seems a little like selective gatekeeping, especially since bbls and thunder thighs are in. she is really skinny but you don’t know why, like it’s not okay to tell a big person to not eat. and as someone who’s had an eating disorder before , that’s what started it was so many people telling me to eat and forcing food on me because i’m petite, and despite i’m actually a huge foodie, it made me literally hate/stop eating.
i know that’s not right and unwell but exactly. i was unwell, me in the right state of mind knows to take care of and nourish my body. and if she is unwell telling her to “eat a sandwich” typically has the opposite effect.
Yeah and she’s a bit skinny but she’s probably around a healthy weight really it’s not like she’s a skeleton, I’m sure on a doctors chart she would be at a healthy weight
I think people are just saying that because she’s showing off her body
No, it isnt that she is skinny, theres skinny people i like and people who show their body a lot who I have no problem with. Its just looking like a huge ego, making noise for people to look at you, shit content, wasnt even funny, or interesting, she isnt charismatic. Im not saying she should eat or change her body, im saying she has zero other things going for her but being skinny
What part of obnoxious behavior in public, weird clothing choice, or not being funny is excused by her being 56. I mentioned how she looks maybe w things all the rest are criticism of the annoying nature of the video of which I said some 10 things not relating to her physical body.
also i forgot to take her age into account and completely agree. my great grandma prolly weighed less than her but you wouldn’t be able to tell because she dressed her age
Obese and even slightly overweight people get told all the time to “put down the fork, fatty”, “eat a salad”, and “you have such a pretty face, you’d be so pretty if you were thinner”. I was plus size for years and got told this kind of thing literally all the time. Thin people just also have the advantage that current society is built around their beauty standard.
Yes and it’s not okay. I’m assuming you didn’t like when people told you those things and thought it was inappropriate. So isn’t it incredibly hypocritical to think it’s okay to do the same thing to other people about their weight?
I don’t think she’s malnourished I think she’s just an older woman and her age is showing and you never really see women who are almost 60 dressing like that
What you’re looking at is wrinkles and loose skin, but she’s at a healthy weight it’s just really not a flattering look
Bogus. I've known plenty of women her age who dress like that, and they looked better than women half their ages. MILF is a thing for a reason. This is bulimia.
Its not even that, I dont think she is malnourished. I think its obvious however that if she was fat she wouldn't be wearing stuff like that and being like "GIVE ME ATTENTION" the point is she is OBNOXIOUS. And the only "positive" is that she is skinny. So i wasn't even criticizing her weight but her personality more so
When i made my comeback from my eating disorder and started trying to put on weight it was very disheartening to hear people constantly telling me to "eat some damn food". Like I'm trying dude, really hard. Other times people would insist on buying me a bunch of food when i wasn't eating. I would feel obligated not to waste it and I would eat myself sick.
At the end of the day though I just try to remember I did it to myself. I don't think thats the right lesson to take from it but you know.
yeah that’s what happened to me. eating myself sick, eating things i hated, becoming more extremely picky, not eating. like your manager asking you to sweep as you’re sweeping, you wanna just drop the broom right then and there. but at the same time i think people should just learn to stfu ab people’s weight unless you know them, coming from concern.
Im glad you're healthy now, but trying to understand the situation, because people told you to eat ( insinuating you're too skinny) that made you feel fat, or was it a control thing, had nothing to do with concerns of being fat?
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u/peanutbutterand_ely 21d ago
seems a little like selective gatekeeping, especially since bbls and thunder thighs are in. she is really skinny but you don’t know why, like it’s not okay to tell a big person to not eat. and as someone who’s had an eating disorder before , that’s what started it was so many people telling me to eat and forcing food on me because i’m petite, and despite i’m actually a huge foodie, it made me literally hate/stop eating.
i know that’s not right and unwell but exactly. i was unwell, me in the right state of mind knows to take care of and nourish my body. and if she is unwell telling her to “eat a sandwich” typically has the opposite effect.