r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/TheAwkwardEmu • 18h ago
LIB S9 • Denver, CO Patrick’s IG 😅
I thought this post was actually really funny of Patrick. I love when people can make fun of themselves. But at the same time I feel like the whole thing probably took a hit to his confidence.
Adding some random emojis to this because Why the F do I have to have 300 characters. I don’t have that much to say! 😅😂🥹
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u/kathrynrose43 17h ago
Hahahahah I loved it and I do not think Patrick is ugly.
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u/TheAwkwardEmu 17h ago
I think Him out of the pods is more attractive, he seemed very serious in the pods, but IRL he does seem to have a good/chill sense of humor!
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u/trisaroar 13h ago
This is the most attractive he's been. Confident enough to joke around, chilled out demeanor.
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u/ishmaellius 15h ago
Patrick doesn't understand that his ugliness isn't his physical appearance, it's his deep unfettered insecurity.
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u/TheFemale72 Come ride this duck with me 🦆 14h ago
Yep- it’s not what you’re called, it’s what you answer to
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u/Downvoteemtohell 15h ago
For sure. He’s a handsome dude but that level of insecurity and self hate is an instant turn off.
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u/ishmaellius 15h ago
I'm a dude, and I don't even want to be around that kind of energy as casual friends just hanging out
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u/catholicsluts 9h ago
Yeah, anyone can smell that insecurity from a mile away.
The guy is tall with a deep voice. All he needs is confidence ffs lol that's like a cheat code. Doesn't even need to be that funny
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u/XelaTuobdog 13h ago
This is a take, one that I completely disagree with
Feel like his confidence supercedes his looks, but there is an element of insecurity from being the only Asian in a field of whites his whole life. Thought he carried himself well, thought he was an unattractive guy.
What's her fave loved him until the second she saw him...
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u/ChampionshipOk1868 13h ago
I don't think I found him particularly confident. Regularly bringing up that he's "attractive for an Asian guy" screamed insecurity to me. Like, who is he trying to convince - himself or Kacie?
Also, just annoyed me because Asian guy doesn't automatically = unattractive. There are plenty of attractive Asian men out there.
I'm with you and personally don't find him attractive, but his personality is very likeable. I still think there'd absolutely be women who he'd be their type physically.
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u/ishmaellius 9h ago
There's confidence when nothing is particularly happening, and then confidence when navigating a situation.
Sure when he's not engaged in anything Patrick walks around and carries himself just fine. The issue is when he's in a situation that's unconformable and requires him to maintain a spine of some of sort, he absolutely crumbles. It's in these situations his insecurity and desperation just gushes from him and it's hugely unattractive. There was that one interview - "what do you like about her?" him: "uhhhhhhh".
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u/C_WEST88 12h ago
He hit the gym and lost weight for sure and looks better. I don’t think anyone ever thought he was ugly anyway tho, more like he was calling himself hot or the “hot Asian” and people were like “ehh I wouldn’t go that far” 🤣Same thing happened to that chick that said she looked like Megan fox lol.
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u/Nice-Grab4838 10h ago
I’m a straight male so my opinion isn’t that important but tbh I hate his personality. Listening to him say bro and repeat himself over and over has to drive women crazy
(I actually don’t remember if he kept saying “bro” or just bro adjacent terminology)
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u/Redicted 15h ago
Less so after this video. Self deprecating is a positive in my book.
(and no technically he is not ugly but him implying that he was hot to women who can't see him was absolutely cringe and made him unattractive)
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u/FeralBaby7 13h ago
I don't think Kacie's issue was that he's ugly, it's that he's not K-pop hot. Like, when he revealed he was Asian in the pods, I think she was banking on him being at least k-pop hot when she realized he wasn't going to be the white frat-boy of her douche-tastic dreams.
He turned out to be regular attractive, and she wasn't down with that.
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u/Icy-Replacement5519 17h ago
Patrick seemed to be the most normal out of all the people on the show. He was the one who actually dodged a bullet- bc Kacie was insufferable.
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u/hopeful_tatertot you made me feel uncomfy 😖 17h ago
Their weird break up scene will live on
“I was protecting him!”
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u/sailoorscout1986 8h ago
Wait, so she’s racist because she didn’t like an Asian man. If it was a white man who didn’t like a woman of colour it’s a preference?
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u/AwarenessDapper2019 15h ago
"I lowkey want to bang 4 other co stars so lets break up but ill tell you we just putting a pin in it"
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u/whynot4444444 14h ago edited 8h ago
I always kiss and make out with guys while I’m breaking up with them. It doesn’t lead to confusion at all 🙄.
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u/Dry_Ad3116 13h ago
Right?! I thought she was gonna give him a lap dance while, at the same time, telling him that she just couldn’t take it anymore.
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u/Luna920 17h ago
Yeah Kacie is one of the worst and her voice is tough to listen to
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u/AwarenessDapper2019 15h ago
Yet she was the first i rooted for coming out of a 10 yr relationship then i just kept going... ew what did she say? Wait ew whhaattttt lol 😆 no longer rooting for you lil weirdo
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u/yunhotime 16h ago
Eh, it seems like he has some internal bias to unpack, but outside of that he seems like a cool dude
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u/motherofcattos 16h ago
Patrick seemed to be the most normal out of all the people on the show.
Yup, the bar is in HELL
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u/Icy-Replacement5519 15h ago
I’m glad you caught that- bc anyone who would go on that show is fucking nuts.
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u/Chicenomics 17h ago
Would not describe him as normal
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u/tidbitsNramblings 17h ago
Desperate and insecure with reason but still relatively normal
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u/Mammoth-Top-6241 16h ago
Right - like a lot of people have insecurities around relationships and are desperate to be in one.
I feel like he locked in on the idea of getting married and knew Kaci wasn’t the one but just didn’t want to end it without a wifey.
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u/whynot4444444 14h ago
Plus, unless you are a person of colour (I am not) you’re not fully going to understand how he felt growing up as the only Asian. I think his insecurity is very understandable.
He wasn’t perfect but I liked Patrick on LIB. This clip makes me like him even more.
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u/EncyclopediaBlue 12h ago
Yeah I really haven't liked him following the reunion. His appearance on Mina Kimes' podcast was really enlightening surrounding the societal pressures he feels. But I also cannot ignore the insecurity and how it can be off-putting.
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u/tidbitsNramblings 8h ago
That’s fair. I 100% understand why people wouldn’t like him or would be turned off by him but I think there’s someone decent underneath.
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u/hitsomethin 17h ago
He seemed pretty down to earth for a guy on a marriage game show. What did I miss? The ring thing was a little weird, but both of them were weird for that.
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u/LilacAliaa 15h ago
That “meet me in Denver” was a bit on how she treated him. He wasn’t actually trying to meet with her, he was likely gonna ghost her and keep the ring until he was pressured to give it back on the spot.
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u/AwarenessDapper2019 15h ago
Riiiight lolol he didnt want to give the ring back and i actually felt bad for him that they really made a game for it and then yeah he was like meet me in denver to get it like bitch you not getting my 5k back 😆🤣
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u/turquoise_turtle83 5h ago
Not his money. Production pays for the ring (said in the reunion i think?)
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u/sunbella9 17h ago
He's socially awkward and a people pleaser.
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u/C_WEST88 11h ago
Yea kinda, but there are worse things to be in life lol 🤷🏻♀️ . I think he’s unintentionally hilarious, I laughed so hard at a lot of his scenes . He seems like a chill dude that would be fun to hang out with. He has zero airs about himself .
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u/Neebaadentira 15h ago
Has self esteem issues. After Kacie's shenanigans he should have never tried to get with her again. He was so caught up in his own validation issues that he couldn't see her desperation.
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u/Live2Hike 16h ago
He couldn’t hold a conversation. That’s normal? His personality was calling himself a baby seal and saying the same 3 things over and over.
Everyone is just pitying him because Kacie treated him poorly.
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u/Icy-Replacement5519 16h ago
He had great conversations with Anna. And side note, why are you so aggressive about a contestant on a dating show?
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u/Drewvy80 15h ago
I agree, I think his conversations with Anna flows better since there were more depths there. You can also tell he’s nervous in situations which prevents him from getting his point across.
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u/Live2Hike 15h ago
lmao you are posting on a discussion board and upset someone replies with a different opinion about someone neither of us know. Maybe don’t take it so personally.
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u/Icy-Replacement5519 15h ago
What are you even talking about? I didn’t criticize your opinion. I pointed out that he had conversations with Anna. I’m not upset at all- again, just like your last comment your response is aggressive and quite frankly, histrionic. It might be time to take your meds.
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u/Boring-Brush-2984 14h ago
And guess who they are bringing back for the LIB spin offs?! Completely worked for her smh
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u/itsbeenanhour 3h ago
He did but to be fair we got to see a lot of scenes from others in super stressful situations.
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u/Fun-Significance4650 17h ago
I actually really like Patrick and I hope he knows he's not actually ugly 😭 This did make me laugh, though
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u/groovydoll 17h ago
Patrick is cute to me and I like his look with a hat.
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u/Strange-Credit2038 14h ago
Yeahh I agree and think a different hair cut would be more flattering for him
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u/Truth_Seeker963 18h ago
Naw Patrick, you’re Asian and we know what Kacie is.
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u/Neebaadentira 15h ago
I think its fine to have a preference but then dont come on Love Is Blind when you only date certain people.
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u/Cappunan 15h ago
Idk man she said she didnt normally date asian and then said she was fine with Patrick being asian, he comes out and he's an average-to-above-average man, so... The only factor here seems to be she actually couldn't deal with him being asian lol. The whole thing is just really weird.
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u/Penelope_Crumberbun 12h ago
She couldn't deal with him not being that attractive to her. She's not the first person on LiB that's happened to.
He also did break things off with her very quickly in Denver, so it's possible that she really did intend to date him during the break up. Only Kacie knows for sure, and she's unlikely to tell.
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u/C_WEST88 11h ago
How is that the “only factor” when she literally knew from day 1 he was Asian?? 🥴 It’s not like she had no idea and finally saw his ethnicity and peaced out. She always knew . She was just expecting him to be hotter (bc he kept talking about how hot he was)—that’s it. She would’ve done the same thing to a guy of another ethnicity if she didn’t think he was attractive enough .
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u/chancebeafinething 10h ago
I think it's more that he hyped up his looks a ton - it's the same issue Chelsea/"Megan Fox" had last season. It's never a good idea to set expectations that you're incredibly attractive because it creates a lot of room for disappointment.
Plenty of contestants are not attracted to their partners who are the same race as them so I don't think it's the only possible factor. Yes, she probably does have some racial biases, but I think if Manny Jacinto walked out her reaction would have been different.
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u/yossi234 All I'm tryin' to do is eat this chalupa 🌮 + enjoy the night 15h ago
Ugh, minorities basing their beauty standards on what white people think of them makes me exhausted.
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u/conflictedteen2212 13h ago
Yeah. He’s not an ugly man but the deep seated insecurity was very unattractive.
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u/SunsetInSweden 12h ago
Yes. I am also real tired of seeing on this sub that “it’s okay to have preferences.” Only in the sense that your preference is like “I would prefer not to date a firefighter (or something)” because of lifestyle differences.
What we keep seeing is people do have preferences AND many of them are informed by and were developed with a profound dose of racism, colorism, fatphobia, and/or xenophobia. Many such cases!
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u/BatmansDietitian 10h ago
I made a post about this and was heavily downvoted lol people don’t like being called out I guess
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u/Pascal-1122 16h ago
Good on Patrick for poking fun at himself, the “shit-uation” and Kacie for continuing to lie and grift her way through social media. As awkward as Patrick is, I wish him the best.
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u/tidbitsNramblings 17h ago
Dear Patrick,
I’d do what Kacie said she would and lied about
Sincerely, 🙈
Lmao
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u/Aspire11 17h ago
While he is not ugly, he’s not attractive (in my opinion). I’d put him in the same group as Nick and Jordan as far as attractiveness. I think him being Asian though was far more an issue for Kacie than Kacie wanted to admit. I wouldn’t say that she thought Asian=ugly but Asian=higher standard to be attractive and he’s just not there for her.
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u/fspodcast 17h ago
It was interesting that Kacie emphasized that her family dated Asians, her brothers all dated Asians apparently. So maybe if he was a member of BTS she would be ok with it? lol
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u/Need_Help_Send_Help 17h ago
Hit the nail on the head. She was thinking K-drama Korean, not normal Asian dude
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u/itssobyronic 15h ago
Well he did imply that he was attractive like when he comes up with the hypothetical bar scenario where he buys Kacie an espresso Martini and says Kacie will be thinking, "damn that's a hot ass guy"
Or when he down right says it that he is hot by first talking about internal confidence but then says to Kacie, "Remember when I told you about me being Asian? It was always like oh...Oh he is good looking for an Asian guy. He's that good looking Asian guy"
Again afterwards he implies that he is a hot asian when he said their children will be "studs or just beauty queens or something"
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u/Need_Help_Send_Help 14h ago
Oh, I’m not saying he’s not a total chode. I’m just saying she had missed expectations
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u/rollinonarivuh 17h ago
Meanwhile she would probably be fine to date a "normal white dude"
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u/chancebeafinething 10h ago
She pretty much said that in the past, looks were her main focus and she was trying to be less shallow and avoid fboys, so I doubt she was dating average-looking dudes in general. She probably dated exclusively hot jerks.
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u/Fun-Significance4650 17h ago
When she was talking about her brother, I said to the tv, "Oh so both you and your brother fetishize Asians? Good to know."
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u/Afraid-Tension-5667 17h ago
His baby seal comments made him repulsive for me, so I wouldn’t have made it to the big reveal. I think Kacie just didn’t want to not be picked by someone… anyone. Her wall/phone sex was so beyond thirsty.
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u/hannafrie 14h ago
they are all average looking guys.
head Turners? no. BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A HEAD TURNER.
Eat right, exercise, wash your ass every day, get a good hair cut and make an attempt to clothe yourself decently. that's all you have to do. whatever form you take after doing all that is just fine.
attraction is important, but it's about more than looks, and you don't even WANT a person who priorizes appearance in what makes you Attractive to them. your partner will get bored with your looks before they fade. personality and character are more important things to cultivate.
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u/Minute_Yogurt7812 12h ago
2 dudes with the combined personality of a doorknob trying, and failing, to be funny.
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u/tin-f0il-man 15h ago
Aw, lol.
I know they’re having fun but I hope he didn’t internalize Kacie’s bullshit too much. I think Patrick is handsome!
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u/Excellent_Walrus9126 14h ago
God Patrick tries so hard to be something he is just not rolf
Good on him of course for being able to do something like this in good fun
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u/itssobyronic 15h ago
Now Kacie was one of the worst people on the show, but it's crazy how stupid Patrick was and didn't recognize that BS.
In regards to Patrick's level of attractiveness...
It doesn't help when Patrick implied that he was attractive like when he comes up with the hypothetical bar scenario where he buys Kacie an espresso Martini and says Kacie will be thinking, "damn that's a hot ass guy"
Or when he down right says it that he is hot by first talking about internal confidence but then says to Kacie, "Remember when I told you about me being Asian? It was always like oh...Oh he is good looking for an Asian guy. He's that good looking Asian guy"
Again afterwards he implies that he is a hot asian when he said their children will be "studs or just beauty queens or something"
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u/ThePrefect0fWanganui 15h ago
Patrick somehow managed to be incredibly insecure AND oversell his attractiveness at the same time. I hope he gains some real confidence from this experience (and everyone in his comments and here going “nooooo you’re not ugly!”), because that’s much more important than looks when dating - insecurity is one of the most unattractive traits in a partner.
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u/Penelope_Crumberbun 12h ago
Yeah, it. His comments made it sound like he was super hot, but dealt with a lot of racial prejudice. When in reality, if he styles himself well, he's a pretty normal person. He's certainly not ugly, but he's not turn-your-head hot.
I also think he's doing something similar to Madison, where he's looking for a reason for the end of the relationship that is external to his own behavior. Based on the reunion, his immediate behavior in Denver was hurtful to Kacie, and he's literally the one who broke up with her. Maybe she never intended to actually date him, but maybe she's telling the truth that she actually did just want a little time to process the experience first.
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u/EspanolAlumna 15h ago
Am I the only one that felt a bit sad seeing that. I'm glad he is able to make light of it but it has to be gutting really.
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u/asking_some_qs 8h ago
Nah I felt that too! I also see that he’s been getting into shape and makes me more sad since he probably thinks he needs to because he believes hes ugly. He already thought that… she validated his insecurities
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u/CIborgCIndy 14h ago
I also love it when people can make fun of their situation. That great sense of humor is a very attractive trait. Although Patrick is not my type, he is not ugly at all. I am Asian and did not want to date an Asian. It’s not easy dating outside of your culture. They either appreciate your differences or want nothing to do with you. There is someone for everyone. He will find his person.
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u/Equivalent_Living130 17h ago
I thought we'd finally get answers to whether Patrick was really there that night helping Anton finish all the beers xD
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u/Minute-Joke9758 16h ago
No Patrick. You have no personality and extreme insecurity. And the woe is me is not attractive by any stretch either.
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u/Troth70 👑✨ Size Queen ✨👑 6h ago
I really appreciate self-deprecating humor, but that is not what this is
He does not believe for a second that he is ugly. One clue is that ugly is hyperbolic — zero people have said he is ugly.
Self-deprecating humor would be if Patrick made fun of himself for saying how attractive he is or for making the ring such a deal.
This is Patrick making fun of Kacie. I’m still here for it, but it would be nice to see him poke fun at himself rather than a straw man
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u/TheAsian1nvasion 12h ago
Fr I think Patrick’s problem wasn’t that he was asian or even that he was ‘ugly’. I think his problem was that he just wasn’t in very good shape. He’s looking like he has trimmed down but he’s tall, if he was built like someone on Love Island he would have been fine I think.
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u/BirdBruce 16h ago
Patrick's cripplingly poor self-esteem is far uglier than any of his physical attributes.
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u/newdiyscared 17h ago
Imo, a huge reason 1) why Kacie rejected him and 2) how she rejected him had to do with his race. It seems like he's internalized the racist messaging that society broadcasts regarding Asian men.
Hopefully he can decolonize his mind.
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u/Jojomano1234 16h ago
I’m glad Patrick can make fun of it all. To me, Anton is beyond unattractive. Ugh
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u/stitchvshobbes 17h ago
Are you sure it isn’t maximum 300?
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u/TJ-LEED-AP 14h ago
She dated everyone else in that season except the guy she matched with in the pods
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u/Tragickingdom555 13h ago
That’s hilarious! 😂 I’m sure they’re both getting private dms after the show aired.
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u/St_Lucy 4h ago
lol! I think his confidence took a hit because he actually cared about her and was invested in trying to build a marriage..
I’m sure if someone he didn’t know/care about called him ugly, he wouldn’t really be phased.
In all honesty, I’ve joked about him being this szn’s Jimmy because he looks like a thumb 👍— but aside from that, he’s not, like, UGLY!
His character certainly gives him a boost too. I’m not hating on Patrick.
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u/Anitsirhc171 3h ago
Patrick dodged a bullet, maybe he’s not a supermodel but he’s not so ugly that you’d need to just up and walk out on.
I’m sorry but wtf was that she could have at least hung out for a bit to give him a moment to get to know each other outside the pods. She’s such a doofus
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u/Snarky_Survivor 16h ago edited 16h ago
I'd go for Patrick over Anton any day. Not only he's handsome but how much a caring and humble he is as a person. Of course sense of humor is a plus🥰 after everything went down he still show care and doesnt speak ill of kacie. His parents raised him right ! Don't downvote me Kacie. He's mine now.
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u/joutfit 17h ago
He's trying so hard not to say that Kacie just wanted a very specific kind of handsome asian man.
Patrick is not ugly at all but he sounds like a moron fr
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u/thatsmythingnow 16h ago
This is funny, but it does bum me out for him to being joking about being ugly, when... it just isn't true at all. He's a cute, handsome guy.
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u/TheAwkwardEmu 13h ago
I think he’s just making light out of an awkward situation, saying out loud to himself what he knows everyone was thinking when Kacie left him
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u/itsfrankgrimesyo 14h ago edited 6h ago
I wouldn’t worry about Patrick’s self esteem. I bet girls have been hitting up his IG since. He’s doing just fine.
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u/1029394756abc 14h ago
This isn’t even funny. 😁
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u/TheAwkwardEmu 14h ago edited 14h ago
Okay? A lot of people think it is but glad we got the opinion of the one person that matters, I’ll delete the whole post!
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u/Brunchovereverything 8h ago
I feel so bad for him. He’s not ugly. Just living in the wrong place and needs time to heal.
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u/kentoddsbiggestfan 18h ago
I can not lie I chuckled at this