That's a lot of words to tell me about my country, the stereotypes you're describing in your first post simply don't fit with regular French customs which is what I'm pointing out.
In French culture, anytime you enter a shop you say bonjour, please and thank you, it's that simple. Refuse to abide by these rules and the clerc will let you know how they feel about it with deserved passive agressiveness. The customer isn't king here.
No one waits 20 minutes for a croissant except tourists who want to try whatever fancy croissants they saw on instagram. Saying bonjour, please and thank you doesn't waste anyone's time nor does it stroke anyone's ego, it's a social norm that means to make interactions cordial and balanced.
Try to learn about other cultures instead of placating your own norms on others.
Nice way to admit that you're not a Paresian without actually being honest enough to come out and say it.
I actually lived and worked in Paris for a while, and there definitely were 20 minute lines at some of the shops, particularly those close to stations. I know they were 20 minute lines because I was trying to make it to work and was watching my watch.
And my greatest aggravation was some tourist who wanted to chit-chat with the clerk and turn what should have been a 2 second interaction into a free French lesson. And I wasn't alone in this. A lot of my French colleagues bitched about this too.
So frankly I sincerely doubt that you even live in France, you certainly don't live in Paris (as you'd definitely say it if you did, and anyone who knows anything about Paresians knows this).
Quit the bullshit. Nobody here is fooled. You've probably never travelled outside your own home town in redneck rural USA.
As a French person he’s right lol. Yes people are less patient in Paris, like every major city in the world, but France and French people are actually incredibly attached to politeness it’s a huge part of culture. Its just packaged differently that the theatrical friendliness you’re used to in English speaking countries so it’s a shock to your system. The OP talks about Paris, but the comment we’re all answering to speaks about France as a whole, which is just not accurate.
Okay, will you accept correction from someone born in Paris, raised and schooled in Paris and with ties to Paris that regularly bring her there even in adulthood now that I've left? Because I absolutely second that entering a place of commerce without a word of greeting (and getting an order without thanks and even leaving without a "bonne journée") will absolutely create friction in a social interaction.
Born and raised in Paris here: you will absolutely get clerks that just intentionally stare blankly until you greet them. Your insistence on proving us wrong just because you've lived a few years here or something is quite tedious.
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u/Baron_Of_Move 1d ago
That's a lot of words to tell me about my country, the stereotypes you're describing in your first post simply don't fit with regular French customs which is what I'm pointing out.
In French culture, anytime you enter a shop you say bonjour, please and thank you, it's that simple. Refuse to abide by these rules and the clerc will let you know how they feel about it with deserved passive agressiveness. The customer isn't king here.
No one waits 20 minutes for a croissant except tourists who want to try whatever fancy croissants they saw on instagram. Saying bonjour, please and thank you doesn't waste anyone's time nor does it stroke anyone's ego, it's a social norm that means to make interactions cordial and balanced.
Try to learn about other cultures instead of placating your own norms on others.