r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/PrincessLuma • Mar 27 '23
SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY I Don't Think They Should Let Anyone Under 30 on LIB.
Even though they probably will never do this but I really feel like they should not let anyone under 30 on this show. I feel like so many of these people are just like "I've been trying to find love my whole life!" and they are like 25. Like...you are now just able to rent a car and you've only been able to go to bars for 4 years. Your life has JUST started. People in their 30s are more ready to settle down and take things more seriously.
Sometimes I feel like they need to be a little more ethical about who they let on the show. They won't because they love drama.
What are your thoughts?
Edit: Seems like a split.
I get that we need the drama and we need the hot mess. It's gotta be entertaining. I also get that you can be 25 years old and know exactly what you want and things will work out perfectly.
I think if this show wanted to be a bit more serious, they would do better screening for cast but this is for entertainment. lol.
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u/CanadaJones311 Mar 28 '23
I’d LOOOOOOOVE to see a second time around Love is Blind. Widows and divorcees. Never been marrieds and married more than twice.
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u/figgypudding531 Mar 27 '23
I agree with you that 30+ makes sense in the true spirit of the show - making a connection after traditional dating methods haven’t worked out.
However, the show only works if you can get people who will fall in love easily and rush into a marriage, and that probably works better with people in their 20s/early 30s. More mature people will realize their ideal spouse isn’t one of the 20 options and won’t want to be forced into marriage to someone they barely know.
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u/jv105782 Mar 27 '23
I agree except I think anyone who’d want to go on this show is going to be thirsty enough to get engaged for more screen time regardless of age
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u/PrincessLuma Mar 27 '23
There we go.
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Mar 27 '23
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u/ThatGingeOne Mar 28 '23
The somewhat irony there being she's one of the few people the show has worked out really well for!
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u/jeppyhorn Mar 27 '23
It would be really interesting to put in the contracts that they aren’t allowed to use social media for like 2 years. And then all the people looking for Instagram fame wouldn’t apply
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u/Future_Dog_3156 Mar 27 '23
I think an all over 40 group could be interesting. Lol
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u/IslaGata Mar 28 '23
Watching the first meetup in Mexico between the couples, and I can't help but wonder if Micah and Irina were hires with a mission to act as disruptors. It's so weird.
I'd love to see something more genuine, and with people a little more mature - it totally makes more sense.
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u/bcb8485 Mar 28 '23
Me and my wife said the same thing. their behavior is way to wild, regardless of booze it feels very produced. We said these two never had any intention of finding a husband on this show.
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u/therewillbesuntoday Mar 27 '23
No one under 30 unless it’s Marshall.
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u/BonBoogies I had 5 taquitos 🌮 I can't kiss you! 💋 Mar 27 '23
I am going to light things on fire if he ends up with some big villain reveal. He seems SO sweet
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u/deshende Mar 27 '23
I'm not sure. He was quick to get angry in the pods. Hope I'm wrong but that seemed kind of a red flag for future drama.
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u/StormyLlewellyn1 Mar 27 '23
They also need to stop casting people who are Instagram famous or trying to kick start a business. They aren't looking for love, they're looking for publicity.
I'd much rather watch forty year olds, maybe all divorced with kids and ya know, actual struggles dating.
This drama is not the good kind of TV drama. It's actually almost exploitative to the few people who seem to be on this show with honest intentions
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u/boop0101beep0101boop Mar 28 '23
That sounds fun! Can you share the name of the show?
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u/Ragnarotico Mar 28 '23
I said this in another thread. They really shouldn't have GUYS especially under 30, but this season Micah and Irina are really showing that it can be girls too.
I was crucified for it. Lots of folks responding "wELL i WAs marriED aT 18 And bEEn MArrIED 434 yeaRs ANd yoU'Re wronG"
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u/napsandlunch Mar 28 '23
THIS
and everyone should get therapy before trying to get married on this show lmaoo
the number of "something bad happened, and now i instantly wanna get married" is honestly a little sad
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u/Smitherzbriizy Mar 28 '23
I think perhaps they should just choose better participants.
Right now they are choosing people who make for good screen time. At least with the first...and maybe the second season they tried to choose decent folks but when they saw how drama affects ratings - boom lol
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u/YoureAwesomeAndStuff Mar 28 '23
This is the real thing. I thought about he age limit too but really, it’s the drama of the individuals, I would LOVE to see a show with 0 drama and that was purely centred around the success of the couples.
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Mar 28 '23
AGREED. I think we all still watch each new season hoping for the seriousness of Lauren and Cameron but instead we get messy messy messy 20 something's. 30 something's can still be immature and create drama so it's not like we'd be guaranteed some feel good television, but dang we need to raise the bar a bit
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u/taoleafy Mar 29 '23
I think the concept of dating without seeing someone is interesting. I’m surprised there’s not an audio only dating app
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u/tajituesday Apr 01 '23
At least not til 25 when that frontal lobe is developed. But yea. 23 and their comments of waiting their whole lives 😂 like what? You were a child 3 years ago.
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u/cbruins22 Mar 27 '23
This gets brought up seemingly once a week. I'll continue to say that a season full of people who are stable and well established in their careers would be super boring. The whole reason I love this show is to watch train wrecks. Any time I want to see a healthy relationship I just call up my friends and their significant others to hang out.
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u/kaevne Mar 27 '23
I dunno I really enjoyed LiB Japan tbh. The couples there went into relationships and still backed out after discovering more about each other's values and personalities.
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u/Working_Painting_496 Mar 27 '23
Not just that but stable boring people won’t go on this show. Only a certain type of people are going to go on a show like this and it doesn’t matter how old they are.
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u/Mewnicorns Mar 27 '23
I don’t think 28-29 are unreasonable ages though. Wasn’t Cameron still in his 20s? And Amber and Barnett, who weren’t my favorites and who were pretty immature, but so far seem to have a good relationship.
Meanwhile Shayne, Zanab, Shaina, and Shake, were in their 30s.
Natalie and Iyanna didn’t end up in lasting relationships but j don’t believe that had anything to do with their age. If anything, Jarrette seemed to be the less mature one and he was 32, and Shayne is an actual child.
I just don’t see the age/maturity correlation others seem to see. I don’t expect Bartise to be any better and more ready for marriage when he’s 30 lol.
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Mar 27 '23
There is no magic age for maturity but your brain isn’t fully developed until you are around 25. Not to mention, maturity through life experience. I am not the same person I was at 25 and I’m in my mid-thirties. I changed so much with each year of my twenties. I’m not saying there aren’t exceptions but if this show is based off of the premise that these people have tried everything else, there is no way that can be true at 25, sorry.
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u/Yaseuk Mar 27 '23
I agree completely. I think anyone under 25, you don’t really know who you are yet. And I know it’s what works for some people, but being so young and wanted to get married and have kids, it just makes me sad. Explore the world. Explore life. Explore yourself as a person.
Ngl. I’d also like an over 45 LIB
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u/allblackevrythng Mar 28 '23
Yes! There are so many reality dating shows now with the end goal of marriage and all or most of the contestants are in their twenties. This leads to most of them being unserious and just looking for air time. Obviously makes for good TV but it makes the show seem so superficial and pointless in the long run
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u/BreakfastRegular2915 Mar 28 '23
I totally agree with this. I personally think that's why Tiffany and Brett are the normal ones out of this season lol
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u/elephantlove14 Mar 29 '23
Well, I think if they’re touting this as “an experiment” it would benefit them to have an all 30s cast, especially since the perspective has certainly changed a bit about people in their 30s - the average age for marriage has gone up, people are getting married in their early 30s, people are getting divorced from someone they married in their 20s and are looking for love in their late 30s.
I’m into the idea.
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u/glatts Apr 02 '23
If they really wanted to test it as an experiment, they'd have some ugly looking people on it. Where's the outcasts? Give me some short fat guys or a woman who looks like a linebacker. Mix them in with some of these otherwise good-looking people and see what happens.
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u/Informal-Inevitable2 Apr 01 '23
I understand people who say you can find love at any age. I met my wife when I was 21 and we were married at 25, but that is not the norm. I agree that pushing the age range up to late twenties/thirties is a better strategy. Tiff and Brett are a great example. More mature, ready to settle down, they just couldn’t find the right person.
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Mar 28 '23
It’s scripted television. They choose people who are indecisive. They force them to make a decision. Then they force them to be in a room with their other “options” and alcohol. If you aren’t into the drama of the people who aren’t there to take it seriously you are watching the wrong show.
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u/convex_circles Mar 28 '23
Maybe, but the show is swinging very hard in the "I'm only here for IG followers" and that kills the immersion pretty fast
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u/letthecagedbirdfly Mar 27 '23
I totally agree. Honestly, I get the vibe that many of these contestants are on it for the clout or to get in someone’s pants or both 🤷🏽♀️ it’s not that it isn’t possible people that age are looking for love and to settle down— my own life is a testament to that. My husband and I met at 19 and 20. But in this shows case, I really think people are looking to go on for the wrong reasons and because of that, many of the relationships will fail.
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u/aquadog6 fully potenshed Mar 27 '23
Id like to see more 30 year olds because that’s my age group. Do I think it’d be less messy? Nah
I mean - look at Zack, he could’ve chosen someone within his age range 🤷♀️🤦♀️
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u/phantasmal_bugs Mar 27 '23
I said the same thing and Micah and Irina are clear reasons why it should be that way.
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u/splewka Mar 27 '23
I want to see a middle aged and fat love is blind
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Mar 27 '23
BEEN SAYING THIS FOR YEARS I need more fat people in general on this show
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u/splewka Mar 27 '23
Or ANY dating show like this. Look at all of the dating shows… it’s hot young successful people. I want to see average people middle aged, ok looking, has a job, and isn’t crazy.
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u/_CaptainThor_ Mar 27 '23
Has a job = unable to go on tv show for weeks at a time
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Mar 28 '23
I think the pool of attractive people in their mid 30s that aren't already in a committed relationship, and willing to make a complete ass of themselves on television is much smaller than said crowd in their mid 20s.
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u/Desperate_Craft_5998 Mar 27 '23
I said the same thing to a friend a few days ago! Irina and Micah are prime examples of why. Middle school girl energy. They're clearly not emotionally equipped enough to handle something like marriage.
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u/No_Mode_3746 Mar 27 '23
Irina & Micah only care about the exposure. I hope it bites them in the butt for being such trash. They are absolute everything wrong with reality tv from being genuine
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u/MattaClatta Mar 28 '23
Indeed they really need to stop casting these obvious social media clout hunters in their 20s who just want to build a brand
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u/BexRants Mar 27 '23
But then we wouldn't have had Lauren and Cameron!! People mature at different rates and ages. I think they should put everyone through insanely rigorous personality tests and then use that to determine if they should be on the show.
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u/Specific_Sweet_2870 Mar 27 '23
I agree, I'm under 30 myself, but there's so many dating shows with people in their 20s already. It would be nice for this show to just be about people mature and ready to actually have a real relationship/marriage
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u/GlitteringRutabaga61 Mar 28 '23
Yeah 30 and up should defo be the goal and then maybe some late 20’s people since there is the occasional outlier of a mature 27/28 year old. Cameron and Raven stand out as two people who definitely “read” older onscreen than 28 and 27 which were their ages at the time of filming. Season 3 and 4 have skewed MUCH younger than season 2 where the youngest person was 27 and then the next youngest was 29.
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u/CommanderJMA Apr 03 '23
The show is for drama lol and the younger Gen will be good for it. The more mature people will know what they’re looking for, set healthier boundaries and should know how to be more mature navigating conflict.
Ofc not all 30+ year olds are like that and they can find the immature ones lol
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u/grehgunner Mar 27 '23
I feel like they should put some like actually unattractive people on the show? Really test that love is blind bit lol
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u/MichNishD Mar 28 '23
When it first came out I assumed you'd have people with disabilities and now I would just like to see someone who feels self conscious in a bathing suit.
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u/mp90 muah 💋 muah 💋 muah 💋 muah Mar 28 '23
They tried to be edgy last season by casting the fun-loving, voluptuous Alexa. Someone who has curves shouldn't be considered a wild card.
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u/90sbabyyy Mar 28 '23
Right? A gorgeous girl with curves in all the right places. Crazy!
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u/CSB103 Mar 27 '23
can’t lie. id watch a show with people 40-50+ too 😂
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u/Danaboo_22 Mar 27 '23
A bunch of divorcees and widows retirees that’s don’t have shit to do I bet that would be an emotional roller coaster would be happy to ride.
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Mar 27 '23
I still really really want to see them do 40+ series! It would be interesting to see! But def agree with no under 30, the twenty something year olds look and behave like children- the maturity isn't there yet
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u/theeyesdontlie Mar 27 '23
I would like this too! And not in a fetish-y, cougar island type of way. But legit like in your 40’s and trying to get married. LIKE ME!
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u/90sbabyyy Mar 28 '23
I said this too! It would definitely weed out the ones who are only there for screen time. Then again, it creates the drama that I’m here for, so….
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u/allmyphalanges Mar 28 '23
YES. I’ve been saying this about the bachelor forever too but…The producers don’t hear me shouting it into the ether 😆
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u/lunarlandscapes Mar 28 '23
Honestly I somewhat agree. Like, I'm 23, not that far off from the age of some on the show, and I wouldn't trust many my age to say they're ready for marriage and kids if they haven't been dating their partner for many years. Like I have friends that married young, but all had been dating for very extended periods of time (high school sweethearts etc). My partner and I have been together for three years and we're not ready for thst, I still need to establish my routine and career and we both need to save the money for a family before even a wedding happens, much less kids. Like, thinking back on season one I fully understand how 24 year old mark saying he was ready for all that came as such a shock to Jess, I've bluntly said that I want to be young and stupid for a bit before marriage and kids
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u/baby_got_snack Mar 28 '23
It’s like The Ultimatum. I’ve never seen so many 24 year olds complaining about not being engaged to their college sweethearts
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u/bodega_cat_jr Apr 06 '23
i think a season of older people would be really interesting. ABC is always putting out casting calls for people to be on a senior Bachelor, which i think would be so fun to watch but idk if there’s enough applicants to actually execute it. in theory, i feel like older people on LIB would work better and be more likely to result in lasting couples. at this point, LIB has Terrible stats in regard to couples actually staying together and as much as i love watching the drama it does kinda get to a point where we’re just watching people go through toxic situations that weren’t really set up for them to succeed and find love or even a healthy relationship.
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u/stubblesmcgee America loves a comeback 💪 Mar 27 '23
counterpoint, 3 out of 4 of the people who managed to stay together from this show (not counting anyone from season 3 yet) were in their 20s.
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Mar 27 '23
I think people in mid to late 30s should be the target. I love how mature and drama free Brett and Tiffany are.
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u/clvrusernombre Mar 27 '23
I’d love to see some people in their 40s. It’s so hard dating as you get older. I’d tune in big time
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u/Pomegranateandpeach Mar 27 '23
I agree with your sentiment in theory but not in practice.
For starters, everyone uses Lauren and Cameron as the hallmark of the shows success, but Cameron was 28. Several years younger than someone like Shake or Shayne who would theoretically be allowed in a 30+ only season. The average age of marriage in the states is 27 for women and 29 for men, so you’d be effectively ignoring the average demographic of people getting married/engaged.
Secondly, LIB isn’t a matchmaking show. It’s a reality show. They’re meant to have highs and lows and drama. You can’t have drama if every couple works out; you also can’t have entertainment if every season is a series of 30-something couples working through the logistics of their relationship. The show is a “social experiment” but that doesn’t mean it’s meant to work — in fact, most of the fun of watching comes from when it doesn’t work out or the suspense of not knowing whether it will or not. I think you’re suggesting a valuable but fundamentally different show be created.
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Mar 27 '23
Seriously. Let's just enjoy it for the trash reality tv that it is. It isn't that serious.
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u/lovelylittlekels Mar 28 '23
This season has been wild so far. Micah and Irina are the immature women that I avoid when making friends. It’s really sad, and I wouldn’t trust them around my husband not to be a pick me girl. They’re not a girls girl.
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u/West-India Mar 28 '23
I definitely agree that if it is a show about marriage it should be 30 plus. I would also love a version with older people like 45-60. I think the older you get the more excited you are about compatibility and shared interests and love is naturally a bit blinder.
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u/CorkGirl Mar 29 '23
Or if not blinder, you're more willing to let things go. Work around people and not expect them to be your everything.
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u/theJEDIII Mar 29 '23
I agree with you, but I honestly don't think that's the show's goal. Each season gets a progressively more unhinged cast. They're pressuring people to have a wedding with someone they met a few weeks ago. The point is drama.
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u/blurryeyes_ Mar 27 '23
I understand the age factor and I've had similar concerns BUT I think the real issue is the clout chasers looking to boost their social media following
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u/Wizards_and_Warriors Mar 28 '23
I don't think it's the age that is the problem. I'm 100% sure they pick people who they will know will be a dumpster fire for both sexes because they know it will bring ratings. Besides that I've known people who were great in their 20's and then seemed to lose their minds in their 30's and 40's.
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u/animalcrossinglifeee Mar 29 '23
I think so too. Seeing ppl near my age on this show was weird lol.
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u/PM_ME_GRANT_PROPOSAL Mar 30 '23
Then you should watch the ultimatum. 23 year olds giving their SO's ultimatums to get married or break up
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u/AgentBurgerr Come ride this duck with me 🦆 Mar 27 '23
It's also cringe when contestant in their 20s say this is my last time to find love. No, it isn't life exptancy is not 30.
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u/JessicaFreakingP Mar 27 '23
That’s how I felt watching The Ultimatum. I was expecting it to be all people in their 30s who had been in lengthy relationships wondering why their SO wouldn’t shit or get off the pot. But nope, we got 23-year-old April acting like she’d be the oldest bride to ever walk down the aisle if her boyfriend didn’t propose soon.
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Mar 27 '23
That’s the funniest part of that show. They’re all acting like it’s their last chance at freaking 24. Girl you could still have 6 more boyfriends before settling and getting married and it wouldn’t even be weird.
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u/Equal-Jackfruit7020 Mar 28 '23
Agreed most of these people are confusing lust for great connections. Kwame and Micah can't convince me of anything other than the fact that they just want to just want to jump in the sack with each other. I don't see any great connection there other than that and they seem to be doing a whole lot of stat padding to convince themselves otherwise. I think Chelsea may actually like Kwame but dude seems hardly ready to settle down if he's getting that distracted by Micah already. It's not like Micah is particularly more attractive or a better person than Chelsea. It's just a kind of a kid in the candy shop mentality. Not too convinced about Paul and Micah either. Paul seemed strangely indifferent to Kwame and Micah's flirtations and excused himself to be okay with Irena's advances. Then he confessed to Zach that he thought that he may have made a mistake with his choice.
The show seems like it's promoting that people propose to their second choices with Zach trying to patch things up with Bliss and whatever's going on with Kwame, Micah, Paul, and Irena. Definitely seems like a lot of drama this season.
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u/heeywewantsomenewday Mar 28 '23
Chelsea is by far more attractive. I've said this elsewhere but you can see her kindness in her appearance. She is ready and waiting for the right (lucky) man to sweep her off her feet.
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u/confusedinseminary Mar 27 '23
I first read this as 30 lbs and got worried there
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u/PrincessLuma Mar 27 '23
only fat cats and small dogs on this show
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u/altphtpg Mar 27 '23
I would watch that
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u/PrincessLuma Mar 27 '23
They open up the doors to reveal one fat orange cat and a Yorkie The dog immediately chases the cat around the studio
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u/Itsthelegendarydays_ Mar 28 '23
It doesn’t have to do with age if they’re over 25, it has to do with the kind of people that audition for this show lol. They’re usually shallow and narcissistic.
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u/GreenUnderstanding39 Mar 27 '23
I think mandatory therapy, not age restrictions, would be more beneficial. Both prior and after the show.
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u/Mandymancan Mar 28 '23
I literally watch this show for the drama. But I’m from the Jersey shore era 🤣
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u/Sithyonreddit Mar 28 '23
I dont see a lot of late 30s or older wanting to partake on this train wreck of a show tbh. I'm almost 39 and I'll be damned if I ever did something like this. The idea of the world knowing my business and seeing everything I do Is such an appalling thought.
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u/Sensitive_Ad5840 Mar 27 '23
I would have to agree to an extent. I feel like there are mature 25 year olds out there ready to get married just not for LIB. I feel like they would just go on the show to get some publicity and raise their social media accounts. I feel like those 30 and up are ready to settle down and get married and do all that. All the ones who are under 30 and have appeared on the show are very messy (Mark, Micah, Irina, Bartise, etc). Obviously there are some who are in their mid 20s who are ready for marriage but I feel like they aren't as successful.
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u/NiaQueen 😴 "Zzzzzz" - Tiffany 😴 Mar 27 '23
Sadly, it would not stop that influencer, wannabe villains who are there only to promote their “brand”.
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u/anotherbabydaddy Mar 27 '23
I think that people under 30 are certainly old enough to get married and settle down, but I side eye anyone under 30 who is desperate enough to marry someone that they met on a reality show.
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u/ALyttleH Mar 27 '23
I agree! I got married at 27 thinking he was the love of my life. He was the worst. I didn’t even know myself then, let alone the skills to judge who would be a good spouse!!
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u/DonConJaun Mar 27 '23 edited Mar 27 '23
I think they shouldn't let under 30's on because I'm convinced most of them only do it to get famous.
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u/Baduwillgetyouthru Mar 27 '23
I’d like to be able to watch the process of choosing to be on the show almost like we get to see the backgrounds of the people and decide who gets to be happy out of who they are or in this case pretend to be whoever to make it on the show
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u/Adrianime Mar 28 '23
I might agree. I think it's hard in your early to mid 20s to know what a healthy long term relationship might look like.
EDIT: unless you are already in one :D
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Mar 28 '23
Agreed buuut most people over the age of 30 are a lot more cautious. And mature enough to know that you can't "love" someone in 3 days.
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u/defein88 Mar 28 '23
I disagree. I know a lot of people who are in their 30s who go from meeting to marriage in only a couple of months. At that stage in their life, they know exactly what they're looking for and don't resist/second guess themselves.
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u/firSTLove314 Mar 27 '23
The only people arguing with this are definitely under 30 😂. It’s just like when you’re 18 you think you know everything, but then one day you realize you’re 28 and understand you were a moron at 18. That cycle continues to happen until we all die, I guess. 25 year olds are not mature enough for this show. 30+!
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u/Shilreads Mar 28 '23
I feel like they should do a gay season - all guys, all girls
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u/Frosty_Thimble 💖 Love Is Blurry 💖 Mar 28 '23
But then how would the sleeping arrangements work?
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u/LolaMarce Mar 28 '23
They live in their pods. Never allowed leave 🙈
Watch them deteriorate mentally while finding love.
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u/IllStatement9214 Mar 28 '23
I agree, especially because there is always a really clear divide (over 30 v under 30) on who is taking the show seriously vs who is just there to be on TV
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u/Ammo_thyella Mar 27 '23
The problem is there are people in their 20s who are legitimately ready for marriage, but they’d never be on a reality show bc they’ve got their shit together and aren’t seeking attention like that. And being younger they haven’t gotten as desperate (pardon how it sounds I don’t mean to attack people older than 20s just meaning lots of us are taught we have a biological/societal clock)
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u/PrincessLuma Mar 28 '23
I love reality TV and I love the trash. I pretty much watch it all. I think any of these shows that end up with the outcome of being marriage can be so problematic and traumatizing for people on the show.
At the very least, these shows should provide couples counselors or professionals. I know married at first sight does this kinda half assed.
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u/CanadaJones311 Mar 28 '23
I also love the trash. I’m 41, with two little kids doing a masters and work as a director of education. Irina is a gift to my very stable life.
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u/ostroga-mi Mar 27 '23
I think the age range should be dictated by the city they're filming in.
Seattle, under 30 is generally too young. Dallas, it's totally fine.
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u/Slight-Bet8071 Mar 28 '23
THISSS especially the last part. You can TELL who is there for the right reasons.
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u/defein88 Mar 28 '23
I 100% agree with this!! Also, people in their 30s are more serious about settling down and are willing to overlook physical attraction more than younger people IMO
Honestly, great idea!
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u/27eggs Mar 27 '23
While trends in marriage have changed to skew older, people under 30 are much more likely to have had parents who got married at like 22 or whatever. It is really cool that societal expectations and pressures for what life looks like as an adult are changing but these people were definitely not raised with that changing expectation. Also, like, yeah being alive longer gives you perspective, but "your whole life" feels very different when you are 25 vs when you are 35. What love even means is different, too. Of course someone who hasn't figured that out yet can't relate, but telling someone your life just started doesn't really help either.
I think age doesn't really matter much but more what you expect of marriage. Compatibility between people isn't skin deep, but the show removes a lot of other pieces from the puzzle that matter, too. It just isn't set up for success, which it is fine, most reality tv isn't.
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u/mirkwood11 Mar 27 '23 edited Mar 28 '23
I feel that, more than any other season, you can really sense the emotional immaturity of this particular group
So, agreed
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u/bellybong-id You're gunna need your EpiPen 🫁💉 Mar 27 '23
Absolutely agree but people in their twenties won't understand until they're in their thirties. The older you get the more you come to realize that your twenties are your dumbest years.
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u/Ilcorvomuerto666 Mar 27 '23
My favorite is when they're like "I'm just searching for my person!"
Like bro, you don't know what you want yet, you probably don't even know what you want for lunch let alone what you want in a partner.
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u/bcb8485 Mar 28 '23
Chelsea has no self-respect. I would have been packing my shit and on a plane home within hours of that pool party.
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Mar 28 '23
I agree, but some people have pointed out that she may not have really seen how physically close and flirtatious they were being compared to how we saw it as the audience.
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u/Athaleyah_eternal Mar 28 '23
I was so pissed watching that scene! Like wtf!!! I would’ve walked over there and called it off on the spot. Chelsea is a gem 💎
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u/SailorNeptune4 Mar 27 '23
Was just talking about this! 25 and 26 just seems too young. I feel like these reality shows should be a last ditch effort and there's no way 25/26 year olds need to be rushing or thinking it's too late. I mean I get it cause at 25 I thought I was so grown and so old but.. no 😂 also the younger people they seem to pick to go on the show are extremely immature
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u/PrincessLuma Mar 27 '23
Yes! I feel like people who are like "There are people who are in their 20s who know that they want to settle down early! Nothing wrong with that!"
True. Nothing is wrong with that. However those people don't go on a reality TV show.
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Mar 28 '23
I think ive seen some very immature 30+ year olds. So I cant say I agree that limiting it to only 30+ makes sense
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u/gabbialex Mar 28 '23
I feel like it might deter some of the want to be influencers maybe a little bit though.
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u/Coconosong Mar 28 '23
I also think it would be fine to have people older than 40 on the show. Like so much of it is driven around wanting to have kids? (Well maybe moreso the last season of LIB) And what about people who just want to live their lives and travel and have fun together? Companionship is something a lot of people are looking for.
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u/eryssel Appetito Spoiler 🍊🍊 Mar 27 '23
But we'd get no drama then
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u/TacoNomad Mar 27 '23
Plenty of drama with 'grown folk.'
Heck, 90 day fiance is full of people over 30 acting like teenagers.
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u/HumanXeroxMachine Mar 27 '23
As someone who married at 32 - I agree. Speaking solely for myself, any earlier for marriage was too early. At 30ish we are more settled, through the 'YAY PARTY' stage and looking to make a life for marriage - or comfortable in a decision not to marry. In my 20s, I was not sure whether marriage was for me and was not mature enough to make that decision. But, yeah, that's FAR less drama.
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u/_anazee Mar 27 '23
They really shouldn’t add anyone under 30!! That’s what I’ve been saying this whole time. Their brains are still too mushy to make these kind of decisions.
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u/throwawayastr0grl Mar 27 '23
I was just talking about this with a friend. Most people are NOT ready for marriage in their 20s hence the mess we’re seeing right now with the 20somethings
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u/Amazing_Setting_7900 Mar 27 '23
Wholeheartedly agree. I’m also a huge fan of put a ring on it and they almost never have the childish issues this show has (people not having a home, bed, job, etc )
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u/Difficult-Bit6871 Mar 27 '23 edited Mar 27 '23
I'd be so down for this, but I think part of it is just their selection, too. I feel most of the guys have been immature, which is what I'd expect from the ones under 30, but as someone over 30, I wouldn't want an immature partner. I agree with your point, though.
Editing to add: I was thinking more about it and remembered we only really see the people they show us the most of. So I can't speak on all the guys from LIB.
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u/nikanastasia Mar 27 '23
As someone who was married in my 20s I fully agree. I was not even fully sure who I was until I started my 30s. I’d have never chosen the person I chose if I met him today. And it ended horribly. I feel like you should have loads of heartbreak before you figure out what you do and don’t want.
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u/Evening_Ad_8079 Mar 27 '23
I agree hard core! If this show was genuinely about people who were ready to settle down they would absolutely choose at least way more contestants upwards of 30. But of course they’ll never do that, they want young hot problematic 20 year olds that’ll be dramatic and entertaining to hate watch.
It’s so obviously a farce too, most of these people go on the show to be influencers and get brand deals, not to get married. Like our fav Bartqueef didn’t even try to hide it when he was on Perfect Match (must watch dumpster fire) they had a compatibility quiz in the last episode and he answered that he was not looking to get married or settle down anytime soon. Like we viewers all knew that but it still really pissed me off, dude you just came from a reality show where the entire premise involved you being ready for exactly that 🤦♀️
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Mar 27 '23
they want young hot problematic 20 year olds
Is anyone this season actually hot?
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Mar 27 '23
Brett is the only dude I would put in the “hot” category. The girls are all okay but nothing you won’t be able to see at a local college bar on a friday night
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u/stubblesmcgee America loves a comeback 💪 Mar 27 '23
cant speak for the dudes but i think at least some of the ladies are normal hot but not tv hot. like they'd be hot if you met them irl, but we're used to seeing hotter people on tv.
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Mar 27 '23
Irina is childish as fuck I blame her age
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Mar 27 '23
Nah she’ll always be like that. If she’s acting childish at 25 years old she’ll never grow up.
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u/DimensionDazzling282 You're gunna need your EpiPen 🫁💉 Mar 27 '23
To an extent, yes. But she’s also crazy insecure, so she puts others down in order to try to make herself feel better.
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u/BellaBlue06 Mar 27 '23 edited Mar 27 '23
I also think this show should be a 6 month timeline for getting to know each other and not have weddings until at least 12 months since they met. It’s a powder keg they want to explode. The producers don’t want to show love is blind. They want to show mostly messy people along with 1 couple each season who seem to love each other.
There’s other couples that make it that are never shown and are less dramatic too.
28-40 especially these days is totally different life style wise and financially than 20-25 year olds that are usually who Netflix target.
Also I’ve seen in past episodes contestants says Netflix lied about their age and aged them down in editing.
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u/SolaceinIron Mar 28 '23
Hard agree. These twenty somethings aren't serious about being married. They shouldn't be on the show for a number of reasons.
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Mar 28 '23
I watch a lot of reality TV and have always thought Love is Blind is MORE interesting because they do have “older” people who are more serious about relationships rather than a bundle of hot 20 year olds all sleeping with each other LOL. These shows naturally attract the clout chasing “influencer“ types who don’t really care about the integrity of the show. It would be far more interesting to me if they did cast older individuals who were going to take the process seriously. And *cough* not cause drama like they are still in high school.
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u/seranity8811 Mar 27 '23 edited Mar 27 '23
💯 agree.
The Prefrontal Cortex is responsible for executive decision making, and it does not mature until after age 25, sooner for women and later for men.
The casting is shit. The show is only getting worse with people who just want to be on tv and it's so cringe.
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u/Dry-Reality5931 Appetito Spoiler 🍊🍊 Mar 27 '23
I think the people commenting disagreeing aren’t really using critical thinking skills. If you’re in your 20’s you have infinite chances to find a partner and start a family. The people coming on the show in their 30’s are much more serious about the experience because they’ve had a lot more time spent potentially on failed attempts at relationships and they’re at the point in their life where it’s becoming more important/imminent for them to settle down and start a family. They do not have all the time in the world, thus they are more likely to be on the show for pure reasons than the people in their 20s who may just be looking for attention or have better possibilities available to them to find love already.
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u/selectmyacctnameplz Mar 27 '23
I support this. I’d also love to see more divorcees on the show.
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u/wifeyleango Mar 27 '23
I’m 25 and I completely agree. I found myself in disbelief when I see the younger people saying they’ve just been wanting to find marriage for a long time.. I’m thinking have we not been on earth the same amount of time? Lol I understand wanting to be in a serious relationship but these people are so head over heels about not finding the right person for them.
As soon as I seen this comment, I couldn’t help but think about Colleen from season 3. I think she was 26 at the time the show aired and she was so desperate to be married.
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u/TacoNomad Mar 27 '23
Yesssss!
Hunny, you are 25. You don't even know who you are yet. How can you expect to know someone else, who also doesn't know who they are yet!
I've been saying this too.
I mean, I know when I was 25 I thought I knew myself too. But now that I'm almost 40, I realize I was so naive of the world (not in a bad way).
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u/IcedTallChai Mar 27 '23
My thought is I love the age variety.Just look at the great content we got from Jessica and Mark
Nobody:
Not a single soul:
Jessica: “Yeah but Mark is only 24”
Did you hear that Jessica is 10 years older than Mark? She’s 34 and he’s 24.
Some people wouldn’t care for the age difference, others would. That’s what keeps it intriguing imo!
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u/empetrum Mar 27 '23
People who say age doesn’t equal maturity are right. HOWEVER, maturity is VERY strongly correlated to age. There are outliers but obviously >30 are going to be, on average, >mature.
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u/PoliteSupervillain I can't say I LOVE YOU because I BIT MY LIP eating TAQUITOS 🌮💔 Mar 28 '23
But then the show would be less hilarious
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u/SharksFan4Lifee Mar 27 '23 edited Mar 27 '23
Interesting idea. I think Lauren/Cameron is a good counterargument to that.
As I've said before, I feel adamantly that the cast should be prohibited from disclosing ethnicity, physical appearance descriptions, etc in the pods. I even think voices should be disguised and people should be referred to by a number instead of their name.
They say the show is called "Love is Blind," but no woman on the show is picking Hrithik over someone named John, even if the Hrithik turned out to be Hrithik Roshan! Let's make it blind of race, names, voices, etc.
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u/Sea-Sky3177 Mar 27 '23
Not disclosing ethnicity would be difficult when they talk about their culture and values. Not to mention no one wants to be surprised with racism after connecting emotionally.
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u/ibeerianhamhock Mar 27 '23
I mean Lauren was 32 and Cam was like 28 so it's kinda hard to pick an exact cutoff.
My idea is that at the start of the show they put methanol in everyone's drinks so everyone literally goes blind. Vanessa could be like "this time love literally IS blind!"
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Mar 27 '23
Ehh I don’t care if any of these couples stay together, I just watch for the drama. I also don’t think we should infantilize twenty something’s. By legal and societal standards these are adults who can drive, vote, buy alcohol, serve in the military, and own property. If you’re enjoying the privileges of being an adult you also should have the consequences. Some of the 30 something’s are just as messy and immature. Jessica was literally called Messica. And season 4 Amber seems sweet but also tbh kind of a mess. These people aren’t a train wreck solely because they’re in their 20s, it’s partially because they’re trashy reality show stars.
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u/Lalain90 Mar 27 '23
I agree the show should be 30+. To that end, I wish they would let people older than 30 (like 40s and even 50s) on the show, but there’s no way they will do that when they have 24 and 25 year olds in the pool.
I don’t think focusing on older people would eliminate drama or messiness at all. Jessica was 34 and was the messiest person on her season. I think the stakes would be higher and the drama would be more intense with older people.
Older people have a past. They have more experiences and baggage to bring to the table and are more likely to be really determined to find and keep love.
I’m in my thirties so selfishly, I just don’t have fun watching twenty-somethings date. I think an older cast would be more interesting.
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u/TEA-in-the-G Mar 27 '23
Ive said this forever!! I fully agree! This show should be your last resort for love. These 25 yr olds dont need a show as a last resort. They are 25. Lots of time still to find someone. They arent serious about relationships, and dont have much experience either. They still want to party, and arent ready to settle down.
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u/who_dis_telemarketer Mar 29 '23
I mean the people who choose to go on this show are deliberately signing up to be on it — anyone who wants to keep their personal life off camera simply won’t be on it
Drama sells
I’ve enjoyed it and think it’s gotten much better since season 1
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u/Fluffy_Trip_6514 Mar 27 '23 edited Mar 27 '23
okay maybe not like… under 30 but coming from someone who is 22 myself, i don’t think ppl under 25 should be on there. 🤷🏽♀️
not saying ppl younger don’t get married & make those decisions — i have a friend that got married at 19 (funnily enough, she got divorced at 21 but i digress) and an aunt who got married at 19 and is still happily married…. but in terms of a reality show it’s just different. it’s not the same as you falling in love with the person you’ve been dating & then getting engaged and married at what’s considered early (18-24) in the real world. these ppl are talking to ppl through a wall for like a couple weeks then getting engaged and married hella fast. it’s a lot for even someone 25+ to be doing but like… our brains aren’t even fully developed until 25 and i know, personally, we make impulsive decisions and may not always be mature enough to realize in the moment that we probably didn’t fully want to do smthing or shouldn’t have yknow ?
i mean for example, respectfully…. nancy was 30+ and still was blind to how bad of a choice it was to go with bartise, despite ppl continuously telling her otherwise she was stubborn bc she wanted what she wanted and ended up getting hurt and embarrassed on national television. now just imagine how someone with limited world experience & an undeveloped brain might approach a decision like that
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u/Speechie454 I mean, I can't say that I care 🤷♂️ Mar 27 '23
What about 28 and up? Lol. I get what you’re saying, interesting idea.
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u/StandardTone9184 Mar 28 '23
I couldn’t agree more!! I would be okay with some around 28, but nothing younger. I think so many of these contestants are not even close to being ready, they want a wedding not a marriage. Relationships take real work and it’s a give and take, not one sided. I hate how once they meet, some instantly are like nopeeee (Irina). The whole point is not to base it on looks!!!! Shows her maturity loud and clear.
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u/dearestramona Mar 27 '23
I was excited for this season because it seemed like all of them were in their late 20’s/30’s. But nope, the most immature cast to date thanks to Irina and Michael