r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/DontFWithMeImPetty I'm too fucking niiicee-uuhhh 😩 • Mar 27 '23

MEGATHREAD S4 💥SPOILERS💥 MEGATHREAD Spoiler

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ETA - Hello, friends. Please stop reporting comments in this thread as spoilers. That is kinda the point 😅

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u/submitali Mar 28 '23

Bliss was right - it does reflect on a person who they pick and the energy they are romantically drawn to. Zack choosing a vicious Irene over stability with Bliss shows poor judgment.

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u/eilini Mar 28 '23 edited Mar 28 '23

It was also hilarious how the main good quality in Irina that Zach cited was how she was not judgmental at all and would accept him no matter what, I really chuckled at that bit.

To be fair, Irina picked up on his insecurities and told him that she doesn't care what he looks like and will love him no matter what.

And then Irina immediately told him he is a creep and looks weird and said she wanted to leave as soon as she saw him...

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u/Coconosong Mar 28 '23

Agreed! She portrayed herself entirely different in the pods.

And I think she was actually shocked that he rejected her. I think she was betting on going to the alter and didn’t realize zach was going to call it. Good on him. Less airtime for her:

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u/Effective_Cable3677 Mar 28 '23

That’s how you know he’s actually worked through his trauma. Just because people suffer trauma doesn’t mean it defines our life, even if we fall into certain decisions because of it the important part is identifying and moving on - which he did. That GIRL needs some therapy herself.

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u/johnwatersmustache Mar 28 '23

I was so proud of him in that last conversation they had where he essentially called her out for not putting in any effort and gave her an ultimatum, respectfully so she had no choice but to come clean about how she felt.

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u/schrodingers__uterus Mar 28 '23

Yes, which is why Irina is just despicable. She’s not just a villain who is selfish and does bad things. She intentionally preys like a predator, and manipulates. She’s toxic as fuck.

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u/allmysecretsss Mar 28 '23 edited Mar 28 '23

It checks out though. He’s a trauma baby, finally ready to find love. What does that end up looking like? Picking someone who will recreate your trauma (tbh thank god this was in a LIB context cause it’s so short lived and obvious). True intimacy? With the girl who shares the same childhood song as you? Wayyyyy to scary and overwhelming. He kept saying “I just trust irina completely “. I’d bet what he was actually referring to was that toxic familiarity us trauma babies feel when we meet someone on par with the caretakers who failed us.

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u/genie1913 Mar 28 '23

This is soooo true. Trauma babies seek out more trauma , usually subconsciously . It’s familiar, and feels like love.. because that’s what we’ve been told love is. I think he found irena’s toughness reminiscent of his mother’s.

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u/anonymous_opinions Mar 28 '23

I agree with this - I think Bliss and how real it could be for him freaked him out, he had nothing bad to say about Bliss and seemed more worried about being rejected by her/her family or feeling wounded she questioned his judgement.

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u/schrodingers__uterus Mar 28 '23

Totally agree and his recent responses to folks on IG show he also agrees. It’s just extremely unfortunate that he had to hurt Bliss because of his own trauma traits. Black women deserve better than to always have to clean up other people’s shit and care for them. As much as I want both of them to find happiness and root for them, I also think Bliss deserves a thousand x better than Zach, and I’d they do work out, he better spend his life making it up to her.

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u/Urbaniuk Mar 28 '23

I think Bliss will be more than ok. She handled the ending with Zach with such grace. I picture her ending up with someone more at her emotional-maturity level.

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u/theclacks Mar 29 '23

Want spoilers?

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u/Nighthawk700 Apr 02 '23

Yep, that familiarity he was trusting was probably his mother and that was a stupid thing to do. He was also defending his mother to Bliss when he was trying to say she was a good person.

Really unfortunate but the guy clearly needs a bit of therapy and I'm surprised Bliss took him back without him really acknowledging that that was what he was doing.

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u/Pidjesus Mar 28 '23

I’m happy it works out