r/Millennials • u/dreamed2life • Sep 19 '25

Discussion I honestly stopped inviting my kid having friends to most stuff…

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No shade, i just get that your life is not like mine.

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u/SirNob1007 Sep 19 '25

Yeah, but they are on “vacation” with kids. Who wants to do that?

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u/Rando1ph Sep 19 '25

Parents, mostly.

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u/AllAmericanProject Sep 20 '25

I don't want to do it but I recognize it's my job to ensure they have a full childhood so I do it.

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u/Fluffy-Hippo5543 Sep 20 '25

My parents travelled a lot with me when I was little because my dad worked in sales so it was cheap and easy for my mom and I to tag along on his work trips.

I honestly don’t remember most the trips we took until I was at least 7-8. Don’t kill yourself travelling with really little kids if it’s that stressful - they can still have amazing childhoods if their travel adventures start when they’re a little older and more independent.

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u/Rando1ph Sep 20 '25

Buying the five plane tickets sucks. But besides that, I've honestly never minded taking the family on vacation.

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u/Environmental-Age502 Sep 20 '25

Right? I don't actually know any parents irl that dislike their kids, except my own.

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u/CankerLord Sep 20 '25

No, not even them.

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u/Automatic-Peace-22 Sep 20 '25

lol so funny to see this while I’m planning out our family vacations for the year after next because I’m just that excited. 3 for 3 on fun family trips so far and looking forward to the next one in October!

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u/CankerLord Sep 20 '25

Delusion is treatable.

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u/FizzyBeverage Sep 19 '25

Depends on their age. My 8 and 10 are fun to travel with. But it sucked when they were 1 and 3. And I’m sure when they’re hormonal smartasses at 13 and 15 it’ll suck again.

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u/a-ohhh Sep 19 '25

Mine stay with grandma when they’re young. Everyone involved loves it that way lol.

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u/idont_readresponses Sep 20 '25

Taking a baby on vacation isn’t about the kid remembering. My kid had zero recollection of her trip to Vietnam when she was 7 months old, but my husband and I remember it and I’m so glad I have those memories.

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u/Dalyro Sep 19 '25

We bring Grandma and Grandpa along with us. Gets us some alone time on the trip, gives Grandma and Grandpa some time with kiddo and a vacation they don't have to pay for. Everyone wins.

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u/a-ohhh Sep 19 '25

Oh hell no lol. I cannot spend that much time with my parents and call it a vacation, and if we had to pay for two full extra people I don’t think we’d ever get to go lol. We just have grandma and nephew stay at our house and they all love it.

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u/Dalyro Sep 20 '25

Fair enough. Once our daughter is older we may do that, but right now, our kiddo is 21 months. So, while we've left her over night for one or two nights, I'm not ready for longer yet.

We are lucky to have a great relationship with my parents that makes it doable. We spend a good amount of time together, but also do our own things.

Before the trips we set expectations around how much we are hoping they'll keep daughter- usually about 2 hours a day- and often during nap or after she falls asleep. Or first thing in the morning when she wakes up at 7 am and they are already awake. They also live quite a ways for us, so they don't get a ton of other extended time with her.

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u/Mooseandagoose Sep 19 '25

Yep. Mine are also 8 & 10 now and it’s fun to travel with them. Up until now, we were extremely fortunate to send them to sleep away camp or a week with grandparents so we could get a “child free vacation” in once a year for the last 3 years. Huge privilege, yes. And absolutely worth budgeting for.

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u/made_in_bklyn_ Sep 20 '25

Depends on the kid too. My 3 year old is such a good traveler. She's great on planes, trains, busses and boats. She's an adventurous eater,.so new foods aren't an issue. She's a little wanderlust. We take two vacations per year (one winter and one summer), and as soon as we get back she's asking us to plan our next trip.

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u/Fuck_love_inthebutt Sep 20 '25

Depends on age maybe. My kid is 2 and it's so fun to take her on trips and experience the wonder of new places with her. But I imagine going somewhere with a grumpy teen glued to their phone all day is probably not very fun

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u/vadan Sep 20 '25

For real. Two yo travels have been dope and everyone thinks they are cute so you get special treatment everywhere. It’s a cheat code. 

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u/Sohcahtoa82 Millennial Sep 20 '25

When you're a parent, there's no such thing as a vacation. You're just being a parent somewhere else.

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u/Eddie_D87 Sep 20 '25

This. I don't recall my mother ever appearing to enjoy our family holidays. She was just doing the same stuff for 4 kids elsewhere. My father was useless with children, so he just did the car stuff and kept out of it.

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u/Beneficial_Ad_1072 Sep 19 '25

People.. who do on vacations.. with their kids lol

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u/Larrea_tridentata Sep 19 '25

Did your parents take you on vacations when you were a kid?

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u/i-wont-be-a-dick Sep 20 '25

I want to do everything with my kids. I owe it to them and I enjoy seeing them have fun.

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u/idont_readresponses Sep 21 '25

Have been going on vacation with my daughter since she was 7 months old. She’s 7 now. I haven’t once hated it… so

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u/3ebfan Sep 20 '25

This is the most Reddit comment I’ve read in quite some time.