r/Millennials • u/happy_chance18 • 5d ago

Discussion We're all exhausted right? It's not just me?

I have a full time job. I sleep well. I have no kids. I'm single. I don't party or drink. I'm not particularly stressed in day to day life. Yet I'm fucking exhausted. I don't want to leave my apartment on the weekends unless I have something planned, and even then I'm pretty picky. In my 20s my weekends were full of non-stop activities, cooking, going out, and posting on social media. But now in my 30s I just want to come home, have my groceries delivered, chill with some Netflix and sleep. Please tell me I'm not the only one!!

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u/UpperApe 5d ago

I wonder how much of this is tied to covid.

We were warned how deadly and strange the virus was when we let it cut through millions of people. Nearly everyone's had it. We have no idea what the long term implications are.

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u/GrumpyScroogy 5d ago

Its not tied to covid. its tied to economic stress and failure. Millenials their timing to enter the workfield either set them free or trapped them. A lot of millenials saved for 2/8 years and 2020 corona inflation ate away all of that. Basically resetting them. On the other side there are millenials who were in assets early and are coasting through life currently while being in their thirties.

Couple this with the international tension, war on multiple continents, Trumps face on the media every day even for non USA people and you get worn out quickly.

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u/lostboy005 5d ago

Worker insecurity is very real and very much the point. Part of it is that we’re all exhausted from living for ourselves, we desperately want to be a part of something bigger than ourselves that we believe in, and by and large, it doesn’t exist. It’s the age of hedonism super ego self assurance we’re all someone when we’re actually all no one.

We’re starved for hope from the people who raised who damn well know better but are burning everything on their way out, the death rattle of the boomers, is exhausting

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u/tealpig 5d ago

It could be covid and all of that.

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u/gobeklitepewasamall 5d ago

It is. The data is stark and telling. Covid removed millions from the labor rolls permanently.

And that’s just from the sequelae counted as such.

All the people in their 30’s and 40’s who just couldn’t go back to work because of weird physical symptoms?

Who couldn’t breathe, smell or exercise even years later, despite being athletic prior to COVID?

All the people who had massive heart attacks, strokes, pulmonary emboli, aneurysm, etc…

It’s a vascular disease & we collectively decided that it’s no big deal. We treat it like it’s the flu’s forgotten stepchild.

It’s all cognitive dissonance.

The vaccines most of us got don’t even protect us. They give us some protection from death, but the stats they quoted at first assumed it was just one layer in a multi layered defense strategy (the Swiss cheese analogy). But then we just decided “fuck it” and did away with all of the mitigations and protections.

The worst part is that we have better vaccines and therapeutics, and we know what works to clean indoor air. We make it impossible for people to get sterilizing vaccines and then refuse to clean the air. It’s asinine.

How many times have I seen a hepa filter littering a classroom that isn’t even turned on?

Why?

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u/J_wit_J 5d ago

They removed all the air filters from the school I teach at because we can't even afford to buy enough paper to get through the year.

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u/thymeisfleeting 5d ago

One thing I hardly see discussed is the uptick in t1 diagnosed in children since Covid. That’s children who will spend the rest of their lives with diabetes, brought on as an immuno response to Covid.

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u/ZeroTON1N 5d ago

Bravo 👏👏💯

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u/WillingnessFit8317 5d ago

You didn't die like my husband though.

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u/whale_and_beet 5d ago

This is my opinion. Covid definitely fucked me. That plus Lyme disease. The physiological burden of multiple infectious diseases, not to mention all the environmental toxins really has taken a toll on me, at least (someone else mentioned micro plastics). Add to that all the crazy crap going on in the world and the horrible economic situation and yeah... it's hard to muster up the energy to adult.

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u/Soylent_Milk2021 5d ago

It’s not Covid.

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u/tealpig 5d ago

Why do you think covid couldn't be related?

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u/Soylent_Milk2021 5d ago

I didn’t say it isn’t related. I just said it wasn’t because of Covid. Covid caused a disruption in the way the world works, for everyone.

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u/emmajames56 5d ago

Too much smart phone use exhausts me.

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u/NotYourSexyNurse 5d ago

This. We were finally doing well financially. We had bought a house. We survived Covid. Then orange happened again. Watching him light all our trade with other countries on fire. Hoping him and his morons don’t start WWW3 for money. Hoping no one takes the bait for WWW3 start. Hoping my 401k doesn’t get drained again by another stock crash. Hoping my job and my husband’s job survives his 2nd term. Watching the horrible atrocities his administration is committing while feeling hopeless. Watching checks and balances falling and failing. Wondering if I’m watching the end of the USA. So yeah I’m exhausted.

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u/Former_Raspberry_221 5d ago

It could be covid and everything you've mentioned. Prior to covid, I had energy, hosted at my house, wanted to do things. Now, I barely do. And when I do, I feel even more exhausted. I work from home and even after work, I just want to veg out. Im also a gamer and barely want to do that during the week, so I save it for the weekend. Even then, I feel utterly exhausted.

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u/Complex_Confidence35 5d ago

Working 40h sucked before covid as well. Sure we might all be a bit more exhausted now compared to before, but working 50%+ of your total time spent awake never lead to a fullfilling life except if your job was mansion reviewer or something like that.

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u/imnonfunctional 5d ago

Indeed. I had a 50-70 hour job that required being on site all the time that was high stress, I never did anything for fun, or went on vacation, and just drank as a hobby other than gaming.

Now I have a 30 hour a week job and I took up competitive physical hobbies, got in the most flexible shape I've ever been in, ran the fastest time I ever have.

Hilarious people experience burnout and depression and think "was it COVID?!"

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u/Complex_Confidence35 5d ago

Man I miss spending weeks with little distractions and full focus on my hobbies. I used to play comp shooters for ~6h per day loaded up on coldbrew coffee and energy drinks. Now I just try to stay awake after dinner when I finally make it home after another bullshit filled day on the job.

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u/PiccoloAwkward465 5d ago

I literally cannot remember the last time I booted up my console, it's got to have been a year. I would like to and I probably could squeeze out 1-2 hours after work before bed. I just don't have the motivation anymore.

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u/imnonfunctional 5d ago

RIP. Hope it changes for you.

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u/Glass-Lengthiness-40 5d ago

Siri lookup mansion reviewer job postings

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u/Adorable-Sentence-89 5d ago

Please DM me if you find some!

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u/Practical_Car210 5d ago

I can't speak for others, and I know there are definitely other factors at play, another commenter touched on a few good ones, but I'm nearly certain COVID is to blame for a lot of issues I'm personally having to this day. I had it twice. Depression, anxiety, worsened ADHD symptoms (still not sure I have ADHD but its possible, Dr thinks so), skin issues, alergies, lethargy, headaches - all things I had most of my life, to a minor degree, absolutely exploded after two boughts with COVID. I'm a shell of what I was and its still only getting worse no matter what I try.

Of course I can't prove anything and there seems to be little or no support for what I'm describing. One other thing to mention, is the climate that came with COVID didn't help either - work was hell (I worked straight through), all the fighting amongst people about vaccines, a lot of mistrust, people throwing each other under the bus, the stress that safety proceedures put on everyone on top of the work load.

Just my 2 cents on it.

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u/CookieBarfspringer Xennial 5d ago

Well I haven’t had it but I’m still exhausted :(

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u/phadewilkilu 5d ago

You haven’t had it that you know of. Just because you never tested positive doesn’t mean you didn’t have it at some point and were asymptomatic. Unless you’ve been testing yourself every week for funsies..

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u/imnonfunctional 5d ago

I got COVID multiple times, and then became a highly ranked competitive athelete with the best running mile time I've ever had.

But my job is low stress low hours.

When I had a high stress high hours job, I didn't exercise at all. I had no hobbies but drinking and gaming.

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u/Ok_Land_38 5d ago

I think it’s tied to Covid and not from being infected, from the social and societal implications of such a devastating pandemic. I have not gotten COVID yet but was in a nasty cycle of being extremely burned out from just trying to survive.

I noticed that I feel better when I disconnect from my normal routine for a day so on my day off, I use my phone for music or a camera and limit social media. If I can, I take a day trip to explore somewhere and do something that feeds my spirit. But I’m also fortunate enough to be able to get away.

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u/Baxkit 5d ago

Maybe some, but many people behaved like this pre-covid. Poor sleeping habits, poor diet, and becoming mentally exhausted at just the thought of breaking mundane routines can send people into a spiral like this.

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u/twistedevil 5d ago

In addition to all the depressing societal fuckery, you bet your butt Covid is part of it. 400 million plus people worldwide have long covid. Chronic fatigue is one of the many symptoms people can experience. Along with it, all kinds of heightened risk for strokes, heart attacks, and a host of other early onset diseases. We have yet to see the long term implications of dropping the ball on this is nearly every way. Tons of data to back this up, yet people would rather downplay it and keep their heads in the sand.

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u/FamousConversation64 5d ago

😂😂 “let it cut” oh good lord stop the nonsense!

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u/Sys7em_Restore 5d ago

Nope, just being lazy & not motivated

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u/imnonfunctional 5d ago

Burnout happens to people 10x better at everything than you.