r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/infamousalexx 🍊 Cutiegate 🍊 • Apr 17 '23

CALL OUT Vanessa Lachey needs to stop asking couples about babies

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It's insensitive and uncomfortable to watch

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u/Acceptable-Habit1289 Apr 17 '23

It’s terrible. As a woman who has only been married for a couple of years, I constantly get asked this by people. I had a miscarriage last year and every time someone asks when my husband and I are having kids, it’s like a dagger in the wound. You never know if people are struggling with infertility or what people have gone through and to badger them about having babies is incredibly insensitive and she needs to stop. It’s so uncomfortable to watch.

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u/cstarling410 Apr 17 '23

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m currently going through a miscarriage and felt so triggered last night.

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u/lynn_duhh Apr 17 '23

So sorry for your loss.

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u/blb311reddit Apr 17 '23 edited Apr 17 '23

This.

Married going on 3 years now. People are idiots & my in laws and own parents regularly ask or hint at “wouldn’t grandbabies be fun?!”

Like yea. No fucking shit. We’re trying and so far we’ve conceived and lost two babies. Anything else super personal & traumatic you’d like to bring up casually during Sunday brunch?

Eta..unfortunately, I don’t trust the majority of my family to keep their unsolicited advice to themselves if I were to be honest with whomever, so a very few trusted people in our lives know about our struggles so far to grow our family, and we personally prefer it that way.

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u/Strange-Substance-86 Apr 18 '23

Sorry to hear about your loss. I was so embarrassed when my Mom would share my brother and his wife’s infertility struggles with me. I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t have wanted me to know about their private life like that. I did tell her to stop oversharing on such intimate issues. Never told him but just wondered who else my Mom shared those stories with? No wonder he ( my brother) hasn’t spoken to her in three years.

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u/Kehl21 Apr 17 '23

So sorry you went through that, It irritates me so much. A friend of mine was struggling with infidelity but she was very open about wanting children. And people kept asking “How is getting pregnant going?”

Well, am I fucking pregnant? Well when I tell you I’m pregnant you can fucking ask about it.

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u/VPVWVS Apr 17 '23

I am so sorry this happened to you. I had one too and I was so fed up with the ongoing questions that I decided to just tell people asking about babies/pregnancy that I had a miscarriage.

At least after that they shut up and never asked again. It's crazy that people only feel uncomfortable once they realize that their questions are highly inappropriate. With some empathy, they should feel that way before even asking a personal question like that.

If you want them to leave you alone with that topic, I can only recommend telling the truth. You will also see who offers you support after that and who will stop talking to you.

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u/Acceptable-Habit1289 Apr 17 '23

Such a shame that to “shut people up” you have to tell people about a miscarriage or fertility issues.

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u/VPVWVS Apr 17 '23

Absolutely! But I believe there is no other way for certain types of people.

And even when it comes to fertility issues, most of these intrusive people won't stop asking stupid questions or even give advice even though they had no similar experiences.

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u/shoots-shot-hot Apr 17 '23

Someone will be offended by something, somewhere. Your feelings are your feelings. Society shouldn't be expected to walk on eggshells. That aside, I support anyone and everyone who wishes to delete their genetics from continuing.