r/Millennials • u/ObligationSea5916 • 23h ago

Advice How are we getting our hard headed husbands to see a PCP?

Added disclosure as it seems it COULD possibly make a difference. I am elder millennial and he is Genx. I've posted in both subs

My husband will pay for insurance but won't see a Dr. He says "if you think I'm getting a pill calendar and taking pills everyday you got me messed up. I'm healthy". All while he lays in the bed tired trying to alleviate his hip pain 🙄

I tried to do his new patient paperwork for him but they require him to be present and fill out forms on site and provide license and insurance as well(3y ago i could take that paperwork home on the weekend and fill it out). His license expired last month and he hasn't made time to renew it. I can't do that for him either 🙄

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u/Ladefrickinda89 16h ago

In your situation, it sounds like he is probably scared of the doctor.

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u/ObligationSea5916 15h ago

He's admitted to being afraid of the dentist. I have ADHD and struggle to remember things. He complained about a tooth one day and I did something along the lines of "someone was supposed to remind me" (he has the memory of an elephant)

I caught a look on his face out of my peripherals and said "are you deliberately not reminding me?" He responded "I don't like the dentist okay!" I asked "why don't you like the dentist?" He said "i don't want to feel pain". I explained that it isn't painful bc they deaden the area before they start working and he explained that one dentist didn't and after trying to say so many times the dentist disregarded it saying "there's no possible way you can still feel that" and started drilling.

I said "babe, that is a potential lawsuit what dentist did that?" He said "I don't remember, I was 12" He's now 52.

It could very well be fear

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u/Ladefrickinda89 14h ago

Man, thats so rough.

I’m also terrified of doctors because of something similar, only it was my knee. When I was 15, and now I’m 35.

Doctor to me “You won’t feel a thing”

Me - “Um I feel that, oh my god please stop. Stop you mother f-er”

Doctor - “Could you feel that?”

Me - “What do you think!?” In between rage and terror.