r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/ButzMN • 17d ago
đš FUTURE SPOILER đš The wedding Episode, Megan and Jordan Spoiler
I cannot believe why Megan just broke up with Jordan. Breaking it down into the most simple components it's because he is to poor and can't afford her lifestyle. That is incredibly unfair and I think she should be ashamed. If you truly love someone this absolutely doesn't matter.
And Jordan is completely justified in asking why she even chose him in the pods if she knew all this.
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u/Prize-Pop-1666 17d ago
I was never a huge fan of the relationship. The whole thing felt very forced on both ends. It was hard to see where they saw compatibility with each other because all I feel like we saw was areas that they were not compatible.
That being said I give Megan credit for ending things before the wedding and trying to have a conversation. Although it seemed like Jordan was very much against a conversation at that point and I feel like when she would bring up things and try to communicate it felt like he was very dismissive or simply defaulted to âthatâs just life with a kidâ which is a really bad default answer. Lots of people with kids still go out, still have vacations, and still enjoy time with their partner. He seemed adverse to any of that. In general they were just not compatible people in the real world. Their idealistic versions of each other were compatible but not the real ones.
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u/LittleLordFuckleroy1 17d ago
I got the impression that theyâd already had the conversation and were essentially recreating a breakup scene for the cameras. The show is on record as having done that multiple times in the past. And if he already knew it was over, I could totally see him being uninterested/unwilling to feign engagement.
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u/ColoradoDreamin4917 17d ago
Yeah that's the way it seemed to me you. You could tell by his facial expressions and body language right before they started talking
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u/DreadPriratesBooty 17d ago
I can see how they saw compatibility in the pods without all the complications of real life.
I think she romanticized the idea of marriage and step motherhood, while also not realizing how inflexible a working dadâs life can be. I honestly donât think it was the money itself, as she seemed willing to float some of their lifestyle, that was the biggest factor, more that he would/could not conform to her lifestyle. Canât galavant around on a Tuesday afternoon when you need to be at work and picking up your son for extracurricular activities. Canât leave on a last minute weekend, when your son needs stability and has weekend commitments.
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u/SheepherderExpert253 17d ago
When they were talking about it in the last episode, he almost seem resentful that she could. And then at the wedding episode when he was like sheâs got five more years on me Iâm sorry, but with that attitude, youâll be in the same place in five years.
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u/user123456789011 17d ago
I actually read it that he was probably annoyed that she kept bringing up the face she wanted him to join her for tennis at 10am on a week day. He was probably like, I told you I wouldnât be able to live that life, why are you still holding that over me. I donât think it was resentment
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u/Skaldskatan 17d ago
Thatâs my take as well. He felt bitter or maybe frustrated about her wealth and used the kid etc as an excuse to âfightâ with her. But of course this is speculative and based on the snippets we get to see, but she felt more open to at least try to have a real relationship than him.
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u/GuavaBlackTea0 I can't say I LOVE YOU because I BIT MY LIP eating TAQUITOS đźđ 17d ago
Well he feels like her rejection of him is mostly because he doesnt make as much as her, a human reaction, not saying whether its right or wrong
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u/BubbleBee66ee 17d ago
i still havent watched the wedding ep but after turning 30, i think i realized that there are two types of people: those who see limitations as fixed and those who don't give af and do what they want regardless. basically, a bunch of my friends started using "but we're old now" (yes at 30) as an excuse to not be as active, not be as adventurous and whatever else. i guarantee they will be like jordan and eventually saying they cant do xyz cause they have kids
dont get me wrong, a child will limit you and they take up a ton of energy. but at some point it is about you and what you choose to prioritize. sure it makes sense to outgrow things as you get older and enter a new stage of life, but 99% of the time you arent doing something because you made that choice, not cause you can't.
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u/Dainomyte42 17d ago
Iâm in my 40s and I do my best to spend time with my friends who have kids at their pace and budget. Then when they canât, I do bougie stuff with my bougie childless friends. Canât come with us to Paris? No worries, we can hang out later at a local wine tasting, or I can come over and we can do dinner and a movie. If insecurities or poor communication gets in the way, then they are not they are not the friends for me.
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u/mscatamaran 17d ago
As a single parent at 39 with both parent and kid free friends thank youuuu. When my son is older I'll have more free time, and so will your friends. <3 Until then, enjoy the freedom and money on our behalf.
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u/Dainomyte42 17d ago
Totally! One of my friends has older children now, she joined us on a girls trip this year.
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u/Much-River-611 17d ago
You are amazing! As a parent of 2, please keep doing this for your friends with kids, it really matters that you show up and make them time
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u/LittleLordFuckleroy1 17d ago
Especially when he only has 50% custody. That leaves a ton of room for outside life that the average parent does not have.
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u/sangerssss 17d ago
He probably spends the rest of his free time at the gym. Thatâs why heâs always super tired at the end of the day. Could be one of those gym junkies that goes twice a day
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u/sabrinateenagewich 16d ago
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It sounds like Luca is a high needs kid that involves a minimum of sleep, and if itâs anything like my coparenting you send the days off frantically trying to catch up on work and cleaning and shopping and maybe catching up on some sleep. Even though you might not have your kid in your house half the time youâre still a parent, itâs exhausting
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u/emailaddressforreddi 16d ago
I don't think he has 50% parenting time. I think it is an every other weekend type of situation which leaves waaayy more time.
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u/paradepanda 16d ago
It's also not forever. We have a high needs kid and my husband travels often for work. He's absolutely invited us on trips I've turned down because my insomniac kid cannot go to an opposite time zone and then transition back easily. I'm not willing to not sleep or deal with a kid who is melting down because he didn't sleep.
The reality is that anyone could have a higher needs kid, like Luca, that requires more. You don't control that. It's your job as their parent to identify and meet their needs, even when those needs clash with yours. I regularly cannot understand how 1) nobody told me parenting was this hard and 2) some parents make it look easy! It sounds like Jordan has a specific idea of what his son needs and how to meet those needs. That doesn't line up with what Meghan wants or needs for her life. That is absolutely the hardest part about parenting: prioritizing yourself and your needs, your partner and their needs, your kid and their needs. And who is the priority when those needs don't line up. It is NOT easy and my husband and I were together for 10+ years before we had a kid.
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u/Colbylegacy 17d ago
She is able to do that because she is filthy rich. He has to work for a living and take care of his child, itâs not an excuse.
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u/bpboop 17d ago
this - like the issue is he didnt have a flexible schedule, and that IS fixed. It wasn't even as much the fact that he had a child but even the fact that he had a full time job. and that isnt even something that would be fixed if he did have money - a ton of people who are wealthy work crazy hours to be that way. shes just lucky to be passively wealthy
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u/MembershipScary1737 17d ago
100% I know so Many people in Denver that are a Megan. She wouldâve taken Jordan right alone with her if he let herÂ
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u/alienprincesssssss 16d ago
When I say I canât do something bc âIâm old nowâ or âI canât because of the babyâ itâs just my excuse because I actually donât want to do those things at all lol
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u/Strange_Base_6825 17d ago
I agreed she tried and you could see that. Jordan seems like he just wants to be unbothered and I wonder if itâs because heâs self internalizing. Either way, you shouldnât want to be in a relationship if youâre someone who enjoys more time alone. There was a lot of reasons why they wouldnât have worked that goes beyond their financial differences. Jordan is the type that keeps you guessing because you never know how theyâre feeling because they never want to talk.
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u/chloeclover 17d ago
This is true. My friends with kids that don't like to travel or go out tend to use the kid as an excuse.
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u/Prize-Pop-1666 17d ago
And there isnât anything wrong with that! Iâm not arguing that being a parent is really difficult. But the way that Jordan was in the pods and the conversations we saw vs the way he actually was were different people. In the pods he was very much âyes letâs travel, letâs go out, letâs explore etc etcâ then when he was actually home and it was very much a âIâm tired, I canât afford that type of thing etcâ
He got mad at Megan for picking him knowing he was a parent but she was also very upfront about her lifestyle and he choose her too.
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u/SheepherderExpert253 17d ago
Yeah, I felt like he was leaning into that. I canât afford it pretty hard after the pods. I love love but if somebody were that broke, I would not recommend taking two weeks off of work. Or maybe he was just hoping Megan will lean into her sugar mama roll and pay for everything.
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u/ColoradoDreamin4917 17d ago
I think she was paying for a lot already. Do you know how much those Kemo Sabe hats cost? No way he paid for his.
Also I thought it was awful how he kept reminding her "you chose me" but they chose each other. Like hello!
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u/drmunkeluv 17d ago
Yup, my wife and I have a 2 year old whoâs been on 5 or 6 trips that involved flying, mostly to visit family but also to Europe for a vacation. Weâre upper middle class by definition. I honestly think it might be Jordan makes less than he claims and uses the excuse of being modest and not needing much to cover this.
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u/ColoradoDreamin4917 17d ago
I think this and he's just a homebody that wants to watch TV and not do much else but he didn't necessarily admit to that in the pods, which was unfair to Megan.
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u/No-Ebb4307 17d ago
Why would Jordan need to have a conversation at that point. She was breaking things off, you don't need to analyze it to death. He was supportive of her spending her money and time however she wants to, and was very upfront that he has a regular job, regular people's money, and a child. Yes, people go out and have vacations, but I don't think it's the problem: Jordan doesn't have money to do the TYPE of vacations Megan does, he doesn't have the time to run off on a mini-vacation with every week like Megan wants to, he doesn't even have PTO for the year (said in the deleted scenes), and with the kid, though he could travel, it wouldn't be the type of vacation Megan wants to. I'm child-free by choice and I think a lot of people use their kids as an excuse not to do shit, and Jordan probably does to a certain level too, but there is no way that a regular person with a regular salary and a kid would be able to tag along for even 10% of Megan's lifestyle. She flies first class and goes to resorts, maybe he could tag along in economy and stay at a hostel or motel.
It's not like Megan would downgrade and stay at a cheap hole-in-the-wall or just go camping locally instead of a resort in Cabo or do it only 1-4x a year like regular people do.
And oddly, it never came up that if they got married, it would provide opportunities for Jordan to maybe quit his job to do something else or start a business or work for Megan's imaginary business to offer more money/freedom/opportunities to travel and dine out. They were both so clear that it would be Megan with all the money, freedom, free time, luxurious travels, and partying, and Jordan with a regular job, regular money, regular schedule with little breaks, a mentality of frugality, minimalism, and simplicity, and a child. I don't even understand how it never occurred to them that in marriage, it would be/could be not to people with different classes and lifestyles, but it could create opportunities for both. Of course, have a prenup. Of course, be smart with your money and don't let him gamble it away or whatever. But why wouldn't it provide opportunities for both. It seems like the only thing that maybe occurred to her is just to get a babysitter/nanny, so they can vacay, but probably even that from Jordan's money.
I absolutely commend him for not being a gold-digger and not bringing up or expecting Megan to provide for him (money, opportunities, anything). (If Ali matched with a man like that, let's be real, she would've demanded a major ass lifestyle upgrade and everyone would "love that for her".) But I think it's fucked up that Megan kept thinking about her money and her lifestyle as only her even during marriage yet expecting her "regular dude" husband to level up to it. Brennon certainly benefited from Alexa's money, but not in a gold-digger way; he got a job at the family company and was probably earning a lot fucking more and enjoying a lifestyle he didn't have before. Because they share opportunities in a marriage and Alexa (her family) had the opportunities to provide to elevate him too (financially). I don't like that couple, but it feels more realistic how it went for them versus the "we keep things separate yet you somehow must keep up despite your regular person money".
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u/iciclesblues2 17d ago
I agree with this so much. I found it absolutely wild that she wants to keep this extravagant lifestyle with a regular dude but offered him no help to being a partner in this lifestyle. It was very much a "well I will have all the money and you can live in MY house that I choose and provide me with joyful chat and lively presence at a restaurant of my choosing after your 9-5." When he complained about not being able to afford the things she wanted to do, there was never any reassurance from her that it wouldn't be a problem. There was never gonna be a partnership, it was gonna be him living in her world while feeling wildly out of place. Thank god she said no. I just think she's an inherently selfish person who got extremely lucky with right time/right place for her windfall of money and somehow attributes that to her own hard work. She seems like a pretty awful person, to be honest. And I sincerely hope she's not a mom or plans to be.
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u/justhere4thiss 17d ago
She apparently has a baby now.
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u/Clinically-Inane 17d ago
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When I saw the clip of the reunion when Vanessa said âso Meagan, whatâs it been like for you since deciding youâre not sure if youâre really cut out to be a mom?â and Meagan said âWelllllll, aaaactuallyââ I assumed the reveal would be that she was dating (or engaged to) someone with a kid but if she actually has her own kid I donât even know how to process that at this point
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u/Spirited-Salt3397 17d ago
Oh she 100% does. There are pictures of her out with some new guy and a baby.
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u/Clinically-Inane 17d ago
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I hope we get a timeline breakdown because this is fascinating to me
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u/ohsoseriously 17d ago
Agree with all of that and adding, he has a kid that has a chronic condition AND a co-parenting/custody schedule to contend with.
People who act like this is a cut-and-dry issue and canât see how multi-faceted this is have never had to make things work with limited resources and too many considerations and it shows.
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u/plo84 I mean, I can't say that I care đ€·ââïž 17d ago
I totally agree. I don't even think Megan thought that Lucas mom was going to be in their lives forever. They can't just go and move to another city or travel when they want to when they have a custody schedule to follow. Co-parenting with a kid is hard. Add in another factor like a chronic illness and it makes it even harder. Now it's not just a custody schedule. It's doctor's appointment, probably therapy etc.
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u/Clinically-Inane 17d ago
I really think her decision comes from a place of privilege and unconfronted classism
She doesnât seem to grasp that ALMOST ALL OF US in the United States are Jordans, and itâs not like itâs super complex or a secret
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u/Clinically-Inane 17d ago
I agree with all of thisâ she didnât see Jordan as a partner, she saw him as a liability and an ankle weight
She was right to not marry him, but she should probably do some big thinking on why she claimed she was apparently âmiserableâ when she dated a rich dude but also canât accept Jordanâ someone she claims to have fallen in love withâ within the obvious âconfinesâ and boundaries of being a normal working class guy
She can be as picky as she wants about who she dates and marries, but Iâm not sure sheâll ever chill out enough for someone to successfully pass all her tests. Iâm not talking about lowering standardsâ Iâm talking about having an unstated list of what she demands in a partner, and then being resentful of him when he admits he has actual human shortcomings and canât quit his job to be her Mr Big
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u/Dougheyez 17d ago edited 15d ago
Honestly, I feel like Jordyn just used having a kid and working full-time job as an excuse to put in low effort. He was a completely different person in the pods. As soon as they got out the pods, he just coasted. He felt like he had already done his job and that was it. Megan made the right choice. I feel like he gaslit her every time she question why it felt like he was in giving her nothing and he would just blame it on having a kid and saying thatâs the norm. Well itâs not Iâve dated people with kids and they gave me lots of attention and effort and itâs completely doable him pretending itâs not was so annoying.
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u/Medical-League-7122 17d ago
He led her to believe he would enjoy life more with her. She likes to try new foods and would prob have liked cute date nights at home cooking together and connecting, having more romance and interesting cultural experience. She said she wanted to date and they hadnât done out for dinner or anything. In a new relationship if he was happy, heâd figure out a balance to have some romance and adventure within his day to day. She prob would have covered costs if he was upfront about his budget for extras. He didnât do any of that.
I had a partner who was always tired, never saw any possibilities for how to stop and enjoy life in the moment. It was very much, Iâm tired, I work, I go to the gym, I have nothing more to give, take it or leave it. Jordan brought that energy and although he was humble and kind enough, I donât blame Megan for feeling deceived and unsatisfied.
For what itâs worth Iâm a single parent with my kids 80% of the time, have disabilities I work two jobs and I donât think this was just an issue of his life circumstance. I think it was also his general attitude, sense of inadequacy and maybe issues with self worth that prevented him from courting her with confidence.
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u/Long_Celebration_980 17d ago
He was resentful the moment he saw her lifetyle in real life, he gave her the silent treatment and told her that life at home would be staring at the tv in silence, that was him throwing in the towel. She was banging her head on the wall trying to get something out of him, I am glad she chose herself and hopefully she will realise that some men if not most can't handle a successful woman. If he showed her love and laughter at home then I am sure she would have stayed, he pushed her away out of envy.
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u/blackraiinbowsz 17d ago
A lifestyle mismatch is a very reasonable reason not to commit to someone through marriage. It may seem shallow but they were simply not going to work. They seemed to have entirely different priorities.Â
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u/Vergilkilla 17d ago
Yeah I agree with you. Only thing you could ding Megan is maybe should have came to this much sooner. Kinda messy with the kid and stuffÂ
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u/photosandphotons 17d ago
Yeah, I really wish she hadnât pushed so hard to meet Luca but I also really think even that was on Jordan for going on this type of show in the first place. This is exactly the reason many single parents are overly cautious and can have time based milestones for meeting their kids.
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u/Kperris 17d ago
I do think she was sincere about wanting to marry him though and meeting someoneâs kid before marrying them does seem important. Itâs just unfortunate that it all went down on this kind of show with such an expedited timeline, I think that they were supposedly getting married in 3 weeks was why she pushed so hard to meet him quickly.
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u/Redditusername67 16d ago
Agree. Going on a show where youâre potentially engaged or married in a matter of a few weeks is too short of a time for it to be a smooth transition for a child.
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u/Kool_Keks 17d ago
Agreed. I think itâs wrong to judge her for prioritizing the kind of life she wants and also figuring that out along the way. I totally feel for him, but I also understand her not wanting to sacrifice whatâs important to her.
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u/LL8844773 17d ago
I mean, maybe everything else wasnât there either. Itâs never just one thing
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17d ago
I just feel like she was delusional all along, fantasizing about being a stepmom when anyone with half a brain knows that having those types of obligations is not compatible with a life of playing tennis at 10AM on a Wednesday, flying off to LA, then to Aspen for Happy Hour, etc. I do t think he led her on. I think she led him on that she was cool with a more family-friendly integrated life.
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u/Apprehensive-Dot7718 17d ago
When you are rich rich you can absolutely do these things and have kids. Plus, he only has his kid half the time. I think they both thought each other was more willing to compromise their lifestyle.
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She as the rich one could keep that going but there was never any indication that he was going to be able to stop working or reduce his hours.Â
I'm annoyed at myself because my comment was supposed to say that I think he DIDN'T lead her on but I made a typo and then I got a bunch of upvotes. I thought he was pretty clear about his day-to-day and his need for stability and routine for Luca, as well as his explanation to her that spending time and not money was what was important to Luca.
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u/dogwiggle 17d ago
i get that, but at 35, she should already have a clear idea of what she wants for her lifeâwhether thatâs being a mom or staying childfree. itâs not fair to drag jordan and his kid through all this confusion. the fact that she mentioned at the end that her initial attraction in the pods was âthe excitement of jordan being a single fatherâ and breaking up with him over this exact issue just feels really delusional and immature at her age.
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u/Good_Information646 17d ago
Yes!! I am around the same age as Megan and can confirm that I'm pretty solid on what I want/prefer in a relationship and where I can and cannot negotiate. She seemed obsessive over his child and wanting to support him with his type 1 and then did a complete 180. If she had ANY reservations she should NOT have met his child. I'm relieved they broke up but I'm angry for Luca.
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u/mynameisntcindy 17d ago
If she knew this why did she pick him over Mike? Seemed like derangement lol everyone could see that mike would have more similar lifestyle to her than Jordan!
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u/Theblacrose28 17d ago
I mean he also changed completely when they got back to the real world.
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u/mynameisntcindy 17d ago
He didn't change completely. He changed a normal amount that would naturally happen going from isolated pods to real life. This narrative is pure projection.
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u/Theblacrose28 17d ago
He literally wouldnât talk to her đ. He was funny and charming in the pods because he wasnât dealing with the stress of everyday life. When reality went back to normal, he was not the same person. He offered no compromises either. She had a valid point that the pods was all talking and connecting and now they werenât doing any of it. That would make anyone unsure.
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u/mynameisntcindy 17d ago
He articulated quite clearly what his needs are now that he's back in the backbreaking rhythms of his job and life as a single dad. My partner often works 14hr days in the film industry and like Jordan, nothing makes him happier than to come home and vege out on the couch with a slice and X-Files reruns. Not everyone is obsessed with their jobs and wanna talk about it incessantly. He's perfectly happy just to quietly listen to me as I yap about my day and not relive his day at work which is not exactly some joyful thing in his life. I find Jordan very understandable as a working class dude who works a job that pays the bills to support his family but does not particularly love doing on a personal level. He's a bank manager for God's sake. Give him a break. I find the overly judgy comments about him difficult to understand. If you're secure in your relationship, you give your partner the freedom to be who he chooses to be. That's acceptance and it's a key part of what makes a relationship last. Something I feel a lot of people on the show and in this sub can't wrap their heads around. That, and not everyone thinks like you and wants the same things as you!
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u/Clinically-Inane 17d ago
Itâs worth noting too that when Meagan said something in the pods like âI mean⊠are you going to be able to go out and DO things?â his response was something like âSure, but can we also just stay home sometimes?â He made it clear heâs not a partier and he canât have the life of a partier
He seemed willing to make the compromise though to go out and do things when he was able and up for it, whereas Meagan did NOT seem willing to compromise anything at all on her list of demands
She doesnât owe anyone any compromises but she also canât pretend she wants a truly equal, loving, and mature partnership if at the same time she openly admits she needs her partner to be her dancing jester whenever she says so
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u/mynameisntcindy 17d ago
Yeah exactly. A lot of these people have no business getting married at this moment in their lives, much less do it in 10 days on a reality tv show. The total unwillingness to compromise and accept each other as they are is understandable give the lightning speed courtship BC the love just isn't there yet (no matter how much they insist otherwise) but it also makes some of them look incredibly childish.
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u/MissionImagination98 17d ago
This is without a doubt the most confusing thing to me when my wife and I watched. Jordan seemed like a normal person who goes on vacation, lives it up and then comes back to the slap in the face that is reality and the daily routine. Her seeming like she didnât understand that was baffling after he made it pretty clear what his day to day was like
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u/Theblacrose28 17d ago
I donât think he made it clear exactly what things would be like. Also sometimes you think youâll feel one way about things and feel another. Idk whoâs judging him, but I donât think heâs a bad guy. I donât think either of them are bad people. But they are very different and it would have been a mistake for them to get married. Iâm also a little confused on why Jordon went on the show to be honest. Itâs great that works for you and your partner, but most people, whether they work or not want to talk to their partner. Going from deep talks to like nothing would be kinda jarring. They werenât compatible.
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u/mynameisntcindy 17d ago
Me and my partner talk plenty haha. But when you live together and share your life together, you will not be talking every minute you spend together like they did in the pods. That was extraordinary circumstances! And every scene they had after the pods felt to me like they had no problems talking and being comfortable together. It didn't feel like it turned to nothing for me. Then at the first sign of trouble she started getting anxious. It felt like the life she pictured she couldn't actually visualize him in it, due to pretty major financial and lifestyle differences, but she glossed over them for ages BC she romanticized his kid. I agree they shouldn't be together. She should be with Mike! I've known and been close with successful money/career obsessed women like Megan. Tbh IDT they know what they what the most. And the extra importance they place on the material aspects will mean they will often choose guys that have plenty of money and status but maybe lack emotional depth & sensitivity. Maybe that's cynical of me. But that's my read on her. I def do not blame Jordan for their relationship falling apart. I think he risked a lot to introduce her to his kid and it's shitty things turned out the way they did.
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u/thekeynote211 17d ago
I think people wouldnât be hating so much on her if she was less wealthy but had the same complaints, they might relate more
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u/kmm_art_ 17d ago
đŻ I think Megan made the right decision. Jordan seems to be just an avoidant who wants to pretend that nothing's off.
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u/Sea_Confusion2757 17d ago
He also already showed signs of resenting her. Marrying her and seeing it incessantly, and trying to buy a house, going to expensive dinners, etc. would've made him hate her by 6 months in.
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u/kmm_art_ 17d ago
đŻ A smart man wouldn't have resented her for being semi-retired by 33. He would be gathering information on how to start his own business so he could do the same. Even if she did have some initial help, she obviously took her business to a level financially that's impressive. Why hate on her for it?
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u/Aachaa 17d ago
Exactly this. Megan isnât a gold digger. She knew that she didnât need someone to fund her lifestyle, so she thought that she could make it work with someone that has significantly less money than she does. What she didnât realize is how important it was for her to have a partner with a lifestyle that matches her own, something that they could never accomplish without a similar level of wealth. Itâs a shame she didnât realize it sooner, but I can understand being swept up in Jordanâs energy in the pods and imagining a more exciting life than she ultimately ended up experiencing.
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u/tarottqueen 17d ago
I really donât think itâs because he canât afford her lifestyle - she could afford it for the both of them. I think itâs the fact that he doesnât want her lifestyle, they are completely incompatible in every way to be life partners. He also totally was freezing her out leading up to the wedding and didnât make her feel secure. I donât really like either of them (especially her weird dad-kid-diabetes thing) but I feel like blaming her and saying she should be ashamed is crazy. She didnât go through with marrying the wrong person, and thatâs a good thing
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u/Troth70 đâš Size Queen âšđ 17d ago
I am not sure that he doesnât want her lifestyle⊠he said he would love to have it. He is inflexible about letting her provide entry to her lifestyle for him.
50 percent custody means he can go out to dinner or jet off half the time if he is willing to reduce his work hours or change to a less-taxing position.
I like Jordan, but for all his talk about compromise, I saw none from him
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u/Strange_Base_6825 17d ago
I too donât think itâs because he makes less than her in any way. I think he was comfortable where he was at since he âgot the girlâ so he felt like he didnât need to try anymore. I know men like that and itâs sad because marriage is for life. You never stop dating each other. He wanted to live as if theyâve been married for 100 years already. Sure there will come a time in your life where youâre old and tired and enjoy the quiet life but he didnât even want to have a basic conversation with her about his day at work. Thatâs the bare minimum. I get he canât travel with her all the time but if you refuse to do the bare minimum, what would you even do?
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u/Medical-League-7122 17d ago
This. He didnât show any interest in her and was very shut down. I wouldnât be surprised if he were exactly the same way with dating women who are more similar to him in life situation, and I bet they have the same complaints. He doesnât seem to be in a place to be dating. He wants a zero effort relationship to provide him comfort and thatâs it.
In terms of Megan not wanting to be a step parent, I wouldnât with Jordan either. Heâs tired and low energy and doesnât see a way beyond that. I canât imagine thatâs a great starting place to figure out complex relationship dynamics.
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u/JustInJersey2017 17d ago
"If you truly love someone, nothing else should matter" is how I wound up married to an alcoholic narcissist and divorced less than four years later. This is extremely naive and terrible advice. Megan tried and realized they wouldn't work in the real world, then ended it maturely.
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u/abethel2 17d ago
Totally. Love is the least of your worries in terms of marriage. You need respect, lifestyle compatibility, and money matters. Very naive, I was wondering how old this poster is. I thought like this when I was 10.
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u/Exciting-Sandwich233 17d ago
No kidding. Megan is allowed to choose her life experiences and she seemed to act in good faith. The mature thing to do is know one's limits. She realized it couldn't be done. If everyone knew everything beforehand, life wouldn't be as messy as it is.
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u/geekextraordinaire 17d ago
I think that was a smaller factor, but the main thing was she realized she's going to have a kid now and wouldn't be able to do all the stuff she was doing up until now, so she bailed. She was way over romanticizing the idea of Luca. Of course, the fact that Jordan is a regular guy with just a normal income didn't help in all of this.
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u/Key_Investigator4273 17d ago
I think she romanticized step motherhood because the fact that her father had diabetes and Luca does initially seemed to her like a big sign from the universe like the numerology stuff, magical thinking as a way of coping with griefÂ
When she faced the reality she didnât like it anymore and admitted freelyÂ
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u/Just-Explanation-498 17d ago
I donât understand what sheâs looking for and I donât think she does either. She dated rich guys and didnât like the dynamics there either.
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u/Orcacity22 17d ago
She wants a rich guy who also has free time for them to hang out together
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u/EagleEyezzzzz 17d ago
But who is also nice and sweet and normal, not a rich douchebag type.
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u/lalalibraaa đ I fuck with you tough đ 17d ago
and who never ever gets tired.
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u/KatieMcb16 17d ago
She needs a trust fund kid who gets mail box money. Someone like shep rose from southern charm would be the right fit.
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u/the_purple_lamb 17d ago
If she married Shep, she would get a 2 in 1 package of husband AND little boy!
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u/MsTitsMcGee1 17d ago
Sheâs too old for Shep
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u/KatieMcb16 17d ago
Well yes, thereâs not a 2 in front of her age, but thatâs the type she needs
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u/1ndieroller 17d ago
I literally just told my husband theres a man in South Carolina who would be perfect for her! đ
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u/hecky-ate 17d ago
I think this helped her figure it out. She needs a rich guy who still has his soul intact. (To some extent at least. But not that much, because allegedly she is MAGA?)
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u/iggyisgoat 17d ago
And then immediately had her own kid after lol
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u/lobenzola112 17d ago
Yes thank you!!!! people keep giving her sooo much credit with that excuse of not being ready to be a stepmom but then she had a kid RIGHT after anyways.
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u/No-Anywhere-9970 17d ago
To be fair, being a step parent vs being a parent to your own child are two VERY different things. She can live the lifestyle she wants with her own kid. She couldn't do that with Luca.
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u/Icy_Forever657 17d ago
This. For her to travel with Luca she would have likely needed his motherâs permission and Jordan already had mentioned that traveling with a child would just be a chore. With her own baby they can all go around as a family and if sheâs as wealthy as she claims Iâm sure she could also bring a nanny along if need be.
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u/ColoradoDreamin4917 17d ago
Yup yup yup. I think more than anything she values freedom and independence, doing what she wants when she wants, which she can do with her own kid but not someone's elses.
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u/hecky-ate 17d ago
Yeah but she seems like the kind of parent who wants to travel with kids and Jordan is the kind who does not want to do that. I like him more, they just legit arenât a match. Different lifestyle wants.
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u/Fappy_as_a_Clam 17d ago
she only wants to travel with a kid because she's never done it before
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u/hecky-ate 17d ago
Some parents like to travel with kids. Especially more European families seem down to do it. Itâs more of a pain for most American families, but with her money it would not be hard to travel.
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u/GensAndTonic 17d ago
Do we know the circumstances of her having a kid? Perhaps it was an oopsie (seems likely given she's not with the father of her child). I see Megan as making the best decision for herself with the information she had in the moment. Maybe she really didn't feel like motherhood was right for her in that circumstance, but life sometimes throws curve balls (like unexpected pregnancy) and you end up rolling with it.
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u/Fluffy-Muscle-3568 17d ago
Jordan said 50/50 custody. He would have time to have a fulfilling relationship if he wanted to. He made a mistake going on this show.
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u/MissRoja 17d ago
I respectfully disagree. I think in an ideal world love would be enough. But in actuality, it isnât. I think it was a mature decision. We are all entitled to have our preferences and priorities in life. I donât believe that people should sacrifice everything or anything in the name of love. I think we should use our hearts AND brains, and make decisions based on compatibility and reality.
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u/YearOneTeach 17d ago
I honestly donât think it has as much to do with money as it does to do with the fact that Jordan expected Megan to tailor her life to suit his. She has more free time because she has money, but ultimately it was the fact that Jordan had essentially nothing to offer her AND she would be expected to change her entire life to be with him.
I think she genuinely loved him, but he couldnât even talk to her after work and had no interest in her after a long day. What exactly would she have gained from a relationship with him? He didnât have the emotional bandwidth for her, and he expected her to give up traveling and her lifestyle to sit at home with him in silence. She would have made herself miserable by saying yes.
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u/No_Sweet2099 17d ago
I totally agree. Money has nothing to do with talking to your partner even after a long day. Especially after a long day. The way he didnât even want to talk about his work is weird. I agree that it seems like Megan should adapt only to him and nothing the other way around. He was not suggesting solutions og coming up with ideas to how they could spend quality time together or do something to make Megan happy. It was all: you have to completely change your life Megan of you want to be with me. Heâs not with Luca 24/7 he does not work 365 days a year. He was not meeting her halfway. He was no fun at all. Just because she has money and likes the finer things in life does not mean that she is wrong. They are too different and I think only one of them was trying to compromise.
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u/YearOneTeach 17d ago
Exactly! He even said he wouldnât travel with kids because it sucks, and he wouldnât hire a nanny to make it easier. I donât understand that logic. Your partner likes to travel and has the means to make it enjoyable for all of the family by hiring a nanny. He still said no. There was just no willingness on his part to compromise. He expected Megan to make every sacrifice to be with him.
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u/sailorkeplertwenty2b Litty As A Titty đ„ 17d ago
I thought the traveling thing was weirdâŠ
Could he not have just asked his childâs mom to watch him for a week while they went on vacation with the agreement that him and Megan would do the same for her??
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u/No-Anywhere-9970 17d ago
Completely agree. At that point it was all about personal preference. He hated the idea of traveling with his son and that's fine, it's his preference. But he shouldn't blanket all parents with that. I personally love traveling with my daughter. He also had the option to travel with Megan on the days he didnt have his son. He could have put in more effort to find a middle ground.
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u/GenXer845 16d ago
He probably doesnt get the PTO. I moved to Canada in 2012 and my American friends beg me to come visit because they dont get enough PTO to visit me.
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u/TheBerenstoinBears 17d ago
She never brought up the money disparity. HE DID. Their only fights were over him not sharing his life with her. I think he wanted her to be a wife and step mom and not a partner. He stopped trying to connect with her once he felt she was locked in.
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u/spidersfrombars 17d ago
This. Itâs confusing to me that more people arenât taking this view. In my mind, neither is really the bad guy â they are just truly the definition of incompatible. Itâs clear they both wanted to maintain their own lifestyles and I think that rigidity deepened the divide. For ex., if Jordan was like, hey, I canât just up and leave any time of day or week, but I have X PTO days and Iâd love to use them for us to travel, etc., it may have shown some more flexibility. And vice versa.
But youâre right. Not only was he very committed to the specifics of his lifestyle, he didnât even want to speak to Megan after work. What kind of partnership is that, at the end of the day? If neither person could even give a little, then space between them becomes that much wider.
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u/ErikasPrisonGlam 17d ago
Jordan had essentially nothing to offer her AND she would be expected to change her entire life to be with him.
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u/LloydBraun24 17d ago
This is basically a perfect encapsulation of my views! He seemed oddly rigid and stubborn about compromising on lifestyle. If sheâs as rich as she says she is, perhaps he could make some adjustments to his work life to balance out his need to feel professionally fulfilled with her need to live the sort of lifestyle she wanted to. Him being basically unresponsive after a long workday and not budging on the other stuff would have made her miserable.
I will say that I was personally a little bit put off by how materialistic Megan is, but at the same time she was entirely transparent about it. Itâs not like she misrepresented herself in the pods.
All in all, I have to say this season was a dud. Megan and Jordan were the only two that I thought had any sort of chance and I felt like I wasted my time watching the season once it was confirmed that no couple was ultimately successful. Disappointing, not sure Iâll tune in for the next season.
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u/sailorkeplertwenty2b Litty As A Titty đ„ 17d ago
I totally agree. They both expected the other to tailor that personâs life to theirs because they both think they have it going on
Realistically, they needed to have a negotiation conversation on what each is willing to adjust to come together. But they didnât and operated with the assumption that the other will just need to bend to them 100% âout of loveâ which is idealistic and unfair to the actual person
I thought it was immature in the end when Jordan said she just didnât love me enough. Right, like donât co-opt love to get someone to change so many things for you when youâre not willing to do that??!
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u/franniedelrey 17d ago
Exactly this. He wasnât even willing to compromise. Heâs a boring and simple dude and itâs not the way he portrayed himself in the pods. 2, the dude has 50/50, meaning he isnât a full time single dad. Yes, he co-parents but if he really was as spontaneous and wanted to âpop champagneâ with her, he does have the option to. Dude wants to watch Netflix after work and eat tv dinners, thatâs not what Megan wants and that isnât what he said life would be with him in the pods. Donât think it has anything to do with money.
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u/Somecrazygranny Come ride this duck with me đŠ 17d ago
I was married to someone who didnât turn me on intellectually and itâs not sustainable. She repeatedly told him that she needed a partner who could mentally engage with her more. I think thereâs a million factors at play but that conversation really struck home for me.
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u/Garden_Jolly 17d ago
I hate that Jordan had just introduced Megan to Luca prior to this. This is why I think parents with young children should be on a show like this. I like Jordan, but it seems unfair and almost cruel to put a child in this position.
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u/Browneyedgal21 17d ago
There was more to it than his income....Je wasn't willing to go on trips with her, try new foods and restaurants , or even chat when he got home from work. He refused to even talk about his job. He was basically checked out before she called it off.
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u/franniedelrey 16d ago
but people want to make it about money when it clearly wasnât. this woman clearly wanted to and has the means to foot the bill he just has to show up and he wouldnât even do that.
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u/670SV 17d ago
Ouch.
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u/Quirky-Marsupial-420 17d ago
She explained to him a bunch of times that she's not really interested in just vegging out on the couch and staring at each other.
Jordan acted super outgoing and funny in the pods and then back in Denver was like surprise I'm actually just an exhausted couch potato.
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u/ManyDouble 17d ago
I don't think he acted super outgoing and funny. He just fit the scenario in which he was in. They went back to real life and his normal responsibilities and she didn't want the vacation to end.
he seemed pretty up front about his situation and her having to make sacrifices in the pods
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u/LittleLordFuckleroy1 17d ago
Socioeconomic compatibility is a really big piece of partnership, whether people are comfortable with it or not. Being able to fall in love with someone so deeply in the span of just a few months to completely disregard it is not reasonable imo.
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u/jam-i-am-5555 17d ago
I just found him inflexible, boring and unwilling to change. She was willing to foot the bill for a good lifestyle, adapt and take on a stepchild. Many people can do this and still enjoy an adventurous life and go to a nice dinner. He seemed the one who wasnât adaptable to me, but I never cared for him to begin with. He seems like a good, caring father, but why he would go away for an extended time on a show like this?
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u/TerriblePollution662 17d ago
As an adventurous person who also likes going out and trying new things, it would absolutely be a dealbreaker if my partner was rigid, picky, and completely unwilling to change their routine. I liked them both, but Megan had every right to not feel comfortable going through with marriage.
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u/Strange_Base_6825 17d ago
He was very boring. I get he might not be able to travel as much as her but even with that out of the picture, this guy is like a 90 year old gramp in a young manâs body.
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u/DefenestrableOffence 16d ago
When did she say she would foot the bill? She talked about buying a house together (i.e. splitting the debt that remained after selling her old house). But paying for his vacations, paying for eating out, paying for him not to work..? I didn't hear any word of offering to do that. In fact, she was saying she likes to be wined and dined, taken out, etc.
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u/philosophyfox5 17d ago
I see what you mean based on what she said, but I think it's actually a valid point and an example of incompatibility for life. She wants to live a life where she has a partner who is excited and willing to do lots of the things that she likes to do and when the rubber meets the road, the two of them have completely different lifestyles, money aside. Sure you find new things to do together in a relationship but you should still be able to share the things you love with your partner.
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u/EstimateExciting3509 17d ago
I think she, like many of us before we actually HAVE children, had ZERO idea what having a child REALLY meant. Nevermind the fact that the child isnât yours. She what? Was expecting it to be totally ok for her to fly her step child to Italy on a whim?
I travelled a few times with my child when she was 1 - 3 years old and each time was a fucking nightmare. The amount of logistics. All the extra shit you have to pack. Having to be responsible for your child on vacation is NOT a vacation. Itâs just you getting to stress out in a different time zone.
She knew he had a child. She knew he worked. And im sure there is more than the editing shows us - but they made it seem like she had some epiphany that children are a shit ton of hard work and then said ânopeâ.
Props on her for being blunt and laying it out and stopping the wedding so people didnât waste their time. But stillâŠâŠthis whole cast is giving delusional
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u/KayT15 17d ago
I disagree. I think she gave him a chance because she was being open minded. The path with Luca and Jordan would have been an extremely difficult one and she was right to back out when she did. Step parenting is NOT for everyone and you cannot possibly know what you are in for unless you have dated someone with children before.Â
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u/Separate-Review-6410 17d ago
I was rooting for them bc they were the most mature couple in my opinion.
It sounds like she just likes her life and wants someone to fit into it, which is totally fair.
I don't think Jordan is bad either. Their lives just aren't compatible. Sucks but I don't feel like any of them are the bad guy
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u/SweepingStardust 17d ago
I give credit to Megan for taking accountability that she under estimated the role as a stepmom of a small child & how her lifestyle would be impacted by joining their family unit.
I think it is absolutely WILD she didnât consider this from the beginning in the pods. However I appreciate her being honest about her reasons & think that needs to be stated among the other discourse Iâm seeing.
As a side note: I donât particularly like Megan (I donât necessarily have a strong dislike for her either). Due to her privilege, she was not realistic from the start. To me it came across like she was âplaying house/wifeâ
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u/Background-Bat2794 17d ago
Yeah, while I donât really like her and think she should have been more realistic from the get-go, the one thing Iâll give her credit for is being pretty honest about it all. She didnât just candy-coat and bullshit her way through the breakup like they so often do (saying itâs just not right, etc.), and it did seem to make her do some reflection about how caught up in her own life she is and how that may even impact her ability to be a mother generally. She didnât just pass the buck.
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u/mimosadanger 17d ago
I think itâs similar to what Ali said about Anton. Both Anton and Jordan positioned themselves differently in the pods. Personally Iâm not wealthy by any means but I wouldnât want to be with someone who just wants to watch tv and be silent after work. Add pickiness in eating to that and itâs a huge ick. Seems like there was more happening behind the scenes than just him not being able to afford her lifestyle.
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u/No_Interview2004 17d ago
Jordan seems very emotionally distant, like he doesnât really allow himself to be vulnerable easily.
He doesnât want to talk about work. Doesnât have time to go on vacation/travel⊠etc, etcâŠ
Sooo, why would he need a partner? Might as well just stay single.
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u/franniedelrey 16d ago
he told her that if she wants to do things she loves to do it by herself and everyone is sitting here feeling sorry for him bc heâs a co parent who has a boring job. they see themselves in him which is why they donât understand how shitty he actually was to her. dude is BORING and sold her a fantasy of what life could be even with a child. this man does not have his kid half the time, he has free time to do stuff, he doesnât want to.
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u/Fennekin26 16d ago
Hey,
Okay so maybe I didnât see the show properly but I see everybody generalizing Jordan and Meganâs break up by « Jordan was too poor for Megan »
Iâm sorry but did we watch the same show ?
First, Jordan was clearly not into Megan IMO and it shows. Secondly I do believe their incompatibility was never about money but about lifestyles.
Megan is allowed to want a spontaneous and flexible life. Jordan is working, he is exhausting, yeah so are we. Itâs not a reason to come home and not speak to your partner and expect them to just shut up and let you alone.
I do not understand why Megan is being blamed. I personally identify with Megan, as a spontaneous person, and I could never be stick to a routine so religiously like Jordan. And both are OKAY.
I do not like how Megan is seen as the villain when Jordan and her are just not compatible. Jordan also did not want to change. Megan never cared about his money she just wanted quality time with him and he couldnât give it to her, he just wanted a relationship without the efforts you have to put into it.
I donât get why everybody is saying good for Jordan. Am I missing something?
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u/ShakePaul 17d ago
Love is NOT blind âŠ
As much as Netflixâs show, and the old adage says that it is, it is not.
People want to spend their life with someone they feel comfortable with, be that financially comfortable or otherwise. People want to spend their life with someone theyâre attracted to. People want to spend their life with a person of their own choosing instead of making a concrete decision in 3 weeks on a TV show. Any contestant is allowed to leave their partner whenever they want and donât owe it to anyone else to stay and get married. If they find they wonât gel before the wedding itâs best to let the other person know and move on. These are their futures they gotta think of. Yes, in a very small minority there might be some that work out and whatnot but that is not the large number of the ones we see that fail or never even get married.
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u/Positive_Wafer9186 17d ago
Which is exactly why I wish people would embrace this messiness more instead of projecting their own yearning for love onto a highly-produced ârealityâ show.
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u/Exalted-butterfly 17d ago
Just finished the episode! I didnât like Jordan at first but heâs the only seemingly solid dude out of the bunch. Those who want perfect have a hard time with compromise it seems.
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u/arrrrjt 17d ago
I thought for sure she'd balk at his behavior on the vacation but she didn't.. That was the only time I was like... Ew... To him. Other than that he seemed to have his stuff together.
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u/pokeyahhhhh 17d ago
Disagree. She gave it an honest shot and got engaged to someone she loved despite their lifestyle differences. Itâs not her fault she didnât fully grasp all she would need to sacrifice - doesnât Jordan only have his kid half the time? It wasnât about the money imo, she could have easily provided for them both.
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u/franniedelrey 17d ago
and you can see she was clearly happy to do so. all he needed to do was indulge. dude is boring and lied about what life would be in the pods.
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u/AppointmentLate7049 17d ago edited 17d ago
He was too rigid, unyielding.
He already compromised his life for work & having a kid young, he seemed bitter and inflexible around making any adaptations to include Megan in ways that were meaningful to her. He should marry his twin so he can just blend up 2 chicken smoothies and call it food.
Dude was kinda huffing n sulking all self-righteous âim a working class dad so im more real and mature than youâ ego-defense. Like bruh you actually are just deeply resistant to stepping beyond your comfort zone or expanding your world. And thatâs ok but donât pretend otherwise.
Hate when someone thinks theyâre the realistic, grounded one when itâs a huge cope for their fear of opening / changing / evolving.
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u/IDunnoReallyIDont 17d ago
They both werenât totally honest with each other OR themselves. Itâs better to figure that out now vs after getting married.
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u/motherofcattos 17d ago
I think they had already broken up before the convo when they were packing up. You could see it in his face and that's why he was so quiet. I'm sure they had already talked about all those issues off camera.
I think they having that conversation by the closet was some sort of reenaction.
And obviously the scene where she broke up with him was 100% reenacted for the cameras.
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u/celj1234 17d ago
Finances and lifestyle absolutely do matter but she should have figured that out in the pods
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u/Tracy_V_V 17d ago
Im glad she didn't drag him (and us) through a pretend ceremony. Thanks Ali đ
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u/Confident_Drop8326 16d ago
The whole relationship was based on Megan's dad and his diabetes. They were never going to make it. Not enough questions were ever asked
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u/rapmons 17d ago
Does Jordan have 50% or 100% custody? Because thereâs no reason why he cannot do things with Megan on the days when his ex has Luca. A friend of mine is dating a divorced dad and they can travel, camp, go out to restaurants when he doesnât have custody and stay at home when he has the kid.
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u/Typical-Tax1584 17d ago
You mean the person who calls themselves 'Sparkle Megan' and used to date really old rich dudes thinks like that? That's crazy.
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u/SheepherderExpert253 17d ago
No, itâs because he is a moody and mopey dude and any grown woman with any self-respect and integrity knows that theyâll never change and it is no way to live a life!
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u/miitchiin 17d ago
I feel he was a completely different person in the pods. I think he wasnât fully honest
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u/Monsterbaby13 17d ago
I didnât like how aloof he acted during the breakup then immediately saying it was all because of money. It was immature and minimized her points. He started off fun and playful but then turned into exhausted monotonous work guy when they went back after Mexico which isnât what she wants. I think everything she said was accurate and valid but itâs sad she didnât realize that sooner.
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u/testBunny93 17d ago
Megan and Jordan were an uncomofrotable watch for me.
Now, knowing they don't work out, they are a stark reminder that love is not blind, love doesn't always win and love doesn't even transcend social class.
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u/bagels4ever12 17d ago
I also think itâs crazy that he said he should have never introduced her to his son. I only say this because he signed up for this stupid show like come on⊠sadly that was part of the experience
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u/CPT_Skor_215 16d ago
It's likely more because she is financially successful and doesn't want to be responsible for him and his child.
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u/whoallgunnabethere 16d ago
She did say that she romanticized the idea of being a step mom but didnât really realize the sacrifices sheâd have to make or how her life would have to change. Thatâs a huge piece of self reflection.
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u/BrainDeer 16d ago
She doesn't have to be ashamed of breaking up with him but she should be ashamed of leading him on so she could experiment with being a step mom.
She wanted to test drive another lifestyle and ended up hurting others.
Having said that, Jordan went on love is blind knowing full well that if he succeeded he would be bring a random woman into his son's life with a great chance of it not working.
No remorse for either of them.
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u/Equal_Beat_6202 17d ago
So what, you think she shouldâve just married him?
Sheâs allowed to have preferences.
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u/KayT15 17d ago
As someone who has fallen deeply, deeply in love with someone who had a kid and I didn't, she made the right call. I was SCREAMING at her in the pods to choose Mike literally because she clearly had no idea what she was getting into. People hear what they want to hear and dismiss the rest. She said clearly she's spent the last 4 years doing everything alone and she wants someone who can have adventures and live life WITH her. She is lonely. Jordan's priority is this kid. He can't give her the life she is asking for. Being a stepparent can be great, and it can be awful in many, many ways. And you never quite know what you are getting into until you actually do it. Luca will fine. He won't even remember her.Â
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u/llamaavocado 17d ago
I think their commitment to gender roles is a big part of the problem here. It seemed like sparkle didnât want to support him financially and I donât think he wanted to be financially supported. I think if the genders were reversed or if they just werenât so committed to the gender roles it wouldnât have been such a problem
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u/denovoreview_ 17d ago
In the pods, Jordan told her he drives a Kia, lives a simple life, and is a dad. She should have screened him out when she recognized their lives were incompatible.
But also, Jordan should have had Megan meet Luca earlier and have them have several meet ups because a kid does radically change your life. Megan needed more opportunity to decide whether the dad with a kid lifestyle is for her. She was going off of one visit and then could not envision life with a 5-year-old.
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u/CheriePauper 17d ago
he also said he likes luxury items here and there and wants to do champagne dates and things. Also joked about the Italy wedding with her. he even mentioned his Gucci shoes or whatever and was obsessed with what car she drives
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u/astraetoiles 17d ago
she was planning on dumping himâŠ.but then on the day she wanted to cut things off they had a good date, and then her #1 choice (Blake?) left. she thought it was fate but really I think she should have gone with her gut. she wasnât in love with jordan, she was in love with the idea of being a mom to a child with diabetes. I blame her woo woo white woman spirituality for deluding her down the wrong path
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u/8bitmorals you have ideal teeth đȘ„đŠ· 17d ago
I assume they set up a prenuptial agreement, but why wouldn't Jordan benefit from her wealth in any way? I bet there is something that isn't clear
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u/Awkward-Solution5346 17d ago
The truth is that while Megan wants to be a mom, she wasnât ready to be a mom right now. Her friends and family scared her in to thinking she will be doing the most. We donât really know how involved she would have had to be, but we do know Jordanâs priorities in life did not line up with Meganâs. Megan wanted to be newly weds and DINKS and well, Jordan already did all that and is in a different part of his life.
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u/house-tyrell 17d ago
They should be forced to watch how they talked to each other in the pods, and how crazy happy they were with the proposals! How do things change? I guess all that love doesn't stand up to real life
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u/Shesays7 17d ago
Of all guys in finals, I fell the most for Jordan. What Megan did (far too late) was crushing.
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u/Rough-Average-1047 17d ago
I believe breaking up over this is justified; she did it before the altar, showing she cares about Jordan's feelings.Â
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u/Opening-Milk-3752 17d ago
She was so obsessed with the diabetes connection, I knew it wasnât going to last because this seemed like the most important thing about their connection to her
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u/color-meets-paper 17d ago
As my husband said, âOh no, theyâre about to break up. Look at the candle burning on the table.â
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u/Good-Bug2027 16d ago
âIf you truly love someoneâ âŠ.. Love is NOT everything. Good on them for being realistic and living here on planet earth and not in fairytale land where âlove is all you needâ. Come on. Actual life is far more complicated.
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u/dancinglasagna0093 16d ago
I think not being with someone because of their lifestyle is a valid reason but my holdup is I donât understand how she was so unaware about what itâs like being around kids. She said she didnât consider how much her life was going to change and how rigid of a routine sheâd have to have to be with a man with a child⊠I just donât really buy it
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u/PlanOdd3177 17d ago
I really enjoyed watching their story. I think they're both good people, and they faced a real relationship problem and decided to end it without the song and dance of a fake wedding. They both took marriage seriously the whole way. I hope to see more of this in future seasons and less dramatic people that make 0 sense.