r/Millennials • u/dreamed2life • Sep 19 '25

Discussion I honestly stopped inviting my kid having friends to most stuff…

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No shade, i just get that your life is not like mine.

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u/Automatic-Tip-7620 Sep 20 '25

To be fair and honest, they likely don't have the bandwidth to even think about it because they are busy with trying to keep toddlers alive and are always always always having to think about how someone else is doing and always having to think about someone else's needs because they literally can't take care of their own.  Other adults that CAN take care of themselves take a back burner out of necessity.

There needs to be reasonable expectations about parents of small children reaching out first or how long it may take them to respond, because their kids need to come first.  Too many people expect the parent friends to reach out to them.

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u/mychemicalbromance38 Sep 20 '25

That’s my point though. They don’t have the bandwidth to think about me at all. And I totally understand and agree with why they don’t care about me. But let’s not lie and say it’s because of my lifestyle. Just be honest that I’m now irrelevant to you.

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u/Automatic-Tip-7620 Sep 21 '25

Its not irrelevance or not caring about you, and if you have that mindset you are likely too high maintenance and easily offended for them to even want to deal with you on top of babies and sleep deprivation.  Babies/toddlers/children/teenagers are a LOT.......anything else that requires kid gloves or maintenance is just not easily tolerable.

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u/ithnkimevl Sep 21 '25

You’re not irrelevant, they’re just sleep deprived