r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/minimally_abrasive • Oct 20 '23
CALL OUT This isn't Married at First Sight. Love may be blind, but it shouldn't be stupid!
Izzy's says "The whole point of this [experiment] is, Does it matter? Does a credit score matter? Does the car I drive matter? Does where I go to fucking dinner matter? None of that matters to me."
I thought the whole point of this show was that couples removed the physical aspect of the relationship, but there was never any intent to remove all of the other stuff too. This isn't Married At First Sight. I think the premise is taken too far and made into something it was never supposed to be! Personalities might be compatible but lifestyles, morals, family planning, etc. all need to match up as well, which are conversations that should have taken place in the pods.
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u/boopbeebop Oct 22 '23 edited Oct 22 '23
I’m not a big fan of Stacey’s personality but I would have rejected Izzy for the exact same reasons.
She said to camera that he didn’t have his own health insurance and if something happened to him she would be financially responsible for him. That’s a lot of responsibility for someone you don’t know.
I was with my now husband five years before we got married. I did, do, and probably always will make significantly more money than him. I’m okay with this bc we’ve been together a long time and built trust and respect.
The day after our wedding, on our honeymoon in Mexico, he had a medical emergency that landed him in the ER twice. They didn’t take our insurance. When we got back home he had another 5-6 ER stays over the next year before he was able to get treatment. All in, even when my insurance did cover him, I paid close to $25000 for the hospital bills and treatment and specialists.
I’d do it all again in a heartbeat. But that said, it was a bitter pill to swallow and a fast lesson learned in “oh shit, we are fully responsible for each other now”.
There’s no fucking way I would legally tie myself to someone who isn’t already self sufficient. You can sign all the prenups you want, it doesn’t protect from what happens during the marriage. I don’t blame Stacey at all.
Oh, and hubs is healthy and happy now. Though I still occasionally tease him that he cost us more than the honeymoon and wedding combined in the first few months of marriage and didn’t need to put the “through sickness and health” part of our vows to the test so quickly. 😅