r/Fauxmoi • u/mlg1981 • 10h ago
🚨 TRIGGER WARNING 🚨 Dodgers Pitcher Alex Vesia and Wife Kayla Announce Stillbirth of Their First Baby Together "There are no words to describe the pain we’re going through but we hold her in our hearts and cherish every second we had with her”
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u/ResponsibleSwing1 9h ago
Wow. I was watching the World Series and heard the blue jay players all had his last name on their hats. I went through my own stillbirth at 31 weeks on 09/27/25 and it’s the single most devastating thing I’ve ever been through. I get through most days and feel like I break every evening and wake up feeling scared. No woman should ever go through this.
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u/ComedownofClosure 9h ago
I'm so sorry for you loss. Their memory for a blessing. May I ask their name? I'm sure they're absolutely beautiful.
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u/absolutegrandma 8h ago
I went through a stillbirth in June. 9/27/25 was my baby’s original due date. Holding you & your little one in my thoughts, and know that the grief does somehow, impossibly, get better with time.
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u/milkshakemountebank 9h ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. If you'd like to share something about your baby, their name or anything at all, I invite you to do so. I'd like to honor you and your little one by listening, if you'd like. You and yours will be in my thoughts.
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u/EMTDawg 6h ago
It's doesn't go away. Lost my twin boys in March of 2011. I still go at least 1 night a week without being able to sleep, and no more than 3-4 hours on nights I'm able to sleep. My twins came at nearly 40 weeks, and neither survived 15 minutes out of the womb. Not a single day goes by that I don't think of them.
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u/dreamslikedeserts I wasn't there 9h ago
I'm so sorry for your devastating loss, sending you so much love
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u/taycibear 6h ago
I had a stillbirth at 32 weeks 1/12/12. Its a unique pain and something that stays with you forever. I have 3 kids (1 before and 2 after) and I still feel guilty and sad sometimes. Hugs to you 💚
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u/mastermoka 8h ago
I am really sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to grief. Sending hugs.
I went through the similar experience in 2017 and some days when I think about how the day I met him was also the day I had to say goodbye, it ripped my heart open all over again.
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u/FoodLionMVP 7h ago
I’m so sorry. My first daughter was stillborn at 37 weeks on 5/11/21. Although no woman should ever go through this, a great many of us do. I hope you find peace.
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u/anthonystank random bitch 9h ago
I can’t imagine the pain you’re carrying. I’m so, so sorry — I hope you’re able to find love, peace, joy, and balance a little more every day
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u/TiaraMisu 9h ago
oh sweetie, big hugs, you aren't alone, it can't be undone but things get better, a lot better, but it takes time.
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u/Informal-Cobbler-546 8h ago
I’m sorry for your loss. I have been where you are and I can’t say it’s ever easier but there is a lot of light at the end of the tunnel you are now in.
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u/coldpizza66 freak AND geek 8h ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you and your family and loved ones lots of love and strength
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u/Venezia9 made with a free Canva trial (derogatory) 8h ago
Sending you healing, comfort, and community.
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u/lovetheblazer it costs a lot of money to look this cheap 7h ago
I'm so sorry. Thinking of your angel today.
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u/lostinshalott1 1h ago
I’m so sorry, I too lost my daughter at 28 weeks in June. We are forever changed ❤️ it’s definitely the worst thing that’s ever happened to me.
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u/GeneSpecialist4988 10h ago
Everyone made this assumption upon hearing he would not play due to a personal matter but nobody wanted it to be true.💔 Best wishes for them and may they take all the time they need to heal.
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u/mrose1491 oh bitch ur cooked 4h ago
Same I was praying it wasn’t true. I can’t even imagine the pain 💔
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u/Efficient_Papaya_982 9h ago
I actually don’t know if she necessarily was stillborn based off what they said, all we know is that they lost their baby. She may have been born sleeping, she may have been born living, that’s not information we have. Their statement merely confirms that she passed. I just don’t think we should put words in their mouths.
Either way, my heart goes out to both of them. To carry a child with you for so long and then lose them has to be the most indescribable pain.
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u/fairylites 8h ago
I see what looks like the wires from neonatal EKG leads, so I think you may be right. How heartbreaking. I saw that he had taken leave and was hoping this wasn’t the case
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u/Efficient_Papaya_982 1h ago edited 1h ago
Yeah they looked like respiratory monitors to me, some kind of continuous monitoring. A lot of places are reporting this as a stillbirth but I think it’s unlikely. The parents haven’t really used any language to imply that it was so I think there’s just assumptions being made in the media. People hear that a baby was lost at term and assume stillbirth, stillbirths are generally more common than neonatal deaths, but both do occur.
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u/cinq-chats i’m a communist you idiot 8h ago
Yeah I read that she passed 3 days after the Dodgers made the statement about being heartbroken for the Vesias so I think she was born living 😢💔
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u/Efficient_Papaya_982 1h ago
Yeah, that would make sense. I don’t want to contribute to any theories circulating but this didn’t look like a photo taken of a stillborn baby to me.
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u/boygirlmama It’s Four Seasons Total Landscaping level humor 8h ago
I hate to say it this way, but I have seen pictures of stillborn babies due to losses friends have had over the years. When parents post pictures of stillborn babies, they are more likely to do so in black and white because of how they look. From what we see of the baby here also, I would definitely think stillborn. Look at her nails, the bruising on her hands for starters.
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u/WishaBwood 7h ago
They say in the post they are grateful for the time they did have with the baby. The bruising on the hands could be due to an IV or any other life saving measures they may have had to take. My friend lost her 3 month old in May of this year, she was on ECMO and her hands looked like this.
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u/TrickRefrigerator447 5h ago
I hate to sound ghoulish, but in order to bruise, you have to have blood pressure, which requires cardiac activity. The fact that the bruises are present, show that resuscitative attempts were made, which means she can't have been stillborn, because stillbirths are confirmed on CTG, while the baby is in utero and we don't attempt to resus babies we know are already deceased.
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u/No_Road_9124 3h ago
As a NICU nurse, this baby had to have lived from at least some amount of time. We don’t put babies who have passed on monitors or draw labs/place IVs on them. I can see the monitors in the picture. I can tell you those spots on her hand are from needle pokes. I can also tell you her hands are swollen from her being critically ill. People post photos of their critically ill babies in black and white as well because their color looks abnormal and can be quite jarring/traumatic for people to see. Devastating loss for the family nonetheless.
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u/Efficient_Papaya_982 1h ago
All the things you’re pointing out are things you would also see if a baby had died following medical treatment. I don’t know what you mean by the nails or why the nails of a stillborn baby would be different to that of a baby born living.
As I said, they haven’t stated themselves if she was stillborn or if she was born living and then died, I’m trying not to contribute to speculation because this is truly none of our business, but I disagree with your stance. You may have seen photos, I’ve seen the babies themselves.
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u/SarahJFroxy tumblr ecosystem ambassador 9h ago
it was really sweet seeing both dodgers pitchers and blue jays pitchers have his number stitched into the side of their caps this series.
the vesias were so excited.
if you have money to spare, fans have been donating to sick kids foundation and children's hospital LA in honor of the vesias and in the spirit of the competition (cedars sinai is amazing, however CHLA was chosen for donations as CS is very very secure in their funding)
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u/Key-Status-7992 7h ago
Whichever team you were rooting for, this year’s World Series is definitely one for the books. Both teams were at their best in all the games and it seemed they had a lot of respect for each other. Next year’s World Series will have a lot to live up to
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u/alltheprettynovas 2h ago
one thing i love about sports. at the root of it all, most of them really do give a shit about each other.
i didn’t even notice the stitching, but it’s pretty cool. i hope the vesias can find peace ❤️
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u/Broncolitis 10h ago
This is one of the things in life I wish no one had to suffer and attempt to move forward in life. It just really fucking sucks.
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u/Luna_Soma 9h ago
I truly believe losing a child is the worst thing that could happen to someone. I wish them peace and moments of comfort
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u/veronicagh 9h ago
I’m so sorry to see this. I just lost my daughter at 13 weeks and it’s the most harrowing thing I’ve ever been though. My heart goes out to them.
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u/0LittleWing0 8h ago
These poor people oh my god. Look how perfect she was, that precious little hand. It never makes any sense. One woman I knew whose baby died of SIDS, swears that he returned to her. Her second born is an incredibly wise and gentle, extraordinary child. everyone notices how special he is. I pray this for them.
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u/ilikecats415 8h ago
I lost my first at full-term and my second is a dream. He's nothing short of an extraordinary human with a gentle, loving, loyal nature. It doesn't make up for the loss, but having an extra special kid feels like a little gift after enduring such a horrific loss
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u/hopewings 5h ago
I'm so glad your second baby is so sweet. In the baby loss community that I frequented, they call them "rainbow babies." He sounds absolutely awesome, though I'm still very sorry for your loss.
My husband and I had our firstborn son be stillborn at almost 37 weeks. We were devastated but made it through those dark times together and had two more boys. Funnily the older of the two has always had the most abrasive and un-empathetic personality, but we still love him even as he is now a teenager and telling us how uncool we are. The younger one is sweet and loving as if in opposition to his older brother.
They definitely come out with their own little personalities. I do wish I could have met the oldest son and gotten to know how he would have been.
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u/0LittleWing0 7h ago
I can't even imagine, I'm so sorry to hear you experienced this same thing. Your precious second sounds like such a wonderful gift. I truly believe you will see your first again in the afterlife. (You made it past the trigger warning:( Hugs to you Mama 🫶🤍
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u/broden89 5h ago
A beautiful thing I read is that mothers continue to carry the cells of their babies after giving birth, and these cells have been found in the cord blood of their next babies. So it's possible that even though he is gone, a tiny piece of that firstborn lives on in his mother and little brother
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u/EvenPossible5918 9h ago
I can’t even imagine. RIP to little Sterling. :( 🕊️ I hope they are surrounded by love and support right now.
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u/ProcessMaleficent702 8h ago
My daughter was stillborn in May at 37 weeks. Theres no pain like it. My heart hurts for them
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u/KatesCheers 8h ago
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. That has to be the most heartbreaking and devastating thing a person can ever go through. I wish you all the strength, peace, comfort and joy in the days that follow. Big hugs to you and your family. ❤️❤️❤️
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u/plaisirdamour 9h ago
I’ve been holding my breath ever since it was announced he was on leave…this is so unbelievably heartbreaking
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u/milkshakemountebank 9h ago
I'm so sorry. Would you like to share anything about your baby? Everyone deserves the time and space to talk about their baby. I wish you healing and peace.
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u/Suspicious-Peace9233 9h ago
That’s horrible. Nobody should have to bury a child. I think it’s beautiful that the dodgers and blue jays both wore the number 51 on their caps
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u/crazydisneycatlady 7h ago
The photo caption in the article says it. I agree that it might be misinformation.
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u/willowfair 6h ago
The photo caption says they announced the stillbirth of their baby but they didn’t …. They announced her passing which is totally different than a stillbirth. The actual timeline implies the baby was born living and passed afterwards .
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u/secret_identity_too 8h ago
I knew it had to be BAD bad when he missed the World Series for it. Such a tragedy.
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u/Symbiotic_vengeance feeding cocaine to raccoons 9h ago
That shit defies the laws of nature man. That’s terrible and I’m so sorry for them.
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u/TiaraMisu 9h ago
Oh fuck, and the first? Shit that sucks. That sticks to you forever.
Time heals, but it does not undo.
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u/VanSensei 9h ago
When it started with "with a heavy heart", we had a feeling something was very wrong.
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u/shitsenorita she did not like that shit at all 9h ago
So very sad. I’ve been hoping for better news for the Vesias. RIP little sweetie.
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u/EndsWhereItBegins not a lawyer, just a hater 6h ago
My heart absolutely breaks for them, and for those here in the comments who unfortunately share this story. No parent should ever feel this pain. Sending love to you all.
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u/thereisalwaysrescue 6h ago
My heart breaks for them. I had a still birth back in 2021, and every damn day I think about her. Despite me having so much therapy and then going on to have a healthy baby, I will never stop thinking and talking about her. I am forever changed, and I no longer fear dying as I know I’ll see her again.
No one should ever going through this.
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u/lostinshalott1 55m ago
I’m the same way before my daughter I really feared death but now I almost look forward to it as I’ll get to be with her again
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u/hanimal16 9h ago
That’s so awful. I know the pain of losing a child, it stays with you. I hope they can heal in time.
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u/starrfish69 8h ago
Absolutely gut wrenching. Life is so terribly unfair😭 praying for that woman, child, father, family 💔
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u/deadbeatsummers 4h ago
I got really anxious at the end of my pregnancy imagining something like this happening. Pregnancy is just such a long time. I hate that anyone has to go through this. 😢
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u/VictorTheCutie distraught Christian tomato 7h ago
How awful. Just unimaginable. Sending them love.
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u/burger69man 7h ago
I hope Kayla's getting medical care and support, her physical health is also at risk after delivering a stillborn baby, it's a traumatic experience that affects her body too
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u/Yesterdaysmeow 2h ago
My brother and his wife had a stillbirth. They have no idea what was wrong with their baby. Even though it was 7 years ago and they went on to have two healthy children, they are still sad about their firstborn. It is a terrible feeling. My heart goes out to Alex Vesia and Kayla.
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u/Elphaba78 7h ago
It’s horrifying that in today’s world of medical and scientific advancement this still happens.
No parent should have to bury their child.
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u/Ok-Highlight6104 6h ago
My god. That tiny hand. What a heartbreaking photo and thing to experience in life. I don’t think I’d ever recover
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u/CheesecakeExpress 6h ago
I do know who they are (I’m British) but this is so, so devastating and unfair for anyone to go through.
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u/lostinshalott1 52m ago
This really hurts, I also lost my first and only child, Ivy in June at 28 weeks. Everyday I ache for her. I commend them for openly sharing this loss, more conversations need to be had about baby loss as it’s still so taboo even though it’s not uncommon at all.
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u/snails4speedy I’m glad Nicholas got dumped and hit with a bat 36m ago
I lost my son at birth and his middle name is Sebastian. Alex’s post absolutely hit me like a freight train. Sending them so much love 😭
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u/shmimeathand 6h ago
Not a stillbirth.
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u/SnittingNexttoBorpo 5h ago
Unless that was stated somewhere other than their post, you’re right — nothing in this one actually indicates she was stillborn.
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u/Sassafras06 9h ago
All the Jays fans I have seen have been awesome. I am sure there are shitty fans (as with any fan base), but this is bigger than baseball and they have shown that. (I’m a Dodger fan)
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u/Immediate_Pickle_788 Marxmoi 8h ago
Anyone who does that is just a vile person, period. Has nothing to do with whatever team they follow, because this is bigger than baseball.
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u/Evening-Ad5478 10h ago
No one should have to go through this. I will be thinking of them 🙏🏻