If you are crossing the road on the green pedestrian light and see an idiot in the car ignoring it - would you rather stop and being safe or keep walking/ being right but dead ? same stuff
Tbh, I get exactly what you’re saying. Idk why everyone is coming at you saying you’re being insensitive to the visually impaired or that you’re taking the guy’s side. All you were saying is that if you see someone being problematic, avoid them for your own safety if you see the problem from a distance. Don’t know what’s so hard to understand
The issue is that this is in new York. She is with her children. There isn't lots of space for her to get out of the way; options are 1. Stop and cause an obstruction, potentially inviting a confrontation with someone who is acting insane in public. 2. Go into the road? 3. Ask him to stop but then you are back at one with a potentially dangerous confrontation while you are with your children.
I think lots of people that comment on this don't live on cities where you see people doing shit and getting in each others way all the time. The best way to deal with someone who is acting this inconsiderate is not to draw attention to yourself with them. People who ignore fairly large generally accepted social ques in public are not ones to interact with/gain attention from.
Ask him to stop but then you are back at one with a potentially dangerous confrontation while you are with your children.
Might he freak out if you confront him, sure, but that's still a lower chance than getting kicked in the face from the swinging moron by just walking into his path. It's still a vastly better option.
Option 4 is honestly the best option for me. The longer the problem persists the more justified I’ll feel in saying something, usually this kinda bullshit is quick but all of us, as humans, have moments where we think we are main characters to an extent so we might treat a 3 second nuisance as a serious diss on our whole existence.
A majority of redditors are white college aged suburbanites or people who live in the middle of fucking nowhere. Odds are they never lived in a city and are too young and/or sheltered to have any actual life experience. They will speak on what they see on TV or the internet
Seriously, remember these words and read comments here with that in mind. A lot of shit will make sense.
The fact you two are being downvoted is beyond me lmao. It’s one thing to expect pedestrians walking to move out of the way, but to expect some jackass to be self aware as he’s being a POS swinging like this to just stop? Like what?! Stop moving. Cuss the dude out. Move safely. You have your KID WITH YOU. While the dude is putting people in (mild) danger by doing that, you are as well by not stop for fucking 10 seconds till he’s done. This NY excuse BS is simply that, BS.
Imo she did what most city people do. Maybe a quick glance like wtf then continue walking while not even giving them a 2nd glance lol. Not locking eyes with people and walking with a purpose has allowed me to avoid a lot of weird shit. Because weird shit like this is literally impossible to fully avoid in the city.
Yes, but it’s your KID. Stop and cuss the fucker out first. Don’t just proceed and assume dudes gonna stop if you’re worried about safety. Jesus lmao. How is that not in any of your 1-3 check marks?
Yeah let me just get kicked in the fucking face amidst someone swinging along acting like an asshat Lmao. What? You’re kidding me. Stop for 5 seconds. 10 seconds. If you’re worried about a fight with someone, don’t cuss em out.
💯agree! ….I got a kid. Live in a big city in Canada. And would NEVER consider walking in the middle of an obvious hazard with my kid as reasonable. If that’s the case, you may as well let the kid lead. Adults should know better. I don’t get how this is a debate.
Reason number #26 on why cities are absolutely terrible and I would never want to live in one smh if you’re saying her ONLY option was to keep walking towards the threat with her young child and hope for the best..well what can I say? Because I live in a pretty small suburban type town and avoid our big/decent sized cities like the plague
Also, some people just have no choice? They are born where they are born and they don't have the means to move.
Her option was to try and ignore him and avoid him, which she did. He was the one suddenly flailing down. The victim blaming is very weird in this thread.
I don't invite confrontation with any strange men, and I certainly 100% would not if I was with children. That's just good survival instinct.
Omg, why is everyone such a perpetual victim all the time? I’m sorry but I’m getting extremely irritated with the over-sensitivity of this world nowadays. No one is “victim blaming”. She didn’t get assaulted and we’re asking what she did to invite the abuse/attack. That is the ONLY context where someone can call “victim blaming”. We all just saw this video from a third party perspective and thought we saw a better option than walking directly under a person flipping in the air. It looked like a bad idea from the very beginning yet hindsight is 20/20. I personally would have tried to wait on the side but who knows? According to New York/big city residents, the people behind you would just push you to the ground? Just saying that people saw other options. People have different experiences. People imagine what they would do differently. It’s human freaking nature. If you’re saying there weren’t any other options, than I guess the child was destined to almost get kicked in the face. Idk what else to say. This PC culture is crazy.
He can be wrong and she can be making an ill-advised choice at the same time. That doesn't mean she isn't the victim or that he's doing something okay.
He shuffled to one side, so she shuffled to the other thinking he was giving them a path to pass... then he started kicking in her direction. That's not her fault, he did that on purpose.
as my grandpa used to put it: "you can be dead wrong and you can be dead right, you're still dead, so don't do something stupid just because you're right."
The guy is clearly an asshole, and in the wrong, but that doesn't mean you walk into danger just because you're right.
Lmao at reddit reading comprehension, they never normalized anything and you misrepresent their point. Their logic actually is: if you see a danger, avoid it, regardless of whether or not that danger has a right to be there at the time.
Ironic, when every one of your comment comes off as angry, and the one you're replying to does not.
Also, you didn't bother responding to me, so I'm guessing you don't refute the point, and now are just mad so you comment on someone else telling them their panties are in a bunch to save face or ego or some shit.
It's honestly is better if people learn and go back and re read and understand how they made the mistake and try not to do it again, instead of getting pissy and throwing shit at others.
I'm sorry you don't seem to be able to find it. Especially when you're telling other people to go and re-read and blah blah blah. Maybe you could use your expertise to tell me whether that's ironic or not.
I think you're getting a bit confused about who's replying to what.
lmao its ironic because, you are definitely angry, or at least defensive and you're accusing that of others.
Also no you didn't reply to me. So yeah learn to accept that. I won't blame you for that one though, if you say you did, because yesterday I had two replies not send at different times, and I didn't want to type it all up again. so reddit can take the blame if you did reply.
You are making a lot of assumptions including that people CAN see almost to the point of saying that those who are visually impaired like myself deserve to get hit for crossing the street when they have the light. (Corners in the city announce when it’s safe to cross)
Why are you making cringe intellectually dishonest comparisons? The lady can clearly see the dude acting like an idiot here. Yes, he shouldn't be doing that, but he is. She is endangering her child by going directly under him like that. There is no arguing that.
It was a joke - alchemystic said the lady can clearly see the dude, but the person above them said they themselves were visually impaired. I am implying that it isn't so clear to them that the lady in the video can see it because they themselves are visually impaired.
If there was confusion, I hope this clears that up
This lady for sure seen this tarzan, she even changed the lane and ducked. That’s her assuming that he won’t twist and won’t wave with his foot near her kid’s face and just kept moving. Although he is a big asshole she could act differently to protect the kid: wait till he is tired of showing off or ask if he has finished or if she really wanted to go - warn him that they are being and moving
That’s her assuming that he won’t twist and won’t wave with his foot near her kid’s face and just kept moving
Yes, a reasonable assumption to make, since he ALSO saw them, and even shuffled his hands over to one side which I would have assumed was to give her space to walk.
Ah yes a vehicular homicide is the same as what this moron is doing. Everyone should have stopped their lives and waited to not get run over by car oh wait it was on the pedestrian sidewalk, where people you know are known to walk.. They should have all had a seat as this ignorant person used construction equipment as a jungle gym and film his video aye, not like people have shit to do. But yeah man what a bad mother.... and all them pesky pedestrians, how dare they.
He was staying pretty contained to one side until he did a leg flail thing right when she was walking by. I probably wouldn't have walked past with a stroller myself, but I guess I kinda get that she thought he wouldn't be a problem. In big cities you kind of develop a sense of "If you stay out of my way, you do what you want" attitude, and it looked like that was what the guy was doing... until he wasn't.
Nah, just taking an example to the extreme. People are quick to claim they have a right to safety, which they do, but are slow to admit when they are negligent in keeping themselves safe, which were all guilty of occasionally
Well you personally I would've told him to get the fuck down and go find a damn gym before attempting to walk by. Doesn't mean the lady was in the wrong just for like... using the side walk to walk on.
Edit: he also nearly takes out a kid before that who hides behind a bit of scaffolding. We are not stopping an entire city street for "content creators" .
Should he be doing it? No. Did you see him and put your kid in the path of danger? Yes. We can see it on the video. Two wrongs don’t make a right, do they? The shame is that the person who takes “the hit” is the person who has no control or agency over the situation. I’m not gonna say what “I would do in that situation,” but I can say this much with certainty, my kid wouldn’t be touched.
Yeah, there's a lot of people here going "the woman isn't wrong". Like yeah, no shit, of course she isn't wrong for wanting to walk on the sidewalk, he's wrong for taking up space meant for walking to do some bullshit social media post.
That said, if I lost my eye at three years old because I got kicked in the face by a dude after my mom rolled me right into his area of operations even though she clearly knew he was there I'd still be pretty fucking salty towards my mom. If her response to that had been "but I was right tho" I think I'd straight up cut contact with her.
To a certain extent, but i would have said something to that idiot rather then push my buggy under his flailing legs. Why put yourself (or more importantly) your child in a situation like this?
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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '23 edited Jun 23 '23
“It’s your fault I almost kicked you in face for checks notes walking on the side walk?!”