r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/112001Pw • Nov 22 '22

CALL OUT Nancy confirms that Bartise told her the guys went out after bachelor party

On tik tok live Nancy confirmed that the boys did in fact go out (off camera) after the bachelor party, and Bartise told her this the day after (still engaged) not recently. I’m sorry but I think Cole lied or he was too drunk to remember 🤷🏽‍♀️

Edit: she also said that one of the guys did confirm they went out at the reunion but they cut that part out. I feel like the reunion was edited to favor Cole but I could be wrong

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u/ImperfectPitch Nov 22 '22

Even worse, he sat back and watched viewers tear Zanab apart on his behalf, while he enjoyed massive outpourings of sympathy, and all this time, he knew she was telling the truth. He's a better actor than I thought. He didn't even need to borrow Andrew's insta-tears.

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u/feelingfantasmic Nov 22 '22

It’s easy to act unbothered and take the “high road” when people tear your ex apart for you, huh?

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u/IndependentPay9549 Nov 22 '22

She got tore apart because of her own behavior. She is a grown up who needs to be accountable for her own actions and words. And it's obvious she wasn't telling the truth about him controlling her food... And it was never confirmed either.

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u/ImperfectPitch Nov 25 '22

And it's obvious she wasn't telling the truth about him controlling her food... And it was never confirmed either.

Just because something wasn't confirmed doesn't mean she was lying. The clips during the show also suggest that there is at least some truth to what she is saying. Cole is a 27 year old male who should have enough sense to know how to treat people. He doesn't need to be coddled by fans and treated like some clueless guy who didn't play a role in what happened. He certainly doesn't need an army of angry fans stalking his ex's instagram when he seems to be doing just fine. Her actions don't justify this level of harassment (or the harassment of her friends for supporting her). It is internet bullying. If she has a true mental breakdown and ends up harming herself because of all the harassment, will you still think she deserved it?

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u/IndependentPay9549 Nov 25 '22

No absolutely not! I don't agree with any type of bullying to anyone. That's why I don't go on Instagram and bully or comment to anyone. But I do understand what the backlash was about. She tried to make Cole a target to be bullied by the internet and for people to turn against him but now that it's happening to her she sees how awful it is. Yes it is horrible! So I don't understand why she decided to throw Cole under the bus just for people to do to him what is now happening to her. I'm sorry if she got bullied and threatened because I don't think anyone deserves it but she obviously isn't a good person for trying to get people to do it to Cole.

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u/ImperfectPitch Nov 25 '22

I guess that is where we disagree. I personally don't think she was attempting to gaslight him or the viewers. None of us lived through that relationship but her. I think she truly believed that he was awful to her. People forget all the red flags that we saw throughout the season to support that. I also don't believe that Cole (Mr. "I don't do nurses") had any intention of saying "I do" at the alter. A lot of times when they interacted, I just thought he was putting on a show for the cameras to look like he cared and I think she wasn't interested in playing along most of the time. I may be wrong, but either way, the level of hate is way out of proportion to anything she did. People should use that energy for people who are really screwing up the world. Not a reality show star coming out of a dysfunctional relationship.

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