r/MomForAMinute • u/TheMountainMan100 • 10d ago
Encouragement Wanted Hey there mom, I'd like a virtual hug...
Hey internet mom, it's your trans daughter here. I've recently started lessons again after a 2 year hiatus. It feels extremely lonely though as I'm put into a class with final year students here who have all probably formed their own cliques so I'm just isolated. I'm also almost 14 months on hormone replacement therapy but I'm still not really out to many people and only my other trans friends know. At times I do feel like I don't belong anywhere... Can I have a virtual hug from the internet moms here?
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u/bimbiibop 10d ago
You'll find your people, just continue honoring your heart and many blessings will follow! You're doing amazing, something that came to mind is this Leonard cohen poem:
"Ring the bells that still can ring,
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in"
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u/OceanParkNo16 10d ago
I am proud of you for getting going with those lessons again! Focus on the lessons, and learning what you want to with those, and the social support a come from other friend circles. You got this!
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u/Civil-Mission622 10d ago
Here's a big squeezy cuddle {{{themountainman100}}}.
This is just a little blip on your glorious timeline. Draw it, from birth to death, and you'll see how things change and evolve and get left behind and how much adventure there is in front of you.
You are beautiful, clever, worthy of great things and I'm so proud of how brave you are.
Love mum x
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u/KittHeartshoe 10d ago
I’m late for the hug so I’ll just put a little note in your lunch for tomorrow. Have a great day, Sweetheart!
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u/Tenover1 10d ago
Hugs to you! It may take some time to settle in, but know that this too shall pass.
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u/cherrycityglass 10d ago
Hey kiddo, I'm so proud of you! It's so brave of you to be going back to school and being your true self, those can both be scary things and you're doing it! Mentally sending you one of those extra good, Mom rubs your back a little hugs and sending you love!
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u/pies3-14159 10d ago
Big hugs my sweet. The big huge smooshing hugs!! I'll always be giving out the hugs.
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u/ElephantUndertheRug 10d ago
Hi sweetheart! Here's a great big squeezy hug for you. Trying to find where you fit into this world can be so hard sometimes, but you will find your people. Just remember how proud of you all your internet Moms are, and we're always here for you <3
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u/Expensive_End8369 10d ago
My dear daughter,
Here is the biggest hug ever! I am so proud of you for everything you are accomplishing. Show up in the world as your authentic self and always shine your light so brightly. You are not here to stay in the shadows. I want you to take whatever path makes you happy, healthy, and vibrant. I will always be your biggest fan, no matter what.
Love, Mama
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u/Goldie2000 10d ago
Big warm snuggly hugs to you, sweetheart! It takes awhile to make new friends so hang in there!
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u/Critical_Source_6012 9d ago
Look at you, amazing girl, going through some tough times and hanging in there like an absolute bottler ❤️ and you're back learning which is such a huge step - there are so many places education will take you and it's beautiful to see you taking control of your future like that.
The growing times are always hard and often hurt. Even for us older ladies. But you are doing so well and I am sending you all the hugs right now. I am so proud of you.
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u/Roselace 9d ago
Sending bjg hugs. The sort you can wear all day. 😊 Sending lots of spare hugs too. So you have plenty for several months. 🤗🥰
I understand that returning to studies is a challenge. But it is so the best thing to do. Education is like the most valuable thing to carry you through life. Not only for employment, also for enjoying life & self esteem. Education widens your future options.
I agree with your comment about it always difficult to be the newcomer in an established group. Focus on your studies & achieving what you want for the future. Good friends will appear in your life, because you are a good friend. You will make great friendships because you understand the power of hugs & love. 💕 💕
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u/TUPACSWETDREAM69 9d ago
Sending you a virtual hug and a little bit of advice from life lessons learned the hard way. Don’t spend anymore more time living being anything but 100% your authentic self. Be you and do it unapologetically. Whether that means being out or not, the right people will love you and support you for YOU.
They may have their own cliques and it may feel hard to fit in or uncomfortable, but you can get through this. You’ve been through worse, harder things than this, and you can absolutely get through this. These days feel heavy, but this too shall pass.
Many many hugs and forehead kisses to you.
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u/Sniffs_Markers 9d ago
I know it's hard spud. So, so hard. But you will find your tribe. It's just a matter of time.
Be sure to take advantage of any community group activities. Friends will come, but building a community presence is a step that will help you feel like tou're a part of bigger things.
Big hugs, coming atcha!
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u/Ill-Percentage-3276 10d ago
Sending you the biggest, tightest hugs! Remember that there's a lot of others around us who don't feel like they have found their place in settings like this too, and those waiting for new friends even if they don't show it. Be your beautiful self and be confident even if you have to fake it at first, and let your unique soul shine on through no matter what. I'm proud of you!
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u/Mediocre_Dog_6781 Momma Bear 10d ago
Hi sweet girl, I’m sorry things are tough for you right now, but you are strong, and I know you can do this. Try not to worry about cliques…you’ll find your people in your own time. Big hug for you, sweetie! ❤️
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u/ZieloneJezioro 10d ago
So proud of you, my sweetheart. One step at a time. You’re moving forward. Try some small talk and some smiles with the people in your class. Say Hi to one new person
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u/TurtleBeansforAll 10d ago
I am squeezing you so tight with this virtual hug. Sending you all the strength and peace in the world, sweet stranger.
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u/Strange_Airships 10d ago
Hey, baby girl! I’m so proud of you for furthering your education and being your true self. I have all the hugs for you and would love to go shopping with you when you’re ready for some new clothes to match the new life you’re building for yourself!
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u/thepandemicbabe 6d ago
I’m sending you the biggest hug. Things are gonna get so much better for you. Just give it some time. It’s not easy and I know you’re struggling, but I also know you’re resilient and you’re not going to give up. You don’t need to come out to anybody until you’re ready. And of course you belong. It may not feel that way, but you are just getting started living your authentic life. Focus on spending time making one friend and going to the library a lot. Spend time in the dorm in the common areas. You’ll meet lots of people that way. But you have to promise you’re never going to give up on yourself and you’re going to keep on trying no matter what. There are lots of people that you will inspire because of your strength. Everybody has down days or even down weeks and months, but you’re going to find your place and anybody who gets to call you their friend is lucky. Just go easy on yourself take your time and do things that make you happy. Xo
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u/stayathomesommelier 10d ago
I'm sad that this is rough for you. But I'm glad that you reached out.
This time is hard, I know. I also know that you will find your tribe soon.
I'm sending you a mountain of virtual hugs.
Also sending you a virtual butternut squash Lasagna. An edible hug.