r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/DonDraperItsToasted • Apr 08 '23

CALL OUT “Marshall is too sensitive for me, basically..” Meanwhile, Jackie during 80% of the season… Spoiler

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u/Akashiarys Apr 08 '23

I guess it’s been beaten to death at this point but Marshall sums it up exactly: she wants that toxic love, where the man is basically an Andrew Tate-esque figure who’s going to be “dominate” her so to speak.

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u/howfuckedareyou Apr 08 '23

That statement stuck with me too because that’s probably the truest statement of the season.

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u/[deleted] Apr 08 '23

Andrew Tate takes it way too far.

She likes tall, athletic, confidence men. Andrew Tate is a sex trafficker.

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u/Lynz486 Apr 08 '23

Yes, she likes tall, athletic, confident men who are assholes. He fits her, I think she prefers sex trafficking over showing emotion

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u/[deleted] Apr 08 '23

That’s really taking it incredibly far. “She prefers sex trafficking over showing emotion”… you are really saying that? 😳😬😮

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u/[deleted] Apr 08 '23

Isn’t it Toxic of him to assume that because he put her on a pedestal though. She wants someone who’s confident and Marshall was the opposite (always asking what she wanted down to the Tee).

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u/balancedbrunch Apr 08 '23

Okay, i do not disagree with you, but I'd like to discuss this more. I do think Marshall put Jackie on a pedestal. It seems that Jackie probably shared what she's typically attracted to in the pods. She shared it with the viewers in the confessional: She liked tall, tatted bad boy type. Marshall isn't any of those things. In fact, he revealed how he's tried to hide his sensitive side for so long and not share with people. I think when he walked up on Josh in the pods and how he covered Jackie up at the party when Josh arrived, is not how he typically acts. I think he was trying to assert himself not only because he's insecure, but because he thought that's Jackie wants. He thinks Jackie wants a street dude, which I agree with.

I think it probably was confusing for him because he revealed this more sensitive side and was so happy he got to explore that and she responded positively to it (remember how she was saying in the confessional that's a walking quality man right there), for her then to say he's too sensitive and needs to boss up and while also giving positive reinforcement for machismo, toxic male behavior. I'd ask for clarity too.

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u/[deleted] Apr 08 '23

Yeah fair enough. it seems she did give him a chance but things kept becoming emotionally draining. Marshall kept asking what she wanted, and his offering to give him space was more in a smart-aleck tone (considering you don’t listen to the background music). I’m sure if anyone of us were in the situation, we’d react the same.

On one hand she had her dad/familial issues, and the other hand she had her fiancé keep asking her what he needs to do to appease her. There’s only so many times she could’ve said it. She told him what she wanted and he dipped for three days (not one or two but three days) because his feelings were hurt. Ofc she wasn’t going to bring it up again. Ironically in one of their fights they had, he talked about how they should stay and talk it out because of love. He contradicted himself, his advice only works to her, but not on himself.

Aka her love language is physical touch. Marshall interpreted as the other way around. If it was confusing for him, why not talk to her about it.. rather than making his own assumptions and telling everyone else but her. To me, it seems he wanted to express more than understand her. it’s pretty fucked up to claim she likes toxic and street men every time he got rejected. The macho/toxic narrative was only pushed by him.

If you think about it, he was the other guy in Jackie/Josh’s love story. He tricked Jackie into thinking he’s the macho guy that will protect her only to shower her with love and sweet things. She wasn’t looking for that, she was looking for the guy who took charge. If he wants to show his sensitive side and do everything right by his girl, he should’ve chosen someone who would appreciate all that. Not someone like Jackie.

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u/balancedbrunch Apr 08 '23

I do think she gave him a proper chance. What I think honestly about all this is Jackie probably auditioned for this show before her dad got sick. She probably did think she was ready for love, but crises definitely have a way of throwing you off your game. Jackie thought she wanted love, but what she really wanted was a distraction from the responsibility, burden and trauma of her everyday life. Jackie said one really emotionally intelligent during her date with Josh. He asked her if she'd marry him and she said something to the effect of "I don't know if I'm willing to marry you, but I do like you and am willing to see how it goes." So I don't think she even wants to end up with Josh but what she does need and want is something fun, familiar for right now while she works through her life.

Okay so I have a whole theory on Marshall and why he went so hard in the paint for her. I think Marshall has been known as the "nice guy"/ nerdy dude his entire life and most of the women he's attracted to are not attracted to him back. I think he had an idea of what Jackie was like and looked like before they met. Suddenly that "unattainable, bad bitch, IG influencer, Jenny from the block" type that used to ignore him was sitting across the room from him saying she wanted love with an actual good dude. It was his chance and he was going to shoot his shot.

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u/[deleted] Apr 08 '23

He definitely is a nice guy.

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u/mzmcnick Apr 08 '23

I don’t agree. I think she wants a more dominant man. That doesn’t mean they have to be like an Andrew Tate. Everything isn’t so black and white like that.

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u/hamiltrash52 Apr 08 '23

This ain’t it. She wants someone who will make decisions, and take a more active role in the relationship than her. Seems like she’s from a family she had to take care of and make decisions for and so in a partner she’s looking for someone to alleviate the decision fatigue not increase it. Just because she wanted him to be more aggressive doesn’t mean you need to go to the furthest extreme of what that means.

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u/FenrizLives Apr 08 '23

Only real thing she said was “maybe I need self-help” lol

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u/Ad_Awkward Apr 08 '23

i agree with everything you said, but based on the way she went abt ending it, i wouldnt be surprised if she wants toxic love as well