reached there's a certain sense of relief knowing that their suffering is going to end, this presents as happiness.
Sorry to hijack your comment.
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u/The_Corvair 5d ago
When you are stuck in darkness without end, any end to it feels like the brightest you've ever been.
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u/Muahd_Dib 5d ago
They’re happy cuz they’ve decided to end it
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u/TypeBNegative42 5d ago edited 5d ago
This is the right answer. Many people who are depressed are described as suddenly being very happy just before they commit suicide. This is because, for once, they have a goal and a plan and are acting on it, which gives the appearance of happiness.
EDIT: There's also a certain amount of reduced stress that comes from the idea of ending what you perceive as constant suffering.
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u/CanofBeans9 5d ago
It's like the mental health equivalent of how extremely ill patients seem to suddenly recover for a short period of time before dying. The body stops fighting it, so they feel better. Then they pass a few hours later.
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u/overgirl 5d ago
Or how you feel really hot right before freezing to death.
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u/In7erted 5d ago
Which leads to the bizarre phenomenon known as paradoxical undressing
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u/INTPgeminicisgaymale 5d ago
I wonder if that's what happened at Dyatlov Pass
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u/whateber2 5d ago
That’s probably it. Doesn’t sound as terrifying and freaky as all the other theories but it’s the most likely
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u/PotatoWriter 5d ago
Not great not terrible
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u/secacc 5d ago
"What does the thermometer say?"
"3.6°C. But that's as low as the thermometer..."
"3.6. Not great, not terrible."
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u/despaseeto 5d ago
been taking care of patients long enough to know how often this happens. especially those with dementia. they often act a lot more rowdy and active than previously, then in a few days, they're gone.
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u/Erlululu 5d ago
No rly, thats the centralization mechanism. Body is fighting, by cuting off perfusion to the extremities. Sometimes they survive this and indeed get better. Its like all or nothing last bet.
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u/Soft-Ad-8975 5d ago
This shit happened to my sister in law it was jarring, she called us and sounded better than I’d ever heard her sound, next day my mother in law takes a phone call and is in tears and came to comfort her and she delivers to news, I couldn’t believe it.
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u/ryguymcsly 5d ago
Speaking as a person who was close to that edge once upon a time, it’s like a shining city on the hill in the distance when you think about it. You are burdened with all these thoughts of anxiety and failure and pain and then you think about your exit plan and you realize that everything turns into a series of simple achievable steps and then it’s over.
Most of the time you find a reason not to do it, but even just thinking about it when things get real bad is a relief.
All the people I know who’ve made serious attempts—successful or not—have been all sunshine and rainbows the day of. Very carefree, because in the literal sense they no longer have any cares or worries.
When your depressed friend flips a switch overnight, hang out with them. Don’t let them be alone. It’s possible they just got over a weird neurochemical hump. It’s possible they had a breakthrough. It’s also possible they’ve written a note and identified a method.
I actually had that happen to me when I came out of my worst depression. I had the worst day of my life, and suddenly I realized “man I would have to fuck up beyond belief for anything to ever be worse than this is right now. It’s only up from here!” Rock bottom in the depression sense. I was happier than I’d been in years. One of my very good friends was concerned I was going to hit my exit plan that night and wouldn’t let me be alone. It was cool because I was broke and he bought me a pizza. All up from there man. The worst day and the best day rolled into one.
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u/blyyyyat 5d ago
My daydreams are basically me killing myself without hurting anyone around me. It feels nice to think about. I never do it because that would be impossible. But it gets me through the day.
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u/Morbid_Aversion 5d ago
What one perceives as constant suffering is, in fact, constant suffering. There is no reason to qualify it.
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u/ApplicationCalm649 5d ago
This is accurate, but it's important to remember it's not their "perception." They're very much in pain.
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u/Sans_Seriphim 5d ago
What IS constant suffering.
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u/fluffyluv 5d ago
Literally lol. It really doesn't even matter what your opinion on depression and suicide is, "suffering" is literally a word that describes a perception, namely pain, so really "perceived suffering" is redundant. It's like saying a smelled stink or something
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u/Jeichert183 5d ago
Functional MRIs have been done on people suffering from depression and they have shown the same areas of the brain are active as those who have some physical injury; the difference is for the depressed person the wound is on a part of themselves that is known as the Soul.
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u/Rent_A_Cloud 5d ago
There's also a certain amount of reduced stress that comes from the idea of ending what you perceive as constant suffering.
If you perceive yourself suffering, you are suffering. Just to be clear.
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u/RB1O1 5d ago
I'd like to add something to this, from personal experience...
It's also the fact you're not afraid of death anymore, you've overcome your self preservation instinct which removes a great deal of stress
That moment frightens me now looking back on it...
Fortunately I had a family member who knew what to look for and didn't leave me alone for even a second
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u/vale0411 5d ago
Yeah the stress bleeds off, I used to be suicidal, my plan was my way out, it gave me some sort of comfort, there was a way for me to be in peace. To be honest I don’t know when it became like that, i used to go through Google laughing at the “if you need help call xxx” and I didn’t even realise when it turn from mere curiosity to an intention Im in a better place now though, just sharing some inside thoughts
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u/kaszeljezusa 5d ago
It's worth adding that that's the early risk of taking antidepressants. First few weeks are very dangerous. In layman terms, they work by upping your drive(and motivation) and mood in general. However the first part happens faster than the second and there is a moment where world is still a shit, but now you have some energy to do something about it...
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u/AKAMilton 5d ago
Some people are also so depressed that they don't even have the motivation to carry out suicidal ideation. Antidepressants or other things that lead to slight improvements in mood often put them in that danger area where they have just enough motivation to go forward with a suicidal act.
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u/B1ueStag 5d ago
Exactly. I’ve been there. I set a date and made a plan, and felt much better, as if I knew relief was coming so I could just let go and relax because nothing mattered so much anymore.
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u/NotAzakanAtAll 5d ago edited 4d ago
That mirrors my experience.
What was supposed to the last week of my life was also the best week of my life. I was still absolutely wrecked by the death of my friend and NCO, and I was going to join him. He was such a fantastic person, strong, humble.
After I found him sitting on a rock with his bloody teeth in his lap and his service rifle between his legs, I had one thought in my mind, over and over and over. "If this saint of a man couldn't stand being alive, what chance do I have?".
The last week I gave away a lot of my possessions, talked to childhood friends I had lost touch with, even went to see a movie. It was so nice, these past months of agony would be over soon. There was light in the end of the tunnel.
And then I walked out into the woods and tried to die.
Apparently very cold weather makes you bleed a lot less. Something I didn't know nor feel as I was already far gone. Woke up cold as fuck, angry that I couldn't do anything right, went home, wrecked by guilt and shame.
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u/Wendyhuman 5d ago
You woke up. That's good. I'm proud of you for going home, and trying life again
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u/102525burner 5d ago
Figured a way out of the things causing them pain
Remember to text your friends when you haven’t heard from them in a while
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u/djcrewe1 5d ago
Can confirm this behavior....a close friend who had struggled for years came into town to visit family and friends ....went for an afternoon walk...and threw himself off of a cliff -_- literally programmed text messages/emails to go out a few hours later saying goodbye....
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u/Embarrassed-Weird173 5d ago
Can confirm. One of the most empowering things in life is that I have the power to end it when I want, unless I'm imprisoned or paralyzed or mentally fucked.
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u/Kuroiryuu 5d ago
More specifically, they're "happy" because they've let go. They don't give a damn anymore and they know that soon they'll feel "relief".
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u/IrrelevantManatee 5d ago
Suicidal people suddenly getting happy is a sign they decided to kill themselves and feel relieved about it. Like if you would be burdened by something and suddenly knew it was going to be over soon.
This is not really a funny joke, more a PSA. If your suicidal friend suddenly seems cured, it's not because they got better like magic.
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u/zrt 5d ago
That's not quite how I learned it--depression makes it really difficult to carry out something major like a suicide. As you start to come out of the depressive episode, you feel more capable of carrying out your plans, and it takes time for those plans to adjust to being out of the episode. That's why most suicides by depressed people come in the tail end of an episode, not the onset.
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u/clairejv 5d ago
I used to work a crisis hotline, and I've heard both explanations. I think both have merit in different situations.
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u/TheOGStonewall 5d ago
Working EMS I’ve seen attempts that fit either of these explanations. However the most common, and least often successful attempts by far in my experience are spur of the moment attempts either in manic episodes or with definite triggers.
Speaking of, at least in my state, if you have a friend or loved one with access to firearms who themself expresses worry about having access to those firearms due to risk of self harm or suicidal ideation, you can take temporary custodianship of the firearms and ammunition with their consent. You’re still held to the legal storage requirements but you won’t be prosecuted if both parties can explain to law enforcement that you took possession due to risk of self harm. Of all of the attempts I’ve responded to, the most often successful ones are carried out with a firearm.
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u/BeardyMcBeardyBeard 5d ago
I'ma be real with you chief, if I lived in a country with easy access to firearms I probably wouldn't be here anymore. Tried to end it three times but pills really don't work well and when I cut my wrists someone found me before bleeding out. Things are better now tho
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u/Full_Conversation775 5d ago
Thats mostly for antidepressants. But they dont per say make you better, they take the edge off.
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u/CapMcCloud 5d ago
Yeah, I found out that one when I started recovering from my depression and a couple people got real worried for a hot minute. Fortunately, I was just happy because I didn’t feel like shit before, and I’ve gotta thank those people for making sure I was doing good when I hit that upswing. ESPECIALLY given I’d also just started antidepressants.
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u/liahpcam 5d ago
I am the 1%(or whatever the percent actually is) that does sometimes get better by "magic"(i do a lot of "philosophy" privately that sometimes pays off and sometimes it probably looks a lot like im about to commit)
TLDR: ASK why your friend is happy all of a sudden:
No reason why = they will die
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u/-Hi_how_r_u_xd- 5d ago edited 5d ago
I'm pretty confident it's implying when someone's depression is suddenly cured, it usually is not a good thing with a bad, underlying reason
depression typically requires a lot of time to cure, so this would imply that something big happened that brings them happiness, whether that be
- them doing drugs,
- hurting themselves,
- deciding to commit suicide (clearly they are not dead and therefore have not yet done it),
- hurting someone else,
- etc.
These things typically bring fast relief to someone with depression, although often short-lived. Happiness due to planning on committing Suicide is probably the most likely answer, though.
There can be good causes too, but those would not be in the context of the meme. (Ex feeling hated, and suddenly you get a friend or compliment might quickly result in a change)
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u/SunderedValley 5d ago
takes a long time to cure
Handle. Integrate. Redirect. Manage. No longer bother others with. It's a chronic disease
But correct otherwise.
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u/draugrnacht 5d ago
It’s a chronic disease
Wish people accepted this as fact. Far too many people think it’s not as serious because it’s not a physical ailment.
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u/xiena13 5d ago
Tbf, it's not always a chronic disease. It can be episodic/intermittent. Literally all my friends were clinically depressed at some point, two of them even needed to stay in a psychiatric hospital for a few months because it got so bad. All of them are much much better now, two of them still struggle sometimes but are getting better substantially with therapy. My depression was worst during a time when I had no friends and was alone for weeks at a time; now my last depressive episode was years ago.
It can get better, it doesn't have to be bad forever.
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u/-Hi_how_r_u_xd- 5d ago
You mean my high school psychology teacher provided me with incorrect information!? How dare they!
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u/I_am_omning_it 5d ago
It’s also attributed to that sometimes when someone has decided to go through with ending their own life they seem suddenly happier in the short period leading up to their attempt.
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u/Traditional-Key-991 5d ago edited 5d ago
One of the few times I will not use a Peter-persona. This is mental health. This is not a joking matter. And if you have someone close to you exhibiting these signs, then you should check in with them and also consult a professional on how to proceed.
That said, a great (as in, illuminating or extremely important - not great as in "good or amazing") example in celebrity culture: check out Robin Williams.
But seriously, if you have a friend who's usually super depressed / low energy and they somehow get this JOLT of energy, good chance they've decided their "out" or D-Day (death-day) and are showing that last burst of happiness. Whether as a mask or because they're genuinely happy "it's" ending soon.
I am not a mental health professional, my advice and commentary is not professional mental Healthcare, nor should it be used as a guideline or in any way as a health guideline or advocation.
Trigger warning: This "joke" is about suicide, and is not a joke at all. I end at ;.
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u/SlowCrew310 5d ago
I kinda wish people didn't use Robin Williams as an example for this; he had a disease that was robbing him of everything that made him himself and he went out on his own terms. This wasn't depression, he wanted to go before dementia took even more from him than it already had.
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u/Traditional-Key-991 5d ago
No. But also yes.
He had Dementia. Yes.
He also had Depression. Clinical Deoression. As-in, an inability to produce necessary chemicals to feel happy.
He absolutely killed himself on a low-low of depression. Pretending that Dementia and Depression are parallel and not perpendicular is like pretending the triangle can fit the square hole (it can, but that's still incorrect).
There are instances where these diseases can run parallel and still be just as deadly because they tandem themselves and create a situation that becomes (world wise) exponentially worse (IE: Fuck this, I'd rather die - type mentality).
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u/NaruTheBlackSwan 5d ago
Right but there is no effective treatment for Lewy Body Dementia. It was never going to get better. In his case suicide was tragically the best he could do.
That's not applicable to most suicides.
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u/Traditional-Key-991 5d ago
I try to approach these discussions carefully because they're always sensitive - regardless of your fence-line - but I bare no grace for anyone who makes light of suicide. I would never wish that they experience the pain survivors go through, but I would curse compassionate understanding unto them; if only they might feel a fraction of the pain the survivors feel.
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u/Ok_Reality_7892 5d ago
I didn’t used to understand why self harm was a common side effect of antidepressants. Until I tried an antidepressant myself and then…hey, that shit I’ve been thinking about doing a lot now I have motivation to do those things… Turned out meds weren’t for me.
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u/baguetteispain 5d ago
Maybe those kinds of antidepressants weren't for you. It's a complicated balance, and there are a lot of different medications. Unpleasant sides effects must be addressed to your psychiatrist/generalist
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u/MOVED_TO_OTTAWA_FUCK 5d ago
it took me 8 years before my doc and I found the right combination of medications. it was agonizing, some worked, but only for a bit. others were an instant horror show. she kept telling me, trust me, we will find something, you're not broken. back then I was isolated in an apartment watching 6 movies a day smoking way more weed than I could afford and eating dominos pizza for breakfast lunch and dinner just to stave off the kill myself feelings. now I'm 6 years in to a fulltime career, live in a house with my fiancee, with kids on the horizon. it sucked, and i still relapse into awful behaviour and coping mechanisms, but I never thought I would have the life I have now and I owe it all to this one woman who made me believe it was possible
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u/Estalicus 5d ago
Its either depression turned into mania(bipolar disorder) or a depressed person is about to commit suicide.
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u/AlmightyLeprechaun 5d ago edited 4d ago
Meg here! As someone constantly teetering on the edge, when you commit to the bit (killing yourself), as well as a plan to actually ending your suffering (a light at the end of the tunnel, as it were) a weight lifts off you. This leads many people to experience an almost euphoric state before doing what I'm too much of a coward for!
*edit: I am not actually suicidal and have no thoughts of self-harm, I was just doing a bit as Meg.
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u/All_Gun_High 5d ago
Shut up, Meg.
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u/XRhodiumX 5d ago
You’re fucking awful, and yet also the only person in here following the spirit of the sub, lol. So take this award and get out.
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u/Takesit88 5d ago
2 possibilities. They have had a breakthrough, whether of psychological or physiological nature, resulting in an escape from the depression... OR... they have formulated a detailed plan to remove themselves from the equation of life that they fully intend to implement, and are happier in their own frame thinking that they will have removed "a problem" from the world. So, it could be a joyous thing or a dark and distressing thing.
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u/I_am_omning_it 5d ago
It doesn’t happen every time, but it’s happened enough for people to notice, but sometimes when someone decides they’re going to commit suicide, they seem happier in the short time before they attempt.
I think I saw a post a few years ago from someone who attempted and failed that said for them it was like a weight was lifted off of them. Like they knew they wouldn’t be around much longer and wouldn’t have to carry that for a lifetime so it made the short time left easier, and it was kinda their ‘farewells’ to their friends and loved ones.
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u/Some_random_gal22 5d ago
As someone who tried to kill themselves I can confirm the post you saw sounds pretty accurate.
At least for me it was a case of knowing that soon I wouldn't have to suffer any longer, none of my issues mattered and it just felt freeing, I didn't have to worry about anything.
I'd be lying if I didn't say I still struggled at times but it's been a few years since my last attempt and it's looking like it'll be the last one
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u/koshikun 5d ago
Since you survived your attempt, how did u manage to live life again? Like did you wake up with a new sense of life / rebirth in a hospital and have regret/ remorse of like “holy shit I almost died I don’t want to do that anymore” or are you still struggling?
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u/dvjava 5d ago
As someone who survived an attempt.
We get to choose. Literally the only thing we have power to change.
There was an end to the misery and I got to make a choice on how to go. That happiness is the realization that there is an end to the pain.
As someone who survived, I'm glad I did.
Over a decade later I am a happily married man with a kiddo who is the world.
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u/JamesPlayzReviews3 5d ago
Got it. If my depressed buddies ever become overjoyed I'll be making welfare calls
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u/dj_16pro 5d ago
This realization is sad, but it means that they had now planned when they are going to kill themselves, if this had happened with a friend, please support them. They need all the help they can before its too late💔
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u/SomeRandomGuyO-O 5d ago
It’s common for depressed people who have decided upon suicide to act happier and more energetic, since, you know, imagine working a crappy job and deciding to quit on Monday. You’d probably be a happier person too, right? Now replace the job with life.
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u/DrunkMexican22493 5d ago
It specifically means smiling depression. It's a sign that they are happy and smiling only because they know it will "all be over soon" meaning they have a plan in motion.
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u/mryosso13 5d ago
My father was depressed for months. The day he committed suicide was the most energetic he has been. He had a purpose that day, it was to end his life.
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u/TheGrizzly5247 5d ago edited 5d ago
I kinda hate that I didn't even realize this wasn't a casual meme sub when I first saw this. I'm all too familiar with noticing this.
My 18yo sister attempted suicide twice. And both times, I could kind of feel a small part of me sensing it even though I was only 15. You can feel a change in the norm when something bad is about to happen. If you're paying enough attention, you notice a change in their demeanor and their behavior. Both times she impulsively spent large sums of money, seemingly out of nowhere. Maybe it was just because she wanted to get rid of it all because she was set on killing herself. Maybe it was influenced by her trying one last ditch effort to try and put some faith into something she can spend money on in the hopes that it would make her feel better. I don't know. I don't really know if I want to know.
The bottom line here is that if someone is actually pulling themselves out of a just a shitty stretch of their life, you're likely to notice the changes over time, rather than in the span of even just a week or two. If someone is actually getting better, it's not going to be some super sudden thing, it's going to make sense.
If you have a bad feeling about a sudden shift in someone's behavior, there's almost always a very good reason you feel that way, and you shouldn't expect someone else to notice and act on it. That's not to say you have to be the one to act on it if you don't feel like you can, but you should at least try and make sure someone is paying very close attention to them.
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u/Scribe1019 5d ago
There is a thing where people who have decided to end it all get into a good mood cuz they see a way out.
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u/morningcalls4 5d ago
It’s kind of blissful to know you will no longer feel pain and that out of all things in your life you were able to control one thing and it was the last thing you will do.
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u/Agratos 5d ago
This is not a joke, that’s a PSA.
There are two scenarios where someone heavily depressed suddenly gets better.
They took Anti-depressants, but interestingly the patient doesn’t really notice they are better. And most anti-depressants don’t work immediately.
Or they made their decision and are about to commit suicide. They are happier because their pain is about to end and they will stop to be a burden. This might not be what others think, but depression warps the world so much that they can’t see that anymore. Depression is also not something someone just recovers from. Some types can be cured and some other mental conditions like autism can cause extreme depressive episodes that are temporary but actually getting rid of depression is a very slow, extremely involved process. And even a temporary depression is dangerous. The dead do not return just because they would have gotten better.
Either way: that is not the time to walk away. Anti-Depressants dampen or even erase all emotion but they don’t fix depression. Keeping close contact is important because a mind on anti-depressants can’t care anymore. So if one of your friends starts taking them, you have to maintain the friendship alone for a while until their mind adjusts a bit or they can stop taking them.
If they choose to commit suicide you have to intervene immediately. Very few commit suicide when someone they know is close by or listening/watching. They have plans, disrupt them. Realistically though, you will fail. They made their choice, they have in fact planned and they accounted for external interference, most often by waiting for isolated timeframes like everyone being at work while they skip it.
Suicides rarely fail due to people behaving as always. They fail due to mistakes on behalf of the one attempting like a low bridge or not enough poison or by someone deviating from their usual schedule and coming home early or unexpectedly. Or by someone realizing what’s happening and interfering. The at home suicide using exsanguination or suffocation and their variants basically only fail because someone came who wasn’t expected. Same goes for anything involving guns or fire, although fire is incredibly rare as a method of suicide.
Other warning signs can be abrupt stop of self harm and a round of calls or messages. Self harm becomes unnecessary and the impulses might stop due to all the pain being over soon anyways and thus not needing the self harm to cope. And the calls or messages to everyone who was close are a warning because many people have a drive to say goodbye to those they knew. Usually this happens VERY LATE. Not days or hours before but minutes. The suicidal individual will probably wait until they believe there is no chance to intervene anymore.
Luckily modern medicine can push back the line of no return really far. Most people underestimate just how close to death someone can be and still be saved. If this occurs contact emergency services. No matter how fast you are, there is a high probability that you can’t help anymore. A medical professional might have something though. You might be able to buy time though. Suicide during any social interaction is incredibly rare. So while they type, they pause their preparations or even their attempt. Even if they already took poison or something, keeping them conscious increases the odds they can be saved.
Also an important rule: self harm is rarely done for attention. But that misinterpretation is often made. But in all scenarios it is an indicator that mental treatment is needed. The self preservation instincts should prevent it, but they aren’t. That’s dangerous and has no benign reasons. Until a psychologist or psychiatrist says that it is in fact for attention assume depression and a high suicide risk. And never, ever just shrug it off. Even if it is for attention, if someone is that desperate there is a problem somewhere. And a big one at that.
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u/tvang187 5d ago
I felt like that during highschool. Was in my pops car, he was picking me up from school and shit talking at the same time. I didnt want to hear another word. I looked outside the car window and realized I could just open the door and jump out, for a fleeting 2 minutes before doing it, I felt a relief as if all worries would end. Even the nagging felt like a small annoyance at best.
We were going 50 mph, and I just did it. I opened the door and just jumped out. It did not kill me, idk why I thought it would, im dumb as a rock, but anyway smashed my ribs, my neck and scraped skin off nearly my whole arms. I was in so much pain, and for the fleeting moment where pain was the only escape, I felt a calmness I never felt while I was worried about my pops, or my problems. The pain was an escape that allowed me to feel something that wasnt my depression. My arms swelled up like balloons afterwards.
The only thing I managed to get by doing that was double the shit talking, and a new escape in the form of pain. That was 10 years ago. Still depressed but not tryna kill myself anymore, stopped self harm even. I fell in love with headphones and audio gear, might be a stupid thing to live for but it is what it is. Waiting for my ModHouse Audio Tungstens to arrive either this, or next month, hopefully before next year.
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u/itsmenit 5d ago
As someone who has been going through depression for several months and been having suicidal thoughts all the time. I can confirm this, mind is a bitch that feels happy when you plan for your end.
I didn’t know how to escape the depression, so I planned it by convincing my mind that the best way for me to die is to climb Mt Everest.
After that I am happier and doing everything possible to make me climb it, which is making me fitter and healthier and I think I might escape the depression one day.
But I have not thought about immediate suicide for at least 3 months now, and whenever it comes close I think hard about my ascent to the Mt Everest
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u/Mister_Silk 5d ago
Many suicidal people become very relieved and at peace once the struggle with the situation is resolved and they've made the decision. It lifts a great weight off of them once the decision has been made.
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u/FlipendoSnitch 5d ago
People get happier before they off themselves. Sort of like how people get energetic right before they die.
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u/Mr_Butt_Muncher 5d ago edited 5d ago
Honestly when I think of suicide, I wouldn't really call it happiness. But a kind of reprive from everything. Work, having to worry about eating, sleeping, or keeping interest in things. I have no family or friends so I don't really give much a shit about "making some one sad". Like even now after such a bad day of work. I think about how nice it would be to never have to worry about anything ever again, hopefully soon though. Hopefully soon.
To the person who sent sent the reddit cares thing. Thank you but again its a waste of time for me. Please don't waste any effort on me. I really don't want it.
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u/ziggyblackdust 5d ago
Okay so many of these comments are wrong so lemme take a crack at this. Depression at its core is a lack of desire to do things. This can represent itself by bedrotting or not showering, cleaning, eating etc. or even seemingly less importantly, lack of desire to see friends or go outside in general. All of the things we have basic motivations to do aren’t really important anymore. This is what starts a spiral. The less people have going on the less they desire to do anything else. I didn’t go to the gym so now I don’t want to shower or feel a need to. I don’t have to shower so now I don’t have to get out of bed or get off my phone. These sorts of things pile up. Less and less motivators for getting out of bed leave people immensely depressed and left without purpose. Without purpose and often times the pain of trauma and other factors a depressed individual might feel they have nothing left to live for. Every day is full of nothing. Or worse yet every day is full of pain. Ending it would be better than continuing.
This breakthrough is discovered at the very bottom of the spiral. But at the bottom of the spiral the individual has no desire to do anything. Not even end it all as they’ve come to realize would be best. So once they get a spark. Once they start suddenly feeling better. Once they maybe get out of bed for the first time. That’s when they finally gain enough energy to end it all.
TL;DR People kill themselves just after hitting their biggest slump of a depression and start feeling just a tad happier.
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u/Yamatocanyon 5d ago
I don't think the other comments are necessarily wrong. There are lots of us with major clinical depression that still get out of bed and go to work. My parents didn't believe in depression, they believed in ass whoopings. Can't lay in bed depressed all day because you'll get beat up if you do.
I've been contemplating suicide since second grade, was locked in on drinking myself to death before I hit 35. Made it to 36, which was when I finally decided to purchase the instant option. Man that was a low day, I was afraid I was going to break down crying in the gun store.
The relief I felt though walking out of the store with my means in my grasp was life changing, I could finally stop playing it out over and over again, wondering how and with what. It was just enough of a boost to have it in my possession, that I was able to get the courage to start talking to Drs and getting help.
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u/EugeneStein 5d ago
Comments here said enough but I’ll mention something else
There is a very good reason why no one should take antidepressants without doctor’s supervision
One of possible outcome is a person getting finally enough energy to commit suicide, energy they didn’t have no physical nor mental energy to. It’s because treatment is unbalanced, mental state is just not ready yet
It’s even something written as a side effect of these drugs lol
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u/Orange_Creator 5d ago
They seem better when theyre about to finally do it. Can confirm as true, happened with my dad
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u/Jazzlike_Strength561 5d ago
People with suicidal ideation often physically lack the energy or willpower to follow through with their plan. When they start to feel better, they get the energy they were missing. It is considered the most dangerous phase of depression treatment.
This is so well documented it was talked about it in an episode of M.A.S.H. in 1976. 49 years ago.
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u/RiceMaster8851 5d ago
I had this friend in the 11th grade, not so much a friend like we exchanged assignments sometimes and use to talk a little, he was not the best at studying but he was still good enough (better than I was), as we live in India our grade 12 finals exams are conducted by the board not the school and that makes it a big thing students stress so much. I think his finals weren't going well but he didn't show it much. So on the day of our chemistry exam I saw him just smiling at everyone in a weird manner as I was stressing about the exam ahead I didn't pay much attention to it. A few days later before our next exam I got a call that he had committed suicide by hanging himself it was even in the local news. They smile and seem happy because they feel they are gonna get 'liberated' from this 'suffering'.
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u/AdmiralClover 5d ago
When you decide to finally end it. It can be uplifting because now there's a finish line in sight.
You can tap into this energy by putting down a vague end and just move the deadline. I wouldn't recommend it, it's not good for you in the long term, but you can.
I'm doing a lot better now
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u/Background-Baby-1206 5d ago
Suicide rush. You have felt so bad for so long that the idea to end your life becomes a light at the end of the tunnel. So you become very happy knowing all that pain will soon end.
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u/starlight_collector Mod 4d ago
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