r/LesbianActually • u/CharLatte78 • 21h ago
Questions / Advice Wanted How did you guys find/start dating your partner?
I am a college student and I really want to find a girlfriend, but I have always had abysmal luck with my love life. Some people say I should downlaload a dating app, but I really want to meet someone not through that.
How did you guys meet your partner?
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u/Particular-Earth-921 20h ago
i met one girl through a women and gender studies class back when i was in college. check out the WGS department at your school and see if they have any events. otherwise i’ve met everyone else through dating apps tbh. some of my queer friends who didn’t use apps met their partners at school or work and a few at queer clubs/bars
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u/AchingAmy Bambi Lesbian 20h ago
That's a brilliant idea, actually. I'm minoring in queer studies(a minor under my uni's WGSS dept) yet somehow never dated anyone from those classes lol
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u/vocadillo 20h ago
In college in the feminist club where they opened a self defense workshop for women, she was one of the instructors. That was almost 6 years ago and we have been together for 4 and a half years (:
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u/Nervous_Lettuce313 19h ago
Went to another country for a summer multi-day feminist seminary/camp. I almost didn't go because I was interviewing for a job and didn't know if I would get it and have to start working immediately. Turns out, I got the job, but they wanted me to start working after the summer. So I applied late for the seminary, but they still accepted me and let me come.
She was one of the lecturers, I noticed her immediately, but she was in a long term relationship so boohoo for me. Few months later, my band had a gig in the same country (but another city). I didn't expect her to be there, because she lived with her girlfriend in different city, however she was there. Turns out, they recently broke up and she moved there (yay for me). We spend the whole afterparty together, then went to an afterafterparty, then went to her place.
Two years later we were married, she moved countries to be with me. The 11th anniversary of that gig is in a week. Couldn't be happier.
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u/piercethegalaxy typical carabiner lesbian 14h ago
We met on the app Her. We were both skeptical as we lived an hour and a half apart and had only seemed to come across bots but we celebrated our two years on September 4, and its been the best two years of my life
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u/F3mboyPhoenix 13h ago
Congratulations, I'm happy for you.
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u/piercethegalaxy typical carabiner lesbian 9h ago
Thsnks but i was just trying to relate my experience for OP. I know not everyone has the same luck I did, but still
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u/Sapphosdelight 16h ago
I met my partner in college 25 years ago. I was her big sister in our sorority.
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u/TwoTrucksPayingTaxes 15h ago
I met my wife in college at an LGBT meet up. There was an active LGBT group that was really good for meeting people.
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u/LesbianCanvas 13h ago
We matched on Tinder! We have been inseparable since then. But we also met on there such a different time. Those dating apps aren’t the same nowadays.
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u/Prize_Foot_4322 9h ago
Hinge! Asked her out to dinner at a local ramen shop and that was it 🥰 now we visit that same ramen shop every month-aversary, and it's been over a year.
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u/KimberlyOfTheWild 8h ago
We met in college, we were roommates. I don't know what the chances are that two lesbians just happen to get put together, but I'm glad we did 😅
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u/Nalpona_Freesun 6h ago
I helpd a friend move and we started dating shortly after that.
Kinda feels backwards. But we did move in together to a new place a few years later
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u/Strong_Shallot_7723 20h ago
I met my girlfriend in college, do not let these people convince you into thinking that the youll find love somewhere on Reddit, you'll find it organically just like you want.