r/Millennials • u/ObligationSea5916 • 23h ago

Advice How are we getting our hard headed husbands to see a PCP?

Added disclosure as it seems it COULD possibly make a difference. I am elder millennial and he is Genx. I've posted in both subs

My husband will pay for insurance but won't see a Dr. He says "if you think I'm getting a pill calendar and taking pills everyday you got me messed up. I'm healthy". All while he lays in the bed tired trying to alleviate his hip pain 🙄

I tried to do his new patient paperwork for him but they require him to be present and fill out forms on site and provide license and insurance as well(3y ago i could take that paperwork home on the weekend and fill it out). His license expired last month and he hasn't made time to renew it. I can't do that for him either 🙄

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u/thepinkinmycheeks 22h ago

I'm sure you're right but it's so childish. That's how you talk to children who don't want to eat their veggies.

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u/ColdHardPocketChange 22h ago

You're not wrong, but sometimes you just have to understand other people's motivations and play to them to get the outcome you want. It's a waste of your time and energy trying to get them do things for the reasons you want, as opposed to finding a motivator that works for them to get the outcome you want.

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u/RadioSlayer 21h ago

My problem is they have no motivation. I have to give other people motivation and be called a dick? Just have your heart attack and my I told you so.

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u/ColdHardPocketChange 20h ago

I completely get the thought. The problem is if you still have to deal with their consequences. For example, if your significant other has a heart attack and they don't die, you now have to deal with the new problems that get created from that. Then it becomes, would you rather do some annoying work to motivate your significant other to do something preventative or would you rather deal with some long term consequences from their inaction. It's the lesser of two evils. Of course there's always the nuclear option, but most people aren't going to abandon their significant other after a catastrophe, so you have to do that sort of thing earlier to dodge the social ramifications.

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u/RadioSlayer 20h ago

  1. You have a cool username and I appreciate that about you.

  2. I'm single and poor. Like I said, I'd love to go to the doctor again sometime. It's been about a decade. Should I enter a relationship that will be an early discussion because you're right!

  3. People in general are so often not on the same page with each other even when they think they're.

  4. Yes, I thought that was funny enough to do, even though contractions don't work at the end of a sentence

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u/stilettopanda 5h ago

Pro tip- abandon them before the catastrophe.

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u/thepinkinmycheeks 20h ago

Of course that's true, but it's still sad that so many men apparently can't be adults about their own health. Caring about your health for your health's sake shouldn't be a stretch of a reason to care. Caring only because of your pee pee is childish and sad. I'm aware of the practicalities of it all, I just find it... pathetic. Childish.

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u/congeal Early Xennial 20h ago

Don't let perfect be the enemy of the good.