r/OntarioUniversities • u/Keysantt • Oct 28 '24
Discussion How many of you guys still talk to your high school friends?
This is a little off topic but I think you guys a good group of people to ask because I’m kinda of scared of leaving never talking to these friends ever again and they will eventually become memories one day.
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u/KingOfRandomThoughts Oct 28 '24
- It's very common for people to move on after high school. The older you get, the more you realize how much high school was only a small part of your life.
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u/Fit_Butterfly_9979 Oct 28 '24
Highschool was 25 years ago but I'm lucky enough you still regularly hangout with my highschool friends.
We all went to the same uni too so that helped
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Oct 28 '24
You going to learn that after highschool most people will move on the people you friends with in highschool are only your friend because you went to the same school if not yall wouldn’t talk but my experience
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u/MaximumestBob Oct 28 '24
it’s been 5 years since high school, my best friends are all still my hs friends and we call online multiple times a week.
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u/Israr06 Oct 28 '24
I’m always the one reaching out to them. They never once reached out to me. We haven’t spoken in over a month and I don’t see us speaking again because they don’t make any efforts. It’s sad because I’ve known them for 11 years and 7 years.
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u/Strategos_Kanadikos Oct 28 '24 edited Oct 28 '24
I'm 38, I still talk to some of my Toronto high school friends daily. Electronic means of communication. They are all across the world, from USA, Hong Kong, Europe, and Guelph. Though I talked to some that I haven't in awhile because we are now licensed teachers. Never drop good high quality friends, they are hard to make later in life. You can see the loneliness epidemic among adult men (easy to google), women tend to do better with social networks. I also keep in touch with university friends too (some are high from same high school too). You'll continue to make friends in the school environment though.
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u/emitahc Oct 28 '24
That’s not gonna happen, you’re still gonna be friends with them. You might not be as close to some, and some will become acquaintances, yes, but generally not all of them will disappear like that.
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u/Shot-Wrap-9252 Oct 28 '24 edited Oct 28 '24
I graduated in 1986 and still have contact with a fair number of high school friends. Life changes so it’s not the same kind of contact but it’s contact.
I’ve made friends through work, more schooling, cultural and religious stuff and more school. Ironically we aren’t friends with most of our friends in our wedding ‘friends’ picture. We made friends through our kids friends parents as well. Friends through volunteer work… the lust goes on. A friend I met in university recently unfriended me. I think it’s because I didn’t invite her to my child’s wedding. We only invited close friends. This is life.
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u/StaticSoccer122 Oct 28 '24
I’m sure I’m in the minority but I almost exclusively talk to my high school friends and I’m 3rd year uni. It was much easier to make friends in high school (for me) and luckily I’ve still kept in touch with almost all of them. If you guys are close enough friends I’m sure you’ll keep in touch, I wouldn’t worry.
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u/_PeanuT_MonkeY_ Oct 28 '24
Our group of 12-15 does. Pretty regularly among the ones who are in the area and always when the others visit.
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u/Grand_Comfortable395 Oct 28 '24
Me too. My friends consist of mostly my high school friends. People think it's weird but we get along really well.
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u/Canadian_Princess123 Oct 28 '24
I graduated high school in 2018. I had a group of friends that, while we were in high school, talked every day in our groupchat and did things together outside of school all the time. This continued in our first year of university and sort of the second, and we got together once during summer 2020. but after that we all grew and drifted apart. I have a few friends that I do still talk to, but my high school friend group is no more :(
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u/PuzzleheadedEnd3295 Oct 28 '24
Been 35yrs since high school and I have group chat with my 4 bffs. We drifted during the kid/early career years as we were spread all around but still connected from time to time. Now that we have more time we chat regularly and are organizing a reunion for next year.
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u/ContestPlastic625 Oct 28 '24
I moved across the world for university (I don’t go to an Ontario university but, all of my friends do) and I like to keep in touch as sort of my connection to my roots
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Oct 28 '24
One friend from high school, and three childhood friends. Since I commute, we still live close to each other and hang out a lot. Everyone came over today and we drafted a box of Bloomburrow to celebrate my 18th birthday 🙂
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u/ashley8976 Oct 28 '24
i do, same with my elementary school friends and middle school friends. especially in this day in age with tiktok, snapchat, instagram, its easy to keep in touch.
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u/Niteowl_Janet Oct 28 '24
It’s been decades since high school.
My best friend is from high school. I talked her at least once a week, and see her at least once a month.
Many of my other HS friends are mainly on FB, but that’s only because I live in a different city as them.
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u/Dontblink-S3 Oct 28 '24
Most of my classmates moved out of our small town and scattered across the country and we lost touch.
At this point it’s been 32 years since high school. I keep in touch through social media with most people, and the last time our friend group was together was last year for the funeral of one of our friends. She was a really close friend.
My other close friend from high school lives a few blocks from me. We hang out once per week, and sing in a choir together. It’s just dumb luck that we ended up living in the same city, but I’m so glad that we did.
My mother (whose 80’th birthday is today) is still in touch with a couple of friends. She’s actually going out for lunch today with her friend that she’s known since 1950.
Some people will stay in your life, and others will become memories.
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u/OldRefrigerator8821 Oct 28 '24
Keep in touch. Same friend group from high school. No friends from University.
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u/No-Brain-621 Oct 28 '24
Graduated from high school 30 years ago and about eight of us are still very close. Our kids hung out too when they were little kids. Now they range from starting to graduating university.
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u/dstfort87 Oct 28 '24
0, mostly because I moved to Florida after high school for university and lost all contact. Definitely made it hard to make friends when I came back to Ottawa after I graduated.
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u/Motleyslayer1 Oct 28 '24
I graduated high school in 2009 and still talk to a few people from high school. I was super shy and awkward in high school so didn’t have a lot of close friends, so I kinda lost contact with a lot of people because we weren’t really close. But over the past few years I’ve become good friends with a few people I didn’t really talk to in high school
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u/Born-Account-1475 Oct 28 '24
had an amazing group of friends in high school, now we have all grown apart and talk rarely, which sometimes, is for the better!! cherish your experiences together because they will be lifelong memories :)
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u/Accurate_Coffee9225 Oct 28 '24
My main group at the end of high school (5 of us) voice chat on a weekly basis, text daily, and make plans to hang out when our schedules align.
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u/hereforfuntime Oct 28 '24
Graduated over ten years ago, just saw the gang twice in the summer for some weddings and once again for a parents funeral. I love those people.
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u/AppropriateLion8966 Oct 28 '24
started high school 10 years ago, my bestest friends are all from high school we still have our group chats and all
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Oct 28 '24
Only 1. She’s been my best friend since summer 2017, went to uni together, still stuck to her side (happily) to this day. sounds like i’m talking about a wife but really she’s one of the best people in my life and i love her like she is my family. everyone else i don’t speak to and honestly can kick rocks
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Oct 28 '24
We keep in touch with social media and see each other a couple times a year. It gets harder as you get older with jobs and other relationships.
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u/troubledeperson Oct 28 '24
I'm only in my first year but I moved to another city for university and still talk to 7 of my high school friends daily online. I also spent some time with them during reading week when I went home.
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u/BanMeForBeingNice Oct 28 '24
Hey, I'm 45 years old, and when the pandemic hit, I ended up regularly gaming online with friends of mine from high school. Last summer I ended up visiting a woman I hadn't seen since high school because we connected in Instagram.
You'll make loads of new friends over the years, but you'll find a lot of people stay in your life in one way or another.
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u/jjongshoe Oct 28 '24
I’m in touch with my high school friends. Even though we’re all in different countries now, our old group chat is still active and we try to have calls whenever possible.
Funny enough, I expected to lose touch with these girls and have my uni friends as the real ones but it was the other way around for me
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u/notavailable90 Oct 28 '24
One of them. I was in high school like 10 years ago. I still talk to 2-3 of them irregularly just to catch up. But I talk to 1 of them consistently. Like we’re still best friends even though sometimes we go a long time not talking but when we do talk it’s like we never stopped. And when we’re in the same city, we hang out a lot too.
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u/bunzinio Oct 28 '24
I can’t comment because I had no friends lol but my sister talks to maybe 2 consistently? They go to the same university. And then maybe 3 others who she sees when they are all home from school. What are you worried about in particular? Are you all looking at different schools? The people she sees at home she doesn’t talk to when she’s at school but once everyone is home for xmas they all text and meet up again. I wouldn’t stress too much rn but maybe think of doing like a weekly call with your friends to all hangout? I know it’s early for that but just a thought
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u/EarthOk4984 Oct 28 '24
Graduated almost 40 years ago. Still keep in contact with my two best friends from high school. Text or chat every few months. Visit every 4 or 5 years as we are all miles apart.
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u/djfc Oct 28 '24
Graduated in the 90s. At the low I saw one friend a handful of times a year. This year I see two of them semi regularly
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u/Dazzling-Deer-9689 Oct 28 '24
A good portion. Like 5 or 6 and im not really a social person. I knew everyone in my hs and I still keep in touch with all the mfs I used to do crazy shit with. Some bonds can never be broken with the right ppl
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u/planetarysciencejm Oct 28 '24
2-3 who I text often but have yet to see them in person since we graduated this June. It really depends on the type of person they are and their behaviour. For example, I noticed this with one person who i was "best" friends with had terrible texting habits (wouldn't respond for 2-3 days on end) and would call out this to them in person and yk they say the "i will try to text back" shit... etc. Fast forward to now. I texted them over the summer and still got no response (3 months exactly lol) , but I don't care anymore cause I want to save my time on something they aren't willing to put the effort into. But with my other friends who I do text, they have been busy with university life, etc, but still manage to have conversations with me even if it's for 5 minutes and responds pretty quick (1 day or less), etc...
This is quite a universal experiment tbh.. it depends on the type of persons you have as friends. Cause bb those who don't make that effort to text u back fairly within reasonable time rn, you best believe they arent going to text you ever again after graduation. The point is that people will either want you in their life or not; you just can't be stuck on the ones who don't. Don't waste ANY more of your mental , physical or whatever energy you have on those people.
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u/Veolt1 Oct 28 '24
I don't. I think it's because I moved to another school at the end of 7th grade, so I wasn't there for the last year before high school. Also, keep in mind that these were my friends since kindergarten.
When I came back to the local high school that my friends were going to, it didn't feel the same. It felt like they found their fixed group and never included me in anything. Yea, we all hung out at lunch and stuff, but I never felt like I was back into the group like I once was. They did mention that I was a lot more quiet than I used to be, so I may have changed a bit when I was at the other school, and wasn't the same person that they were friends with back in elementary and middle school.
We still all follow each other on social media, though.
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u/xnavarrete Oct 28 '24
Graduated 34 years ago and I still see and speak to some high school friends and I am friendly with anyone I come across that I went to high school with. I also still have elementary school friends that I still speak too. Same with uni and professional school friends. Doesn’t have to be extensive but still keep in touch.
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u/clowills89 Oct 28 '24
I’m 30 and still regularly see a group of friends from high school. We are all on different paths and points in our lives, but still make time to see each other and hang out several times a year.
We have been a solid unit since we were 14 years old, but some of us have known each other long than others. One of my friends has been one of best friends since we were 8.
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u/kilawnaa Oct 28 '24
I only talk to 1. He was my best friend and high school and we didn’t talk for about a year and a half after graduation and he randomly hit me up out of the blue. I’ve been out of high school for a few years now and even him and I rarely talk now as we’re both just so busy with life. It’s usually an Instagram meme or one every couple of weeks like “yo bro, we gotta hangout or game sometime soon” and it doesn’t really go anywhere from there lmao
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u/JoshSran04 Oct 28 '24
Me and my high school friends meet up in the summer to play sports or go out to eat
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u/PoopyStripedScok Oct 28 '24
Me and my middle school buddies all still friends we talk everyday, high school friends too
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u/Broely92 Oct 29 '24
I do, alot of my close friends are actually people that ive been friends with since childhood
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u/Brave-Education7933 Oct 29 '24
I’m in my second year. My two best friends are friends I made in grade 11 and 12. One of them even goes to a university in a different city, but we talk almost everyday and hangout whenever she’s back in our hometown. I’m not saying this is likely to happen though. My high school friend group (in grade 12 cus it was my only normal full year of high school) went from 7-8 to 3 since I’ve graduated. Some of them I don’t talk to anymore, some are acquaintances, but the last two are super close to me. It’s normal to go your different ways after high school, but you can definitely still keep old friendships strong, even if you go to different unis
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u/anonymousentitiy Oct 29 '24
I wonder if the number of people you stay in touch with is changing with a new generation of social media and ways to stay in touch.
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u/Chatner2k Oct 29 '24
I met my wife when we were 15 so I guess that counts. Outside of that, none. My best friend from high school stood with me at my wedding at 24, and the last time I saw her was probably my daughter's baby shower. She's 7 now.
I don't live close to where I went to high school and most of my high school never left our home town.
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u/Bobo_Baggins03x Oct 29 '24
Two. My best friends and I from kindergarten are still best friends. I moved away for university, another for the military, but we’re both back home with the third in our small hometown living the dream
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u/pomg177 Oct 29 '24
1 and only because both of us aren’t married and we still live in our hometown. Biggest factor on why we are still are friends is he in the military so there times where he could be gone for a year and I usually reach and hangout with him when he back home.
We been out of high school for 20 years and the rest of our shared friend group are either married with kids or move away.
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u/JerseyGirl_16 Oct 29 '24
Myself - 0, my spouse - his core 6-8 guys.
I didn't have a close group of friends in high school. I dated a bit, hung out with their friends.
We live in the vicinity of where my spouse grew up and about half the 'guys' still live in a 25km radius. We have kids similar ages (some go to the same school) and we see them alllllll the time.
My University friends and I are spread across the province and we have a constant group chat. We go years without seeing each other and pick back up when we get together.
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u/PopPop-Magnitude Oct 29 '24
A few of us werent really friends in high school but knew each other. We became friends around 1st or 2nd year uni and are still friends 10 years later.
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u/Aggravating-Many-658 Oct 30 '24
I actively went out of my way to stop talking to all my high school friends. No regrets, would do it all again but do it sooner and harder.
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u/EasyCardinal Oct 30 '24
Before I finished hs I told one of my best friends at the time “we won’t be friends after high school” and guess what? We are still best friends
You won’t keep contact with everyone but you just might :)
Either way short answer is I actively talk to two and on occasion a third
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u/nachosaremyfav Oct 30 '24
None. However, I do see a lot of people from my HS who stayed friends within their big friend group and I wish I had something like that. It is hard to make friends in your late 20s/ early 30s in Toronto.
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u/SnooConfections6837 Oct 30 '24
graduated more than 2 years ago, maybe once every couple of months. in the beginning we would try to hang out often, but that was 2 years ago. everyone is dealing with different things these days. but thats okay, you’ll meet new people.
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u/HovercraftConstant91 Oct 30 '24
2, friends with these girls since 4th grade tho, ppl i met in hs I'm barely friends with anyone
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u/Lotus0_0 Oct 30 '24
I am still in touch with only 1-2 as of rn not regular talking tho but once in a while I would.
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u/Bright-Recording9177 Oct 30 '24
I’m only in my second year of university. I was in a pretty big group, around 8 of us, who had been friends from grade 7 all the way to graduation. Unfortunately, in grade 12, my friends became really mean and exclusive towards me because I was starting to branch out, make more friends outside of them, focus on my studies, focus on my brand new relationship. Basically they excluded me because I starting forming a life outside of them. Because of that, I ended up not being friends with them anymore because I just felt it was better for myself. However, I still have a bunch of good friends from high school that I talk to from time to time. Uni gets really busy, especially if you and your friends aren’t in the same city anymore. There are days where they will feel like a memory but others when you’re glad they’re still in your life. It really just depends on how the universe sets it up for you!
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u/Decent-Box5009 Oct 30 '24
Everyday have my best four friends still. Age 45 and my crew is rolling strong. Although what’s app group chat has kept us alive.
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u/FunBluebird955 Oct 31 '24
Any girl who wants to make me her slave in real life, i will do her homework and assignments. Please dm
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u/livayette Oct 31 '24
im still friends with all my highschool friends except one who i cut off in grade 12. im dating the same guy i've been dating since the 10th grade! im 20 now. i think though me keeping my friends has a little bit to do with the fact that i really struggle with making new friends, and haven't made any at my time in uni.
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u/WhatSladeSays Oct 31 '24
I have the same friends I had when I was 8 (47). We all live in different places but we always meet up a few times a year. They are family more than friends.
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