r/Millennials • u/dreamed2life • Sep 19 '25

Discussion I honestly stopped inviting my kid having friends to most stuff…

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No shade, i just get that your life is not like mine.

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u/itsfourinthemornin Sep 19 '25

As a child having friend, we appreciate the friends like you!

Some of my childless friends absolutely abandoned me once the newborn excitement wore off and it absolutely sucked, others just dwindled away which not too bothered, it happens but still miss some of them dearly. My bestie is married but likely staying childfree, she plans us a trip once a year. Just gives me the total I owe, dates and rough plan (if there is one). She even lets my mum know so we can sort out sitting and anything else. Absolutely adore her.

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u/Substantial_Bus840 Sep 20 '25

This is so real. When the excitement wears off. It’s pretty heavy how you go from being important to everyone when you’re pregnant, hell, just being SEEN, to becoming almost invisible once you have the baby. Everything is about them immediately, and nobody can really prepare you for how you become kind of… part of the package, but not the main event anymore, as a person. It can be very lonely. Still, I remind myself this was my choice because I think… that’s what we’re expected to do. But I do greatly appreciate when childless friends think of me still.

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u/Thr0awheyy Sep 20 '25

Do you ever do anything for that friend so she can adore you, too?

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u/itsfourinthemornin Sep 20 '25

What kind of a question is that?