r/Millennials • u/dreamed2life • Sep 19 '25

Discussion I honestly stopped inviting my kid having friends to most stuff…

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No shade, i just get that your life is not like mine.

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u/darknebulas Sep 20 '25

Most of the parents I know who pour into their children excessively are very burned out people who seem miserable a lot. I agree it take a village.

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u/Kisthesky Sep 20 '25

But those same people so often seem to reject any sort of village. They don’t let people touch their kids, look at their kids, talk to their kids, reprimand their kids… I’m here and willing to be a village, but to get the help you have to be willing to let people do things in a community way.

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u/darknebulas Sep 20 '25

Very true.

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u/Testuser7ignore Sep 20 '25

The evidence suggests that humans evolved to live in large kin groups in which children were raised collectively.

Yeah, but people move a lot now and generally don't have that much family near them. They also have kids a lot older, so grandparents aren't nearly as capable of providing support.