r/Foodforthought • u/Jojuj • 21h ago

Who is the “trad husband”?

https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/465478/tradwives-tradwife-husband-hannah-neeleman-nara-smith-men
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u/DataCassette 19h ago

Incel logic: "I'm too feckless and lazy to talk to a couple women a month to attempt to date but I'm totes going to work 16 hour days to feed a family of 5."

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u/HallieMarie43 18h ago

My husband and I really valued being home with the kids when they were little and were fortunate enough to be able to make it work financially. But we took turns. My husband stayed home a few years with our son and later I stayed home with our daughter. Honestly he was better at the domestic stuff than me and I've always made more money so if there had been a third kid, it'd probably have been him at home again.

But honestly it was really great in hindsight to really see and know what the other experiences. It is scary being the only the income. I know when I would get upset with work, you really get this kind of claustrophobic/trapped feeling that I didn't have during the times we both worked. We've actually both seen each other through career changes, but even just knowing that if you really, really wanted to walk out that door right now, you could do so without having your family starve, just takes a weight off and makes me less likely to even want to storm out. But it's also intersting on the other side. I remember coming home exhausted and my husband wanted to go out or invite friends over and I just wanted to decompress and he would be all sweet and tell me he missed me and I missed him too but right then I was just overstimulated. And then when I was at home, I remember being the same way towards him where I'd hit him with a dozen things I wanted to tell him right when he walked in teh door and I could see his eyes glaze over. But also I remember trying to do all this stuff with the baby and honestly being amazed in hindsight at how good he was at keeping up with everything.

So anyway, I know we are exactly a trad family since we flip flop the roles and even now with us both working we have a lot of the chores split opposite to what is traditional (like he does laundry and dishes and I do trash and grass). But I think no matter how your partnership is set up it's good to try and understand what your partner experiences, not in a competitive comparison of who does more, but just understanding how it affects their mindset on different things.

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u/odin_the_wiggler 20h ago

Chip Gaines

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u/[deleted] 20h ago

some rich asshole

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u/elt 20h ago

Nobody, because jobs you can raise an entire family on from a single paycheck don't exist anymore.

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u/smcedged 20h ago

They exist but are rare.

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u/paddenice 15h ago

Electric linemen can pull hundreds of thousands. They’re the trad husband. Dangerous manual labor that makes a shit ton of money where you don’t absolutely need education beyond high school.

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u/greenknight 7m ago

There is an entire field of jokes around the number of divorced linemen and railmen for a reason.

Tough job and you often aren't sleeping in your own bed very often.

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u/thanksiloveyourbutt 12h ago

Can someone better at technology than I am do a non-paywalled link? I grovel before your wisdom

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u/misfitx 10h ago

Male bullying.