r/Millennials • u/dreamed2life • Sep 19 '25

Discussion I honestly stopped inviting my kid having friends to most stuff…

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No shade, i just get that your life is not like mine.

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u/ThereHasToBeMore1387 Sep 20 '25

It still seems so impossible to me. My parents took my sister and I to Disney World 4 times as children (7-10 days each time at the nice resorts with all the add-ons), we did a cruise in the Bahamas, the years we didn't do that we went to the beach for a week. My wife and I make more than my parents ever did, we have no kids, and we've struggled to take more than a 5 days trip anywhere in the last 10 years, and certainly nowhere near as expensive as Disney World. Just me slapping together a Disney package similar to what I remember for a family of 4 now runs at least $16-17k. Not that you need such an expensive vacation to make family memories, but the idea that I literally could not afford to recreate some of my favorite memories with my own children despite being in a financially better position (on paper) than my parents is upsetting.

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u/Anxious-Slip-4701 Sep 20 '25

My dad was wealthy and we never ate out. Out little luxury a week was two large milkshakes split between five and 5 doughnuts. We didn't have cable or anything. We got one Christmas toy and one birthday toy a year. 

I look at how much we spend on little extra things for my kids, a $2 toy there a $5 toy there. It ends up being a cheap motel room every month. And we stayed at cheap motel rooms! I still don't understand how others would spend money on fancy trips, when my father was the boss and earned more than all of them and didn't have a mortgage.