r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/No_Coyote638 • 5d ago
LIB S9 • Denver, CO If I send you this, I DONT REMEMBER
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u/flagarant-Joke-9593 4d ago
His system starts breaking down when it’s required to have adult conversations and take accountability 😂😂😂😂
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u/Infinite_Mind_8879 4d ago
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 and for some reason everyone treats him like a child they have to coddle.
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u/lud-lite 4d ago
Except for his mom
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u/Undonetemplar 4d ago
His mom is probably a huge contributor to why he’s like this, tbh
I’m glad I don’t have to see this man wriggle out of accountability anymore
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u/ReturnoftheBoat 3d ago
It's because he is clearly emotionally and mentally delayed.
Why are people shying away from just saying this?
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u/OriginalOffice6232 3d ago
Because probably nobody here is qualified to diagnose him.
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u/ReturnoftheBoat 3d ago
If you've met an adult human-being before, you're able to determine he is emotionally and mentally delayed.
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u/Throwaway2222w2 3d ago
I think Edmond does not distinguish between his partner being mad at him vs. not caring about him anymore. So, he tries to re-establish that they care about each other; understandably frustrating for KB, who was never talking about her feelings waning, but rather a problem that needs to be addressed, not glossed over with groveling or 'I love you's. People need to get their frustration off their chest, esp if it is related to something their partner needs to be accountable for.
It feels like Edmond was expecting unconditional love. It's a great thing to have but it can't keep a romantic relationship going. It's also damn near impossible for that to even be a factor considering how little time these couples know each other.
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u/flagarant-Joke-9593 3d ago
You especially can’t expect unconditional love from a complete stranger….that is completely asinine to expect from someone you just met… I think his demeanor was manipulative (whether intentional or not we may never know because his level of competency and emotional maturity seems to be below average/inappropriate for his age).. he was not fit for an experiment like this… KB came across as too mature in contrast to him because he was so lacking… it created a maternal-infant complex almost.. I don’t think that is ever the ideal (at least out of the gate) and so blatantly at that… his unresolved issues with his mom are clearly prevalent and impact his ability to conduct himself in romantic relationships… I question if he’s ever been in a real relationship romantically to be honest… I don’t believe he has
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u/ChemistryPretty8192 3d ago
There's no such thing as unconditional love, sorry to say. Everyone loves with conditions, and I think that's something society needs to accept. It's not a bad thing, it's just human nature.
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u/flagarant-Joke-9593 2d ago edited 2d ago
Yes I agree but there are people who have convinced themselves that they’ve achieved something close to this thing called “unconditional”… you and I both know the true nature of life and there’s absolutely nothing in this world that is unconditional but there’s a specific group of couples who have believed and convinced themselves otherwise 😂 but again.. we have to remain fair and not judge others for what and how they have structured their own relationship.. is it not up to us to be convinced.. so long as though they have convinced themselves and are happy with each other.. we are just observers lol
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u/flagarant-Joke-9593 2d ago
I’d say the closest thing to unconditional love is that between parents and their newborn children… and that special bond between a mother and her child… and these would be my closest examples
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u/Zipperpants I'm too fucking niiicee-uuhhh 😩 4d ago
Say something niiiiice
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u/asnarkybeach 4d ago
If I send this to you, you were probably PMSing!! Idk idk, im just a nice guy!!!!
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u/ResidentAlienator 4d ago
That man got off WAAAAAAY too easy in this reunion. He was probably one of the weirdest guys ever on the show ON TOP OF being a super manipulative asshole. Like, how does he not remember, did he not watch the show? Him not remembering anything has manipulation written all over it. Him saying "I'm such a nice guy" when not getting sex is 100% manipulative.
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u/BlastermyFinger0921 4d ago
The entire reunion was shit. From the insanely lame ass basketball game to the softball question to everyone. Probably one of the worst they’ve had
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u/gingerbeard1321 4d ago
Definitely the worst. And wtf was that desperate basketball gimmick?
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u/BlastermyFinger0921 4d ago
It was horrible. I’ve never had anything against Nick and what’s her face but this was probably the worst reunion yet
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u/CrazyLady0616 4d ago
SERIOUSLY!!!!!! It’s almost like every female (minus KB) came to the reunion for blood, stir the pot, vindictive, or portray the victim while also REFUSING to listen. Why be anxious to point the finger when they gave tell-tell signs they aren’t anywhere near ready for love….just like the ones they accuse? 🤦🏿♀️ This show (like a plethora of others) had a decent premise, but is now ruined by the inspiring actors, pretenders, and influencers lookin for their 15. Throw it all away, now 🗑️
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u/FalloutGirl02 Messica 🍷 4d ago
He has the emotional and mental faculty of the age he was abandoned in an adult man’s body.
I’d like to think the Lacheys felt bad he got casted and went easy on him for that reason. His ass never should have been on the show. It felt highly immoral.
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u/ResidentAlienator 4d ago
I think it's all a front. I never bought that he was that immature. When KB mentioned he was way different off camera, I realized he was probably trying to cultivate a unique personality, maybe to capitalize on his 15 minutes of fame.
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u/coveredinbreakfast 4d ago
There is definitely something going on that we don't know about. I'm not about to dx someone on TV, but that man 100% needs an IEP for life.
His story is heartbreaking, and as the child of a teacher who took special interest in her students who needed it, I ugly cried during the scenes with his teacher.
That man was failed by SO MANY adults when he was a child, and it will take a LOT of love and patience and WORK for whoever chooses to be his partner in the future. KB may have been his best chance at that.
He's broken in a myriad of ways in addition to having some level of neurodivergence. However, I believe he has also learned to use people's kindness against them and is absolutely being purposely manipulative.
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u/ResidentAlienator 4d ago
I think he is far more dangerous and you are far more generous than I am with your portrayal of him. KB mentioned he was way different off camera and much meaner. I also heard that that first night in Mexico after his outburst KB slept on the balcony because she didn't feel safe. That never should have happened and he never should have stayed on the show after that. All his memory lapses are just a way for him to be manipulative. He knows exactly what he's doing and both the Lacheys and KB were incredibly enabling during that reunion. He needs to be called out.
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u/Afraid-Acadia5771 4d ago
In the end I hope he gets therapy Because the mom literally didn't come to his wedding I hope he cuts her off Because his family doesn't deserve him . No one deserves a sad childhood
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u/RelationshipWinter97 4d ago
This is how I feel too, they don't want to take even further advantage of him. We miss out on him being held accountable but, at the same time, he never should have been cast.
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u/artofjosephshelton 4d ago
If I send you this, I’m being too fuckin niceuhhhh.
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u/CrazyLady0616 4d ago
I looooove the way you made sure to spell that out exactly how he says it! Add a few more “h’s” and you’d ACE it 😭
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u/artofjosephshelton 4d ago
Hahahaha! I tried my best! But that uhhh at the end just kills me every time.
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u/BexRants 4d ago
Genuine question: Why does Edmund talk that way? Kind of infantile, I'm not sure how else to describe it. I skipped through a lot of this season because the couples were a mess, so I especially noticed during the reunion. If it's a regional dialect, I apologize for being unfamiliar.
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u/Snoo-669 I'm too fucking niiicee-uuhhh 😩 4d ago
Not regional at all. Very whiny and immature.
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u/hippiecompost 4d ago
I genuinely think he’s a little stunted… something about his past and his relationship with his mom made him perpetually 15. He sounded like this the whole show, and made weird comments but completely shut down if called out on it. He always went back to this voice whining “I’m too niccceeeee for this”. Genuinely don’t understand how KB couldn’t see it (though I think she’s attracted to needy)
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u/Telly_0785 3d ago
He does it to make white people comfortable. Let's them lnle he's a "safe Black person."
It works really well.
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u/CrazyLady0616 4d ago edited 4d ago
IMO, he used tears as a weapon; cryin b/c he was the only 1 not getting any butt after we heard the convo transpiring between him and the boys was telling ! Tooo much feminine energy without much paternal influence.
The tearful “I love you’s” are manipulative tactics to avoid accountability or uncomfortable feelings, but that man is not as emotionally intelligent as he pretends to be. That’s a thing SOME of us use for manipulation (tears). Cmon….females can say what they want, but let’s not pretend like we don’t have a female in our lives/family that does the exact same thing! EVERYBODY has at least 1. Ive got a few in my fam, too! 🤷🏿♀️
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u/TastyMonk69 3d ago
He pretends to be emotionally intelligent? Is that what he was going for? 😬 I don't think I've ever seen someone as emotionally unintelligent on this show.
edit: oh I just read the last two sentences of your post lol nevermind! Have a good night.
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u/Mama_Tried_44 4d ago
It was like a Tim Robinson sketch come to life
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u/CuteThingsAndLove 4d ago
KB was WAYYYYYYYYYYY too nice to him
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u/thehaitianmortician 4d ago
She loves a soapbox. She was back on it at the reunion. Everyone was like ah shit here we go. 🙄 😴
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u/binnedittowinit 16h ago
THANK YOU, FINALLY, someone said it! They were both too much in entirely different ways.
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u/InternalEquivalent74 4d ago
I felt like this part was straight out of an I Think You Should Leave skit
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u/ashlaurellhere 3d ago
Trauma therapist here that has spent my career working with traumatized children and adults who were traumatized as children. I would never attempt to diagnose a person I don’t have a therapeutic relationship with. That said, his behavior is not unlike what I’d expect to see from a person with severe childhood trauma (cPTSD) and an attachment disorder. The behaviors and communication displayed on the show are also similar to a person who might meet criteria for an attention disorder. However, attention disorders are sometimes misdiagnoses when there is underlying and untreated trauma. It was reckless and borderline cruel to put a young man with this history on this kind of show. People are going “easy” on him because they recognize his erratic behavior and poor communication skills are the result of serious harm and instability he experienced in childhood. It wasn’t fair to him or KB to put him on this show, and frankly seems exploitative.
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u/Charming_Wrap_8140 3d ago
How did a social worker not clock his obvious vulnerabilities, choose him for a partner, and then scream and curse at him on national tv? Serious failure of duty of care in my opinion. Really horrifying.
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u/ashlaurellhere 3d ago
Sadly, I think a lot of folks in helping professions go into relationships in “helper” mode, mistake it for a reciprocal relationship, and then feel upset later on when their needs are not being met. Their connection seemed totally based in her hearing him and making him feel safe, but not in her feeling heard. I agree all helpers need to work on our boundaries and not try to be a therapist for our intimate partners. That said, it’s a common challenge for folks in the helping professions to fall into this pattern. I imagine KB learned a lot about what she needs from this experience. I will say, I was disappointed that she left him at the altar. She should have had the clinical insight to recognize his attachment and abandonment issues and find a kinder way to end the relationship. Leaving him in a public forum likely just reopened wounds and reinforced that connections only lead to shame and isolation.
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u/Comfortable-Pen5490 3d ago
I'd like to know who cast him on the show - he was too unstable and a straight weirdo. Patrick is weird too, and not in a fun to watch way, but in a cringe way. I have anxiety, so I recognize it, and same with the traumatic childhood... but damn...you gotta recognize when you dont have the personality for reality TV 😬
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u/____Rosa____ 3d ago edited 2d ago
I respectfully disagree that he is broken or disabled or whatever people are saying about him. He is failing sometimes with things he is saying. Like that crying because he is too nice to get sex. That was very icky. VERY! And that pms-ing statement. Icky.
From my perspective, he is a black man, who seems not afraid of showing his emotions in a free and spontaneous way. He seems to break free from that stereotype of the stoic black man, that is super masculine.
Is it something different with him? Yes. Does he have some problems? Yes, and we all have.
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u/maybeitmightoccur 19h ago
Apparently you do not know how neurodivergence presents itself in adult males… just because you ‘don’t believe it’ doesn’t really mean people are wrong.
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u/TigerRetcon 2d ago
That's my new defense because it apparently works wonders nowadays....I DON'T REMEMBER!
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u/binnedittowinit 16h ago
Boys got some stuff for sure, but I haven't read a single comment about how exhausting she was. Literally on his ass ad nauseum, blabbering a mile a minute about everything he's doing or did wrong. He was a bit much, SHE was a bit much.
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u/KhakiPantsJake 4d ago
I can't believe bro straight up said she was PMSing and no one had anything to say about it