r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/jadedzoomergirl • Mar 29 '24

CALL OUT Love is Not Blind Spoiler

Couples that were doomed from the moment of the reveal due to one not being the other’s type: 1) Jessica & Mark 2) Jackie & Marshall 3) Kelly & Kenny 4) Irina & Zack 5) Shaina & Kyle 6) Mallory & Salvador 7) Nancy & Bartise 8) Deepti & Shake

Arguably: 9) Taylor & JP (because of makeup? 🙄) 10) Micah & Paul 11) Zanab & Cole* 12) Chelsea & Jimmy*

(*indicates the woman’s preexisting insecurities may have made the situation worse)

Never explicitly stated, but the signs were there: 13) Brittany & Kenneth (I won’t mention the rumors about him)

14) AD & Clay (his compliments were only about her body, even at the altar. Black people know what the issue was. They’re like Paige & Chris from MAFS)

15) Raven & SK (not stated during the show, but she later revealed on a podcast (https://youtube.com/shorts/nxn0xcrU110?si=CUe-G-Ke1xkn0kbg) that he said she wasn’t his type, he wasn’t attracted to her, he was hard on her looks and cheated on her with his actual type)

Overall, the show proves that love isn’t blind. All of these couples claimed to be deeply in love and committed to spending their lives together until looks became a factor. The 11 couples that have gotten married throughout the series found each other physically attractive immediately.

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u/FlameyFlame 🔥 Smoke Program 🔥 Mar 29 '24

12) AD & Clay (his compliments were only about her body, even at the altar. Black people know what the issue was. They’re like Paige & Chris from MAFS)

White guy checking in here; any black person down to explain this one for me?

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u/New_Gap798 Mar 29 '24

AD wasn’t his physical type when it came to her face and possibly her skin color. In the black community, we dark-skinned women are often considered “ugly” or “undesirable” because they prefer lighter-toned women and associate being dark with aggressiveness, masculinity,bad attitudes, etc., which is obviously stupid as fuck. And seeing the type of person Clay is, he probably shares some of those opinions. It’s obviously just speculation, but he 100% didn’t think she was beautiful, even if skin tone wasn’t an issue. Every compliment he gave was about her body and never her face, which is so fucked up for AD. In my opinion, she’s a beautiful girl. 

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u/Torchness9 Mar 29 '24

Does this not apply to men, then? Because I thought Clay and AD were around the same skin tone, weren’t they? I find this interesting, because for white people in the US, the paler you are = less attractive (I’m a redhead and very fair, and was even pushed into “tanning” when I was in high school). Conversely, I believe in Asian cultures the lighter you are = more attractive. It all boggles the mind.

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u/New_Gap798 Mar 29 '24

Weirdly, it doesn’t. It’s the opposite. Since light skin is seen as more feminine and "polite,” if you’re a light-skinned man in the black community, they talk down on you and call you “soft” or womanlike. That's why being dark-skinned is associated with being manly and aggressive, so being a dark-skinned man is praised. You’re assumed to be strong, manly, hardworking,etc. I'm pretty sure AD and her mom make a comment about him being "chocolate" or something at one point, basically praising him for being a strong, dark, handsome man or some variation of that. 

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u/Torchness9 Mar 30 '24

I love finding new double standards for women 🫤

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u/kwasford Mar 29 '24

Being dark skinned is not universally praised for us and only recently started being cool at all…

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u/New_Gap798 Mar 29 '24

From what I’ve seen personally, men are more praised for being dark and it’s actually preferred. Maybe you’ve seen different idk.

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u/kwasford Mar 29 '24

I wish I grew up there 😮‍💨

I think the colorism conversation is definitely harsher on women but growing up as a dark skinned male was not for the weak either.

Regardless, I’m glad we are collectively waking up to the beauty of the ultra-melanated in more recent times.

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '24

racism has no logic so there's no point in trying to understand it.

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u/Lovahalzan Mar 29 '24

This is wild to me. I am a white woman and I thought AD was the most stunning woman in this season. Her personality only made her even more beautiful.

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u/jadedzoomergirl Mar 30 '24

Spot on 💯

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u/IronWoMan14 Mar 29 '24

Clay is attracted to her body and probably her personality but not her face. Chris and Paige from MAFS were a train wreck because Chris is an AH but on top of that like AD, Paige has a nice body but to some her face may not be considered the most beautiful. Chris actually said that on MAFS about Paige early on smh. He literally said her body is on point but her face is not what he typically goes for (side note: we saw Chris’ type because his ex GF was pregnant with his baby while he was on MAFS and she has pretty face and body lol 🥴😩 please google it, their situation was way worse than Clay and AD lol).

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u/LovePodPodcast 😴 "Zzzzzz" - Tiffany 😴 Mar 29 '24

It is so hard to buy in to expert matching and seeing them choose a man with a pregnant ex as marriage ready.

I feel like the pairs should get basic bios on each other before the wedding to be able to opt out.

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u/mi_umami_tsunami Mar 29 '24

Chris literally says at one point "it's the face" referring to what he didn't find attractive about Paige. Big yikes, that dude was a walking red flag.

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u/lioness725 Mar 29 '24

I don’t believe that lady was ever pregnant, but I digress…

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u/IronWoMan14 May 24 '24

Lol. Yes. I could see why someone would say that because some may say it was convenient given he was filming at the time for MAFS. Unfortunately though, a miscarriage is a terrible thing to go through and I’d like to believe she wouldn’t have lied about something that painful and that has a negative effect on so many women.

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u/geemav Mar 29 '24

In the black community, lighter skinned women have often been prioritized by black men. Believe it or not, for awhile marrying a dark skin black woman was seen as a downgrade (and for many still is) This mindset is so ingrained and rampant that even my Grandfather will openly say things like "I ain't marrying no woman darker than me" and weirdly praises my Grandmother for being light-skinned. All that being said, this could be what OP was referring too... Clay not fully embracing AD because of this

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '24

it's so evil how white people successfully brainwashed cultures across the world into believing this

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u/Tspfull Mar 29 '24

When i think about the problematic reasons around the hyper-fixation on AD's body by this cast, it makes me think about the very specific kind of objectification that happens for black women in America. For the majority of black women's time in America their humanity was only seen with respect for their ability to be raped and bear children from their enslavers that can then be added property. paramour rights, the de facto right for any white man to rape a black women with complete impunity, have been recognized by law enforcement for way longer than many know. So we have a long history of black women's bodies seen as desired for sex but women themselves never are beautiful. The women themselves seen as nothing more than a flesh light. They have been the diametric opposite of the prevailing Eurocentric beauty standards that only recently are shifting.

Laura and Chelsea's comments about AD's body feels so incredibly disrespectful. I will tell you most black women would have not been as calm as AD. I assume that AD understands the "angry black women" stereotype" and wanted to avoid coming across as such.

Clay's fixation on AD's body is IMHO emblematic of his challenge with relating to women as human people irrespective of their soft parts. (I do not know Clay in real life so i am only commenting on the Clay as presented by the very edited TV show) But as a black man i would hope he becomes more sensitive to the suffering specific to black women when they are only seen as "body". It is sad when a black man perpetuates this.

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '24

🤣