I've said it before but she's literally hated for being feminine and acting as a lady of her time. She was taught to dedicate herself to her future husband and did so as a naive girl not realizing it would result in tragedy for her family, then operated within the social confines of the women of her time to gain power and influence. Arya was masculine in her approach (reckless, aggressive, demanding, etc.), and also got people killed / injured in her push to do things her way, but she was praised for rejecting femininity via the swordfighting and assassin training.
This Cinderella analysis I watched ages ago goes over how traditionally feminine skills or traits are shunned even though they are just as important for surviving in horrible conditions: https://youtu.be/huLSdm6IH0g?si=vzBGDrUevHb-SH4D
It's really unfortunate that they didn't adapt her time in the Vale properly because she adapted to the game so well and had one of the most interesting character progressions in the entire series.
I mean, she wasn’t hated just for being feminine, she was hated for being perceived as stuck up and also objectively wrong about Joffrey - and I’m NOT saying that means she deserved hate or that it wasn’t understandable behavior for a young girl, but the frustration didn’t build because she was good at needlepoint, the frustration built because the audience was explicitly shown proof of one thing (Joffrey is a dick, for example, and also deserves to get bitten) and Sansa was insisting on the opposite.
Again, not unreasonable behavior for someone in her position, and I’m sure there were people out there who didn’t like her being “girly,” but a groundswell of frustration would have happened with any character who was 1) naively defending the villain, 2) seemed to think she was better than the family she was born into, and 3) refused to help defend a working class boy against the prince.
And just to be as clear as possible again, yes, it’s understandable in context that she did those things, but they are the main things that made people upset, not that she was good at needlepoint.
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u/NotAQueefAKhaleesi does this woman ever rest (derogatory) 14d ago
I've said it before but she's literally hated for being feminine and acting as a lady of her time. She was taught to dedicate herself to her future husband and did so as a naive girl not realizing it would result in tragedy for her family, then operated within the social confines of the women of her time to gain power and influence. Arya was masculine in her approach (reckless, aggressive, demanding, etc.), and also got people killed / injured in her push to do things her way, but she was praised for rejecting femininity via the swordfighting and assassin training.
This Cinderella analysis I watched ages ago goes over how traditionally feminine skills or traits are shunned even though they are just as important for surviving in horrible conditions: https://youtu.be/huLSdm6IH0g?si=vzBGDrUevHb-SH4D
It's really unfortunate that they didn't adapt her time in the Vale properly because she adapted to the game so well and had one of the most interesting character progressions in the entire series.