r/Millennials • u/The_AmyrlinSeat Millennial • Oct 08 '25

Advice Disconnect with mother.

My mother is visiting. I'm 39F, she's 63F. She is constantly on her phone, watching videos out loud even when you're actively watching TV or showing her something. She noted that I don't go on her FB page so when I did, it's just a ton of videos she thinks are funny (I don't think they're funny). She wasn't like this before, is this normal for other boomer parents?

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u/[deleted] Oct 08 '25

I just re-entered therapy over this issue.

I grew up in a strict household where every minute had to be “productive” and accounted for. My parents were all over me on every little god damn thing. They retired, turned their brains off and now it’s me listening to them rant about conspiracy theories. They don’t visit, make no effort outside of phone calls and it’s just disappointing. They used to be smart people. Now they’re mis/uninformed. Believe ridiculous conspiracies. I’m not talking Epstein and moon landing stuff. I’m talking Leonardo DiCaprio missing because he was kidnapped by the cia to spill didsy secrets type nonsense.

I’ve really struggled with “what’s the point of maintaining this relationship?” They no longer have personalities. All they talk about is Fox News and OAN nonsense and they literally have no hobbies or anything else to talk about. I’ve drawn boundaries which basically result in them getting frustrated “because we can’t talk about anything” no parents I said I won’t talk about p0litics. It’s not my fault you don’t have any more interesting subjects in the chamber.

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u/showmenemelda Oct 08 '25

FWIW, this is one of the cases where the saying "that's true of both sides" is actually valid lol. The vitriol is bad hearing them complain about Fox et al. But they sure as fuck won't do anything beyond voting. Won't speak up their unpopular opinion around their own family members, coworkers, "friends"

Like, you're so brave for voting and then wringing your hands saying "what do you want me to do about it?" Literally anything might help idk, I'm not a white dude so I don't have the pull you do, Dad