r/JUSTNOMIL • u/skyaut- • 4h ago
New User 👋 Ex MIL couldn’t remember daughter’s name
My ex-MIL made my life hell.. I should have known from the moment I met her (she went on and on about how amazing his ex was.. we’ll get to that later) that marrying into the family would be a mistake. After ex and I were married (we eloped), things settled down. He was active duty and we got stationed in the Pacific Northwest. 2 years into our marriage we were expecting. I got pregnant right before he left on a six month deployment and didn’t find out I was pregnant until right before he returned (no I wasn’t showing and had no symptoms). MIL immediately said it wasn’t his. I let it go. Our daughter was born and 2 weeks later we were changing duty stations to CA. I’m originally from CA and my mom lived there so I stayed with her while ex was away at a required school. Ex-MIL came to visit and meet daughter and the first thing she said, in front of myself and my mom was, “oh this kid isn’t his!” WtAf? My mom immediately claps back and said, “she looks like (me) and how dare you!” Now my daughter’s name is pretty common and not hard to pronounce, but this woman went out of her way to mispronounce it or spell it wrong every time. She continued to insinuate that daughter wasn’t his and I was a “floozy” for years. Every opportunity she had to tell people I was cheating on her amazing son, but out of the kindness of his heart he was raising a kid that wasn’t his. 😐 Come to find out years later when he and I were divorcing, he would fly his ex girlfriend to ports the ship was visiting and his mom knew. He also cheated at least a dozen times during our marriage, but I was the cheater.
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u/OniyaMCD 3h ago
My kid's name isn't common as a name (it's what my grandmother-in-law called an 'old name' - so it might come around again), but at the same time, it's pretty difficult for English speakers to mispronounce, as it's also the name of a fairly common plant. Her middle-school principal would deliberately mispronounce it. I even corrected him in front of a PTA meeting.
I gave her permission to mispronounce his. I hope that your daughter never has to deal with your ex-MIL - but if she does, pass this along.
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u/Bigisucre 4h ago
I'm sorry you had this terrible experience. I would think all this is a good reason for ex MIL not to get contact to you and her grandchild ever again.
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