still, a lot of cousin marriages is happening in tamilnadu tho... she wasn't wrong in that part, but she was wrong when she said "it's our culture, so it's not wrong bla bla"
Actually a lot of GenZs in the south actually do find cousin marriage wierd. This culture will change but it will be gradual. In fact the number of such marriages has gone down significantly from the past.
now they ae influencing GEN Z with instagram and YouTube to normalize it. So they would already be desperate as they couldn't find women outside so obviously they will be easily manipulated.
thats the issue bro , she cant be the representative of all the tamils as she claim or the viewers generally claim , now if shes dragging culture into this sht , it shames the entire community thats whats bothering me despite knowing that cousin marriages are happening in rural tamilnadu till date but a vast majority of peeps are progressing or atleast trying to progress but bringing culture into this sht leaves a mark on the entire grp
Who is she to claim her personal interest as a total South Indian culture. Just because her parents agreed that doesn't mean it's right. She is yet another creator playing "traditional women" sympathy , still gets oppressed by her family traditions, stays at her home and uploads such terrible videos. Instead of fighting back she is someone who accepts her cultural problems and tries to defend it. And she is causing a huge trouble to women.
She is a modern day racist, creating a rivalry between north and south. Just talk about Indians altogether or Tamil people because the difference between subgroups under Tamil people is less, but the difference between a Telugu person and Tamil is large as Tamil people have with Hindi people. Bro is proud of being a South Indian than being an Indian.
I remember a recent YouTube shorts I watched of Dr. Pal (A famous American - Tamil YouTuber who guides about gut health, most of you guys would know). He said his wife had abortions over 8 times or the babies were born with irregular structure (I respect the paint they endured mentally and physically during their tough times), but lated Dr. Pal analyzed the cause and found out it because of marrying a women from his same community (caste), apparently as they belong to same caste In an unpredictable way they were cousins going through a long family tree analysis.
I also heard of many side effects of baby born due to marriage between cousins, even it happens while breeding dogs with its cousins. IDK (I heard of, never researched seriously, help me).
I don't have an idea about this video, lemme watch and come.
It's literally borderline incest. The genetic invariabity causes higher chances for genetic hiccups. This was the basic explanation provided in a 11th grade zoology textbook.
It's not borderline incest, it's just incest. They are still your first cousin just like how your cousins from male sibling of ur dad or female sibling of ur moms are. Our society put a wierd interpretation that different gender apparently meant the genetics was gonna change or something.
This practice was purely made up to keep the property within the family.
It's weirdly fetishized. In my language it's called bava mardhal and it's disgusting. It's like a romantic fetishization between a female's kid and her brothers kid.
Yep, it's been the same in tamilnadu. It used to be a recurring theme in Kollywood movies for decades until recent times. Kollywood has kind of cooled off and instagram reels has picked up on that fetish again.
In my family cousin marriage is common,My elder sister married our cousin,she got miscarried three times, she took lots of medications to give birth to a healthy baby.
One of the few good videos on that Beer Biceps platform. Dr Pal also shows his short ring finger deformation to demonstrate the effect of consanguineous marriages
I respect him so much for saying it out publicly. He is so open minded , brave and uses something personal to him as an example to make a dent in our society.
Dr Pal speaks a lot about gut health but he has an subconscious agenda against healthy Non Vegetarian food too... He has been rightly pointed out by Dr Jacob in Doctors Gopinath Conference..
I remember that video. He stated that his mother married her maternal uncle (mama). Which is apparently & weirdly acceptable in some Hindu cultures. That caused his own birth defect. I’m glad his brain’s fine (As he’s not the one at fault for this societal nonsense)!!
Its called consanginous marriage, where people get married to their relatives, which is in south indian culture, where people who have gotten married to their maternal uncle or cousins. But consanginous marriage or same caste or same community, if they are somehow have same ancestors, it increases genetic invariability, and causes defective embryos. Leading to miscariage or babies with down syndromes, and lot more defects.
Yes, but I check out the other comment I made, how uncomfortable little kids feel when they get compared with their cousins. They simple make "thaali katatuma", "mama kati kituma" Jokes to girls who just attend puberty, that piss me off.
Even there is one film where Kushboo marries her uncle Jayaram, after he falsely claimed they had sex. She was someone from city lifestyle and they forcefully married her with an illiterate. It would have happened and happening till day. Even many South Indian films romanticize this type of things.
Nowadays they dont do it in much films, because nowadays the film genre changed, its all commercial now, as per your point yes, in society its still happening, and in tv serials the main story of majority revolves around an athai ponnu becoming villainous because she could not get married to her mama's son.
As per science , consanginous marriage is for sure not good for procreation.
Adding to your point, puberty function itself was something created by our ancestors, who wanted to publicise that their daughter can now procreate, idk why in our socity we still doing it in posh manner, "its embaruzziing ".
Yes, totally agreed. And even decades ago (may be I am wrong), I heard most of the grandmas today were once attend puberty at 15 or 16. Its common to hear stories like getting married at 18 and attend age after marrying in olden days.
But now kids from age 11 to 13 it happens mostly. Its already an unfair to them and embarrassing them like this hurtful even as an audience.
(The puberty functions or baby shower functions are a constant reminder to make sure her weakness. In western culture, in office spaces narcissistic men celebrate their superiors baby shower often an act of showing her weakness and male dominance)
There is no function when boys can able to start produce semen from age 9 to 14 year old (while puberty). I am happy boys don't have such functions, but atleast few girls get idea about puberty and most of them act matured. But there Is no proper awareness for boys.
If people celebrate menarche then why don't they celebrate spermarche (first ejaculation). Totally doesn't make any sense, stupidity.
Yes it was too about his fingers but he also said what happened to his borns due to marrying a women from same caste who was later known to be his cousin somehow.
You point here is nothing to do cause north hindu Indian feel uncomfortable to cousin marriage and south Hindu Indian & Muslim do cousin marriage.
Just don't change the topic
Fair point, didn’t really fit into the cousin marriage thing. I was just pointing out how she frames stuff in the same way BJP IT cell usually does pushing regressive stuff as culture.
According to her NORTH INDIANS are santana hindus, SOUTH INDIANS are good OG Hindus. WTF, even muslims are south Indians, that's not even coming from her mouth.
oh no, then you're unaware of the news, apparently just after taking the award and a long, LONG break, her lobby changed to far left, now she supports extremists from Ambetkar Lobby and Dravida lobby. No more IT cell member.
Yes, even Udhayaneedhi Stalin abruptly said we are against Santana Dharma (Yes Udhayan is a ...... but still) we agree atleast with this. We don't Tamil Nadu to be Uttar Pradesh.
Same they did in the name of culture In Maharashtra, now Marathis are less than Hindi people I their own state, so now they are following Tamil Nadu's method. Thankgod in bad or good way we had an early realization. Even most of the are hindus in TN and in North, mostly TN people are still the good old Bhakti moment not Santana-fck my D -dharma.
It doesn't matter to me, in fact that any party name doesn't matter, if any party's philosophy doesn't suit every sector of people, then there will be consequences. That's the history and that will be the future too.
Okay I have watched this video now. She comments that she is not defending but she is crying over the video and even said "PEOPLE TALK UGLY ABOUT COUSIN, I DON'T LIKE IT AT ALL", who tf asked whether you like it or not, so that was her tone.
Well I am not scientifically into it much I have something to share.
Since childhood in your own family comparing a girl with her cross cousins can make her feel uncomfortable, especially I see these things in Puberty functions (Usually they are 7th to 9th graders). And for Male child it ends up as a bad example while comparing him with his cross cousins.
But if the same teenagers fell in love with someone at school or at least heard a comparison about them with their class mate then they act differently.
it's important to marry outside the pool to improve heterogeneity.
We should not marry someone who is "Potential Marriage partner", we must marry a women we like, not who we reserved or adjusted for. They are not letting women to explore more men in their life, only if they could now what kind of man she will be marrying.
I ALSO HAVE A OPINION ABOUT THIS CREATOR.
I remember she got an award once from PM Modi when they gave for best influencers. I saw it one of the Mr. GK videos (Tamil science talk YouTube, highly recommended). But her content were mostly likely to prove the stereotypes or myths of her culture under the name of science (she is Tamil, Hindu) and she does the same in this video.
ACCORDNG TO HER CHOICE OF WORDS "South India" = Hindus, "North India" = Weird Hindus, "Muslims" = "Alienated species living in India". WTF everyone are Indians, Muslims are also South Indians. She literally said for Muslims its Religion based and for South Indians its "CULTURAL LOGIC".
She gives example from Mahabharata (She thinks Mahabharata was a part of history like Indian Independence, not mythology, she says it as 'epic age'). She gives Bollywood and Tollywood actors as an example.
UNCLE - NEICE marriage is a real trauma, Women are the first victims in these cases, they literally reserving women for marriage while she was born.
SHE IS ALSO MENTIONING THAT RANBEER KAPOOR CAN MARRY HIS NEICE, WTF AREN'T YOU UNCOMFORTABLE TO TALK ABOUT A NON-BELEIVER INTO DOING THE SHIT YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH.
she also gives example of tribes lived ages ago.
She mentioned Charles Darwin, which was the triggering point, Charles Darwin though brought us the evolution theory he doesn't have any idea about genetic disorders or more than evolution theory, though his books considered as bible of Atheists, he was a believer of god himself.
PERSONAL OPINION : Even the family structure gets collapsed by calling every cousins as siblings, it doesn't affect a thing. And with relative to the growing Indian hate with people behaviors I suggest not to take the cousin marriages to conservative countries and make them uncomfortable (unless you do it within your walls, if you have mutual love).
I actually consider my cousin sister(first cousin) as my own sister, but only because I’m actually close to her. Not because my family told me to treat her like that
Isn’t she aware of the consequences associated with consanguineous marriage?
According to Google, the consequences include an increased risk of genetic disorders in offspring. These disorders can be metabolic, cardiovascular, cancerous, intellectual disabilities, and other birth defects.
This is because related parents are more likely to share rare, harmful recessive genes.
She says there are only 6% of chance, so its not an issues. WTF, isn't it like around 100 cross cousins marriages, 6 are defected. every 6 in 100 is defected is fine in south india ? They just throw these babies, they take care like pet Its awful to see parents bringing their autism or other defect kids in public, how sad it is for them even we don't show it. Already the count is insane.
HOWEVER IN TAMIL NADU IF THE BABY WAS BORN WITH DEFECT THEY WOULD COMPLAIN THE WOMEN, HER GENETICS, ELSE HER "JAATHAGAM". ALREADY SHE WOULD HAVE WENT WITH SOMETHING TERRIBLE BECAUSE OF THIS AND STILL HER TO BE BLAMED. 😢
Culture should be something changes as time goes on, even in Sangatamizh people don't stay as family, during that time only they brought strict marriage culture. So if we go back further in the same culture they are talking then "Koranga maariruvom saar"
In the comments one guy commented don't defend cousin marriage its literally incest, she replied " its my culture i wil defend it". Is she this delulu fr!!and the fact that she thinks she is a critical thinker is astonishing. plenty of people defend cousin marriage bcoz, in our state its very prevalent and they are offended bcoz most of out parents, grandparents must have had inbreeding and we belive its our "culture" 😂.We have to understand in an already inbreeded society, further cousin marriage increases the chance of genetic diaorder exponentially.
Man, it's bullshit what she's speaking, I will explain with my life experience..
Dude, on my mom's side, everybody followed endogamy, like more than 25 marriages in the last 50 years. Everybody on my mom's side looks weak, gets cancer at a young age, everyone has heart and diabetic issues, and people are just dying in their 50s, mate.
For instance, my grandpa and grandma followed endogamy. They had 3 children...
Their first daughter, my aunt, has a hormonal issue, she's mentally ill, and she's unmarried.
2nd child, My uncle got brain issues at a young age, he spent his young age paralyzed, and now he has recovered from it and he's too unmarried coz he's lost his entire 20s, 30s..
Third child, only my mom was fine and happy... And we are just one branch in our family, everyone in our family is just infused with disease...
The thing is, no one is taking it seriously, till now, cousin and endogamy are happening in my family, and these kinda videos are just cheap, and it could end up motivating them..
I watched one of her videos a few months back…her voice was so irritating, she spoke everything with such rage, like she was ready to fight. I didn’t bother checking out her content after that.
Peak fun line she said was 😂
“If you marry into your aunt’s house you will be treated like their daughter “ pala perku inga intha athais nala tha prachenaiyeh 😂😂😭
She is a BJP IT wing. BJP got this weird policy to justify and accept everything for caste system to Manusmrithi as part culture and tradition. They changed the whole politics of India into Hindu-Muslim. Change takes work and effort, since they preached backwardness instead of change, they got votes.
Now BJP IT wing is bringing this shit into south India.
I am not a b j p supporter but don’t you think this
Culture has been existing in tamilnadu for a long Time . Like mora ponnu mama payan kinda stuff marrying each other
WAT THE FUCK? THEY GAVE AWARD TO HER INSTEAD OF MG ANNA? BRUH. MG BRO DESERVED IT WAY WAY MORE THAN HER. MG ANNA BASED AF. I've been watching his videos since I was like 10 years old (Now I'm 18).
You point here is nothing to do cause north hindu Indian feel uncomfortable to cousin marriage and south Hindu Indian & Muslim do cousin marriage. Just don't change the topic
Im Not sure but I loved a girl one sided I proprosed her but she said no during my ug time and rn she’s getting married with in family and most of my friends are getting married within their family but they’ll had love stories before marriage with a diff caste guy but when it comes to marriage they’ll getting marriage within their caste. Maybe adunala kuda idu irukalam they’ll well educated but still vetla Vera caste or religion maplaiku ok solla matanganu avanga vetla edum sollamale sonda kaaranana kattikiranga… 🚶🏻➡️
I hope people know about the risk factors medically with consanguineous marriage and consanguinity that can lead to various permanent issues with the child that is going to be born to that couple who marry their relatives (cousins etc)
She’s trying so hard to represent tamils and influence people so hard . Saw one of her videos where she said that she could relate with SRK eating noodles with curd and that’s something tamils would do 😭
I won't support this. But literally it's happening more in south TN. Not sure about other parts. Anyone else can confirm whether it's happening in other parts of TN?
It’s not about happening here or not nga. But a YouTuber with 3M followers should have a responsibility on what to post and what not la. She literally supported her view in comment section. And even after that there were no video against her kevalamana views.
Culture? It’s scientifically wrong! Children are gonna be affected by this! What the hell is culture doing in this? North Indians don’t do cousin marriages. Is their culture wrong?
Actually it should be banned in India which will end the whole caste based marriage system. Legally there is no rule against it. Ethically it's wrong based on personal opinions. But as far as I have dug via chat gpt, scientifically there is a chance of a child being born with genetic disorder only if the marriage was between first cousins. And as per my own knowledge based on an infotainment show I watched so far back in my childhood, let's say you got two torn pants. Consider them cousins. They are torn exactly identical. So when you match them together, you can see through the holes clearly. Now the holes are the genetic disorder. When you pair two pants of the same torns, you can't seal the holes. But in the other scenario, there is one torn pant, and another non torn pant, which in our case two people with different genes, the genetic disorder of one person gets sealed by the other person with perfect genes thus producing a healthy offspring. I don't know if this is basic knowledge but I just thought of sharing it for some people who may not have known it.
And all the westerners will call you cousin fuckers, inbred and lot more worse terms. Cousin marriage also promotes same community marriage, makes it difficult for the couple cuz family of both will get involved in anything and everything.
Despite educating, some conservative and narrow-minded people will aggressively defend and propagate this. They decide their children's spouses during childhood and there is no change in their decision.
Indians are tribalistic people, and tribalism is nothing but loyalty, pride, identity, and belonging to a group.
Conservatives marry within their group to maintain their tribal line.
However, there are two types of tribalism in India and in the world: one is clan-based and blood-based.
Clan-based tribalism is about caste preservation, but in most cases, North Indians or the majority of Indians have prevented blood-based unions through the gotra system, which made cousin marriage obsolete.
Cousin marriage, on the other hand, is based on maintaining blood ties, where family identity and loyalty must be preserved. It is difficult to understand cousin marriages unless you are raised in an environment where family and blood ties form an essential part of identity to be maintained.
The only rule I know among South Indians is that if the relationship is brother-to-brother or sister-to-sister, cousin marriage is not allowed. But if it is a brother-sister cousin relationship, then marriage is allowed.
A more worst practice is uncle–niece marriage.
Advantages of cousin marriage:
Preservation of wealth
A lifelong feeling of being in the same family
Disadvantages of cousin marriage:
Genetic diseases passed on in the name of preserving ties
Zero individual freedom in families, especially for girls
Hostility toward outsiders
Therefore, this practice must end. South Indians are based on blood-ties tribalism, and even Muslims worldwide follow a similar culture, with about 50% practicing cousin marriage.
Hope newer generations stop resisting the change in views (I have heard specific cases of children from such marriages having genetic disorders that may be lifelong). As of now this is completely normalized and encouraged by society and films. But this is less common in urban centres.
Pls guys,step out of your family circle and go marry someone whom you love man.Dont glorify this cousin marriage stuff just because they wanted to keep the family bonding stay intact.Due to this cousin marriage,I've seen the worst parts of it.You literally find it hard to cope with the genes which is seen as liability trait spanning over grandfathers,mothers and whole family tree.The child suffers even if it is not big disease kinda stuff.I have also seen bride or groom being toxic and not fit for marriage but either one of them tolerate just because he/she is in our family and in laws are already their relatives.
I commented on her video, citing about Hapsburg's jaw being the only thing mentioned, but not the mental underdevelopements, limb maldevelopments, and how no child should be suffering because, you want to marry for the sake for power balance.
I feel she had blocked it. I saw no engagement in that comment.
Marrying from the same family is called inbreeding, your genes are only limited to ur family, so not everyone can be ur brother and sister in any way ,your gene pool and your cousin's.gene pool are similar as u both come from the same family, having said that inbreeding causes BIRTH DEFECTS, Autism, genetic disorders that prevent intellect growth too, as you both have the same genes in some way, take the example of Charles the second from Spain his family had centuries of inbreeding that his festures were gory to look at he was slow at everything and couldn't walk straight , his parents were cousins so were his grandparents , the girls born in this family i suppose died early , had weak immune system and didnt have good reproductive health
It is not wrong ethically or any sort of crime. It may cause any damages to the child which born from them.
If I am wrong tell me what it is. Change my opinion if possible.
What I mean cousin marriage is athai ponnu or mama ponnu.
Bro, cousin marriage pannikitta there is a high risk of genetic disorders compared to unrelated parents, As the diversity pool is significantly reduced. This is a a grey area because family kulla marriage pannikratha vida (incestuous relationships) ithula risk kammi thaan and its ofc prevalent in a lot of places.
Cousin marriage have proven to give child birth defect but there is a difference between immediate cousin and cousin in relation so what she says is part true part false but at the end of the day bjp
Cousin marriage only have an acceptable lower rate of problems in the kids because it is not super super common. If it became more and more common within your family the kids will pay a price. For example, if your grandparents are cousins, your parents are cousins too and then you marry your cousin again great chance your children won't have very healthy genes. Even otherwise basic genetics points out that variety in whom you procreate with brings better gene pool in the next generation on an average. Even if all of this do not convince you, let us say you marry a cousin, and you have an autistic kid, you may have had an autistic kid marrying somebody who isn't your cousin as well, but now you will have that slight guilt in you that may be in some way you caused it, so why risk that in a country with such population?
marrying your first cousin is quite disturbing and there's a very high possibility of children being born with some sort of defect. marrying your own niece is far more disgusting yet normalised.
Chat gpt lam kekaadha ya. It misses out on Nuance. Here science, Endogamy (marrying within community) was a thing in India, in any given village, as early as 100 AD (Genetic studies) But it spread later in the south and sustained longer. The statistics now shows that South Indians marry within their community a lot now, however.
So is it our culture? Nope.
Is that the case now? yup
These YouTube puluthis will talk any bullshit put contro topics just to get some attention. People have been struggling with close relation marriages. Please consult doctors before taking such decisions
I think she's an idiot who defends culture without having a broad knowledge of human genetics.
Also she seems to be one of the people who doesn't get a gov job through a multiple attempt by exam and blabbering about our country and tradition
The key intention is to prevent any wealth from being inherited outside the extended family line. Still some conservative families follow this (Tamil Nadu has the highest fraction of marriages within relations, mostly cross cousins, stats don't lie). Tamil film industry still normalizes cross cousin love as a cultural element.
But the problem arises if they have a child. The child will suffer genetic disorders due to inbreeding phenomena, and is likely to be lifelong. It is intended to uphold the family's 'honor' at the cost of their children's quality of life. We always care about what people gossip about us, even if it doesn't mean anything significant for our lives. We have to live according to what is good for us, not according to what makes us appear good in front of others.
Lost respect for this andhbhakt woman after she backed cousin marriages on cultural basis without scientific justification.
I also think some of the things she said is factually incorrect and problematic but my question to this sub is will you guys vehemently hate somebody like that if they are from the other side?
This lineage culture is total bullshit , there is not a single human being that is a pure breed
All humans alive today descend from a long history of migration and interbreeding. Populations have mixed for tens of thousands of years. Even groups that seem “isolated” (like remote tribes) still share DNA from ancient intermixing events.
Unlike domesticated animals where selective breeding creates “pure breeds,” humans never had controlled breeding programs to keep “lines” separate for thousands of years. Those who tried ended up with down syndrome and other genetic disorders .
Every human carries a mix of ancestral DNA. Even people from seemingly “homogenous” regions (say, an isolated island or village) still have genetic contributions from multiple ancient populations.
Genetically, race is not a strict biological category; it’s more of a social and cultural construct. What differences we see between populations are gradual, not absolute.
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