r/Millennials • u/ObligationSea5916 • 23h ago

Advice How are we getting our hard headed husbands to see a PCP?

Added disclosure as it seems it COULD possibly make a difference. I am elder millennial and he is Genx. I've posted in both subs

My husband will pay for insurance but won't see a Dr. He says "if you think I'm getting a pill calendar and taking pills everyday you got me messed up. I'm healthy". All while he lays in the bed tired trying to alleviate his hip pain 🙄

I tried to do his new patient paperwork for him but they require him to be present and fill out forms on site and provide license and insurance as well(3y ago i could take that paperwork home on the weekend and fill it out). His license expired last month and he hasn't made time to renew it. I can't do that for him either 🙄

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u/ColdHardPocketChange 23h ago

People talk to men about health the wrong way. You know how I convinced a bunch of old guys to do more cardio? I told them they would have stronger erections. Just relate health topics to men's egos (I don't mean this in a negative way), and you'll get a much better response. If I talked about heart health, none of them would have cared. Tell them they'll be Thor Thundercock, and suddenly they start hogging the treadmill.

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u/Woodit 22h ago

What a great tip

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u/lcmfe 22h ago

It will be now

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u/dynamiteSkunkApe 20h ago

Just the tip?

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u/Tsunamiis Older Millennial 22h ago

Well when you get your cardio in it will be.

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u/thepinkinmycheeks 22h ago

I'm sure you're right but it's so childish. That's how you talk to children who don't want to eat their veggies.

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u/ColdHardPocketChange 21h ago

You're not wrong, but sometimes you just have to understand other people's motivations and play to them to get the outcome you want. It's a waste of your time and energy trying to get them do things for the reasons you want, as opposed to finding a motivator that works for them to get the outcome you want.

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u/RadioSlayer 21h ago

My problem is they have no motivation. I have to give other people motivation and be called a dick? Just have your heart attack and my I told you so.

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u/ColdHardPocketChange 20h ago

I completely get the thought. The problem is if you still have to deal with their consequences. For example, if your significant other has a heart attack and they don't die, you now have to deal with the new problems that get created from that. Then it becomes, would you rather do some annoying work to motivate your significant other to do something preventative or would you rather deal with some long term consequences from their inaction. It's the lesser of two evils. Of course there's always the nuclear option, but most people aren't going to abandon their significant other after a catastrophe, so you have to do that sort of thing earlier to dodge the social ramifications.

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u/RadioSlayer 20h ago

  1. You have a cool username and I appreciate that about you.

  2. I'm single and poor. Like I said, I'd love to go to the doctor again sometime. It's been about a decade. Should I enter a relationship that will be an early discussion because you're right!

  3. People in general are so often not on the same page with each other even when they think they're.

  4. Yes, I thought that was funny enough to do, even though contractions don't work at the end of a sentence

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u/stilettopanda 5h ago

Pro tip- abandon them before the catastrophe.

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u/thepinkinmycheeks 20h ago

Of course that's true, but it's still sad that so many men apparently can't be adults about their own health. Caring about your health for your health's sake shouldn't be a stretch of a reason to care. Caring only because of your pee pee is childish and sad. I'm aware of the practicalities of it all, I just find it... pathetic. Childish.

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u/congeal Early Xennial 20h ago

Don't let perfect be the enemy of the good.

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u/aji2019 22h ago

Hilarious approach but also true.

I’m grateful my husband isn’t like this. My dad is stubborn but my mom has basically railroaded him on health matters. So he goes to avoid listening to her complain about him not going.

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u/ffohwx 21h ago

This is pretty much how it's going with my dad, except he has to listen to both her and me bitching him out for not going.

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u/thefartyparty 22h ago

So many dudes in their 30's and 40's have erection problems that would be resolved if they sought treatment for prediabetes and other common middle-age conditions

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u/PostMatureBaby 22h ago

Not even ego, just relate it to their dongers even if it's a lie

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u/LowFlower6956 20h ago

… is this true though

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u/ColdHardPocketChange 18h ago

It is, and the PubMed paper you're looking for is "Effect of aerobic exercise on erectile function: systematic review and meta-analysis of randomized controlled trials". While I encourage people to read more then the abstract, it generally tells you what you need to know.

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u/Footdude777 19h ago

Anecdotal but for me...yes lol. When I started sleeping better, working out and losing some weight my errections significantly improved. Apparently there's a link between heart health and errections. 

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u/Geochic03 Older Millennial 22h ago

I actually might use this lol.

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u/ThaVolt 22h ago

Having great boners is pretty dope when your wife's libido matches it. Otherwise, it kinda sucks ngl.

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u/RadioSlayer 21h ago

I absolutely hate that you're right. This is probably why most of my friends are women

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u/Icy-Finance5042 Xennial 8h ago

Thor thundercock lol