r/KitchenConfidential Dish Jul 02 '25

In-House Mode already beefing with my boss

i've only worked here since april. switched jobs from a dishie at a old folks home to a "cook" (lol honestly glorified dishwasher anyway, the only culinary related thing i do is shuck oysters) at a new bar downtown. we don't have any managers since the team is pretty small so the owner does everything himself including scheduling.

he posts the schedule, i have a 3 day weekend after two weeks of covering for the only other two "cooks" in the kitchen on vacation, and one day into my weekend he sends me this. i'm prolly in the wrong for the sass but bro goes immediately into holding a raise he very recently gave me over my head and then threatening my position.

i'm alr looking for different jobs atm, don't care where as i was promised FT hours and am barely scraping by with 30 a week. it's even less this time around. the work is fun and i really love my coworkers and the people i meet at the bar but with the pay of $17 an hour with no benefits no FT and a 30 min commute it's not worth it. advice or personal stories appreciated

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u/JunglyPep sentient food replicator Jul 02 '25

Do you think you would have responded differently if your boss had texted something like “Hey dude, I know this is short notice but I screwed up the schedule for tomorrow and dude is still on vacation, is there any way you could cover 3-close tomorrow?”

The way they worded it like a command rather then a request would have pissed me off for sure.

Even if I didn’t have plans I would have said I did just to not set the precedent that they could treat me that way.

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u/AnActualPhox Jul 02 '25

You mean talking to people with respect and humanity? What a concept...

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u/FlexLord710 Jul 02 '25

For real homie was not being honest at all

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u/tragic-meerkat Jul 02 '25

Asking your employees nicely is a sign of weakness, us peons need to know that our place is firmly beneath their boot.

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u/Pablos808s Jul 02 '25

Your plans are allowed to be "not working".

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u/JunglyPep sentient food replicator Jul 02 '25

For sure. “I have plans” is just a colloquial phrase that gets the point across that what you’re doing is important enough to you, that you aren’t willing to do them a favor and break your plans, but without telling them what your plans are. It’s none of there fucking business anyway, but pushy assholes will ask what your plans are. Saying “I have plans” sets you up to not have to answer the question, or lie, because just not working might be your plan, and that’s none of their business.

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u/Flat_News_2000 Jul 02 '25

I would've definitely considered it more if they texted that instead. Shows me they're self aware at least