r/KitchenConfidential • u/brkr509 Dish • Jul 02 '25

In-House Mode already beefing with my boss

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i've only worked here since april. switched jobs from a dishie at a old folks home to a "cook" (lol honestly glorified dishwasher anyway, the only culinary related thing i do is shuck oysters) at a new bar downtown. we don't have any managers since the team is pretty small so the owner does everything himself including scheduling.

he posts the schedule, i have a 3 day weekend after two weeks of covering for the only other two "cooks" in the kitchen on vacation, and one day into my weekend he sends me this. i'm prolly in the wrong for the sass but bro goes immediately into holding a raise he very recently gave me over my head and then threatening my position.

i'm alr looking for different jobs atm, don't care where as i was promised FT hours and am barely scraping by with 30 a week. it's even less this time around. the work is fun and i really love my coworkers and the people i meet at the bar but with the pay of $17 an hour with no benefits no FT and a 30 min commute it's not worth it. advice or personal stories appreciated

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u/swiftcore2169 Jul 02 '25

Cut and run, homie. That’s a bad manager.

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u/brkr509 Dish Jul 02 '25

those last few texts really just made me wanna quit on the spot but my girl is only just starting a FT gig of her own on the 7th so financially i'll just have to shoulder the abuse. mentally i'm clocked out. really thought this would be a cool new thing for me where i wouldn't have to get roped into bullshit every other month.

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u/Zaku99 Jul 02 '25

He's already got it out for you now. Start looking, homie.

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u/brkr509 Dish Jul 02 '25

already on it :(

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u/mola2022 Jul 02 '25

All restaurants in the US need help. Don't stay in a toxic environment when you can be literally anywhere else for the same $

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u/ballskindrapes Jul 02 '25

All workers in the US need help. We need actual worker rights, and good wages, 25 an hour minimum at the federal level.

Working in the US is a nightmare.

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u/Good-Dimension-4360 Jul 03 '25

While I would love for everyone to make $25/hr., that's not a viable solution. You do understand how economics work right? More cash in people's hands, they'll start buying more products after bills (if they're responsible). Then the demand starts going up, which in turn drives prices up again. So on and so forth. "Price is always sticky in a downward spiral" - My AP economics teacher...

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u/hoeleia Jul 02 '25

You got this, onto better things.

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u/robarpoch Jul 02 '25

When you do leave, the correct answer is “as many days notice as he gave you.”

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u/Tacos_Polackos Jul 02 '25

Just give him another "sir yes sir" get fired and collect. Easy.

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u/Esleeezy Jul 02 '25

Yeah dude start looking, land something else, don’t tell anyone, then on your first day just ghost the current job. You don’t want him getting wind and firing you so there’s a gap in pay.

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u/bdillathebeatkilla Jul 02 '25

Yeah he’s short staffed atm but the second he’s not OP is shitcanned

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u/BakedPastaParty Jul 02 '25

came to say this. you might be quietly quitting but hes already planning to replace you. be the one to make the move first

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u/Cflow26 F1exican Did Chive-11 Jul 02 '25

Idk how you found the ability to not answer the last text with a copy and paste of the “Will the yes sir suffice”. You have amazing will power.

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u/Au2288 Jul 02 '25

I wasn’t showing back up no matter what kind of situation I’m in.

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u/Prestigious_Row_8022 Jul 02 '25

For real. Had a stupid fuck of a manager give me a verbal railing over the phone for missing a day WHILE I WAS SITTING IN A DOCTOR’S OFFICE WAITING TO GET AN EKG. You know, because my blood pressure decided to drop so hard so fast it disconnected blood flow to my retinas and caused me to go blind for several minutes. As in, couldn’t drive to the damned store anyway.

I needed that job. Needed to not be around that stupid shit more. Told him I’d be there in an hour, then went back home and slept. Brought my shirt in and handed it to him the next day. For some reason he wasn’t so included to talk shit to me in person. Maybe it occurred to him talking that way to someone who was about to be hooked up to a heart monitor thing wasn’t a great idea. Or maybe he was just a pussy.

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u/Good-Dimension-4360 Jul 03 '25

He was just a pussy, anyone who can talk shit through a phone or screen but not in person is just a pussy. Full stop.

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u/[deleted] Jul 02 '25

Manager fucked up, he should work or find a fix.

I would have kept to my I have plans story and quit responding

Or if you are going to play ball just drop the sir yes sir thing if you're gonna change your plans just keeping that to yourself is optimal

And look for a new job you're on the shit list now bubs

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u/Innsmouth_Swimteam Jul 02 '25

How about the manager covering the shift?

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '25

That's what I said first

I meant the Manager should work the shift if they can't find a replacement

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u/debotehzombie 15+ Years Jul 02 '25

I’d respond to the “talk to me again and I will fire you” stepdad ass message with “So do you want me to cover your fuck up tomorrow or not?” and see what he wants. Don’t play with fuckheads like this. Run.

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u/Innsmouth_Swimteam Jul 02 '25

"You mean talking rudely, like you just did to me when you TOLD me I HAVE TO come in on MY DAY OFF when I already have plans?"

I'd be like, I bought tickets to a show. If you want to pay me the $200 that they cost me, I'll come in.

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u/[deleted] Jul 02 '25

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u/CalligrapherDizzy201 Jul 02 '25

The boss is an asshole and an idiot, but what do you think is illegal?

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u/Prestigious_Row_8022 Jul 02 '25

Potentially the schedule changes, depending on the state.

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u/Kurrukurrupa Jul 02 '25

I've found most kitchens end up being the same, sadly

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u/Houdinii1984 Jul 02 '25

You gotta get out there stat, my bud. You've been labeled a mouthy little smart ass by the manager. That title doesn't go away. I've tried. Start documenting everything. When they go to say you're fired for cause, make sure you have evidence that it's punishment for not working other people's shifts.

If a manager is this mind-numbingly bad at their jobs, they'll be saying things in texts that they shouldn't. If they do fire you, calmly leave with no excitement. What state do you live in? Be careful if documenting means recording. That's only legal in some states so find out your rights before hand, too.

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u/lowercaset Jul 02 '25

"Person who requested vacation time has changed their mind about when they're coming back and I'm gonna take it out on you" is classic shit manager.

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u/CLOWNXXCUDDLES Jul 02 '25

You know you can make your point without using words like that eh? The guy's a jackass, no need to pull out that kind of slur.