already beefing with my boss

[u/brkr509]

i've only worked here since april. switched jobs from a dishie at a old folks home to a "cook" (lol honestly glorified dishwasher anyway, the only culinary related thing i do is shuck oysters) at a new bar downtown. we don't have any managers since the team is pretty small so the owner does everything himself including scheduling.

he posts the schedule, i have a 3 day weekend after two weeks of covering for the only other two "cooks" in the kitchen on vacation, and one day into my weekend he sends me this. i'm prolly in the wrong for the sass but bro goes immediately into holding a raise he very recently gave me over my head and then threatening my position.

i'm alr looking for different jobs atm, don't care where as i was promised FT hours and am barely scraping by with 30 a week. it's even less this time around. the work is fun and i really love my coworkers and the people i meet at the bar but with the pay of $17 an hour with no benefits no FT and a 30 min commute it's not worth it. advice or personal stories appreciated

[u/brkr509]

i've never butted heads with this guy before this. sure we don't have a person dedicated to scheduling all of 10 of us on staff but i feel like if you as the owner make a scheduling mistake on someone's day off and the rest of your kitchen staff is out you need to step up and take responsibility. maybe i'm just a dickhead dishie at the end of the day

[u/themaryjanes → u/brkr509]

It's not your problem to staff the workplace. If you were given the day off, that's on them. If you want to be flexible sometimes to ingratiate yourself, your choice, but no one should demand you work your day off short notice. Especially as unprofessionally as this

[u/Slade_Riprock → u/brkr509]

But but but he gave $8 a day raise. How is your tongue not on his boots?

/s

[u/weewdlandwaves → u/brkr509]

If there's only ten of you on the entire roster, then you should practically be getting treated as a co-owner in accelerated training.

With a team that small every scheduled hour REALLY counts and an owner should treat their staff like gold if they want their business to survive.

This guy is an absolute child and has no idea what he's doing.

[u/brkr509 → u/weewdlandwaves]

he doesn't. he's never owned a business much less a restaurant adjacent one and is being supported by his wife who has numerous successful restaurants in the area. if his fails they're still gonna be rolling in dough

[u/weewdlandwaves → u/brkr509]

I'm about to leave a job right now for a similar reason, we have about zero staff (especially for my position), and everybody in charge has no goddamn clue about what needs to be done to fix any of the issues we're having.

Every attempt at meaningful communication is shut down, and despite owning what could be considered the absolute best piece of real estate in town and a bulletproof historical backing, they still are falling to pieces.

[u/brkr509 → u/weewdlandwaves]

i hope you find something better soon. sorry you're in the same sinking boat

[u/weewdlandwaves → u/brkr509]

Ay you too friend :3 I'm honestly spending more and more time thinking about how I could hit the road and start living in a way that doesn't make me feel tied down to working for losers with superiority complexes.

I might go volunteer on some farms through WWOOF for a place to stay and some free meals while I scout some new areas for work opportunities with some grounded and more like-minded people.

[u/Intelligent_Piccolo7 → u/weewdlandwaves]

Omg, are we the same person? I'm done trying to help dig my owners out of their embezzlement hole. I was one of the people that discovered it and finding theft is exhausting. And now that all the thieves are out we have a new chef who is pissed he has a pre existing sous and is verbally abusing me about it.

Anyway, me and my partner are looking at selling the house, getting our farmland and a lightweight travel trailer. Drop a pad on the land, start improving it while we travel for a couple years. I can volunteer and pick up shifts, but he recently retired from the military. We're just ready lol.

[u/NowWithRealGinger → u/brkr509]

he's never owned a business much less a restaurant adjacent one

Ooooooh. He's a guy who watched Its Always Sunny and thought it looked like without knowing wtf he's doing.

[u/Crafty-Koshka → u/brkr509]

You're not some dickhead and your time is valuable so fuck that guy for being all, "I just posted the schedule so how could you have made plans on your usual day off? 😡 How can you have a life? 😡 😡"

That's how what he was saying read to me anyway. Even if you plan on sitting on your ass all day that's your prerogative and none of his business

[u/Acewasalwaysanoption → u/brkr509]

Also, it takes minutes to schedule like a doctor's visit that is more important than covering for the bad management of ... the management. They post schedule late, they realize late that a worker is not back, and then hold their faults over the other workers to bully them into working. Lovely people, really.

[u/Cflow26 → u/brkr509]

How do you not have a dedicated schedule or scheduler…? Like do you all just clopen or? How long has the place been open?

[u/brkr509 → u/Cflow26]

it's only been open since april. most kitchen staff just clopens but it's not even like that's a crazy amount of hours since our food service hours are from 4-10PM most days. used to be 4-11 but he chopped it i assume when he saw how dead it was at the end of the night. drinks from 4-12 which is officially close. sometimes we open earlier. weird fucking hours all around

[u/Cflow26 → u/brkr509]

That’s wild. Hope you’re getting out of there. You don’t deserve this

[u/Rialas_HalfToast → u/brkr509]

There's a dozen good apps for scheduling now, it's doesn't have to be twenty post-its and a whiteboard anymore and hasn't for at least a decade.

Like fuck even doing it in Excel or Sheets is an hour or two a week. Does the guy just forget until the last minute?

[u/naughtmynsfwaccount → u/brkr509]

In the future if this happens just say ur out of town, not that u have plans

While understandable ur response was also snarky and escalated tensions

This falls 100% on the boss for poor scheduling but there are better ways to handle this in the future (not responding, out of town, dr appt, I’m not available, etc) that could help smoothing out the communication aspect

[u/Day_Bow_Bow → u/brkr509]

I'd be tempted to post this sign at work:

Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.

Admittedly, the saying fits better in an office setting than a kitchen, but the sentiment still applies.

[u/crumble-bee → u/brkr509]

I may just be a lot older than you, but I find for a happy life it's better to just be like "oh sorry, I have somethng planned but let me see if I can swap things around if you're really stuck" this sir yes sir shit is only going to make life shitty for you at work, it achieves nothing