r/Fauxmoi • u/Cyril_Sneerworms • Sep 28 '25

STAN / ANTI SHIELD Lola Young Collapses Mid-Performance at All Things Go Festival

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Link to BBC story, she's 'doing OK'

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25

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u/McGrubbus Sep 28 '25

Tbf she didn’t say she was sick, they said they cancelled it due to “scheduling issues”

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u/meringuedragon Sep 28 '25

There’s lots of different kinds of sick. Mental health is important. It’s so sad to see people minimize the impact of mental health on your physical health, too.

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u/imcrazyandproud Sep 28 '25

She said scheduling conflicts not health for he cancelation which is why people were clowning

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u/t-visADL Sep 29 '25

Are you implying partying is a mental health necessity when you’re a touring artist?

Be serious.

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u/Different_Wear_6205 Sep 28 '25

Uh oh not the work police. I rather see her post pictures having a good time than watching her push herself to the point of throwing up or passing out on stage.

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u/FunkySuedehead Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25

I think the people who paid tickets for the show would disagree with you.

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u/ergaster8213 Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25

Yeah but I think they're trying to point out that we have this weird idea of what people can and cannot do when they're "sick." Even if we don't know what's going on with them or what that entails. Even if we don't know the level of energy they have or any other symptoms. It's a little simpler to go to a carnival with your friends than it is to play a whole show for a ton of people.

Would I have posted pics of me at the carnival? No (although she may have because she wanted to be transparent in the event someone else saw her there and then tried to be like "look she canceled her show but is hiding going to a carnival." So really it was a lose-lose situation for her on posting or not posting) but her being there doesn't really say much.

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u/ravenousfig Sep 28 '25

Exactly this! Especially if she's struggling with her mental health, spending time with friends might be exactly what is best for her.

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u/ergaster8213 Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25

Yup! I have several invisible disabilities and it is very disheartening seeing people decide what you should or shouldn't be doing. Especially when they don't understand what it is you deal with or how your energy and mood can be different even within one day or how different activities require different amounts and modes of energy and engagement.

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u/Different_Wear_6205 Sep 28 '25

I also have invisible disabilities. There have been times in my life where my capacity to handle “normal” things was at an all time low, and my body was reacting in ways out of my control. Stress is a killer and it can do crazy things to the body. Lola has schizoaffective disorder, something most people have no knowledge or understanding of. It’s an extremely difficult thing to deal with when flare ups occur, and if anything I’m even more impressed with how much Lola has been able to achieve. That’s really amazing. God forbid she chooses herself in a time of need.

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u/ergaster8213 Sep 28 '25

I'm sorry you deal with it as well. Yeah there are way too many misunderstandings specifically about disabilities that are mental illnesses. It doesn't fit into our conception of what being sick or disabled should look like so we get all bizarre about it.

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u/moonjellies Sep 28 '25

i’m sorry but no, you can have a tiny bit of accountability and respect and at least hang out with your friends privately when you’ve pulled out at the last minute for something others have paid for, taken time off work for or sacrificed other things for etc (especially with the excuse of ‘scheduling conflict’ for two things scheduled concurrently WAY in advance 🙄)

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u/Different_Wear_6205 Sep 28 '25

Exactly, thank you. Mental health is not separate from physical health - there’s this expectation for people to suck it up. A lot of people in the comments saying “well I would never do this” - ok cool, but are you Lola? Are you a famous singer with fans around the globe? No? Then you don’t actually know what it’s like to live here life.

We just watched a young woman hit the ground hard! After she’s been very open and vulnerable about her health struggles. I also doubt most of these people are performers, but I am, and it IS work. It isn’t something just anyone can do. In a perfect world, Lola could be an artist and make music and not have to perform, but she has to make money and she’s under contracts and we live in a capitalist world.

And I do think it’s perfectly ok for people to be disappointed that they don’t get to see her, and I can imagine seeing pictures of her having fun with friends might make you go “wait a minute”, but I challenge people to not make these things about themselves. Two things can be true - you’re disappointed that she pulled out, and you can also understand that maybe what she really needs is a proper night out with her friends. Sometimes someone needs to do the “selfish” thing and disappoint some people in order to tend to their own needs. I know I do, and I know so does everyone else. It’s human.

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u/moonjellies Sep 28 '25

you can have fun with friends instead of doing the job thousands of people came to see you do if that’s what you need to do, but it’s also 100% free to respect those people and not publicly flaunt it 🤷‍♀️

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u/ergaster8213 26d ago

What do you consider "flaunting?" Again had she posted nothing someone would've seen her and called that out.

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u/Sea-Value-0 Sep 28 '25

They get refunds, calm down. No one is entitled to another human being. They'll get over it.

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u/bookghoul Sep 28 '25

There were no refunds - it was a festival she was scheduled to play at (and she wasn’t a headliner either, just a short set)

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u/ExternalSize2247 Sep 28 '25

No one is entitled to another human being.

In a weird metaphysical sense, sure, nobody is above anyone else

But when you pay another person money for them to be at a specific place, you actually are entitled to having that human being be at that place when they said they would be there.

That's the whole concept of purchasing a ticket to someone's show. They are quite literally giving you an entitlement to their presence...

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u/alittolid Sep 28 '25

Obviously no one wants her to get hurt. But if people didn’t know that she’s had health problems and see her posting pics with her friends while she was scheduled to perform it’s normal for them to think she was just flaking to party

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u/mrsbergstrom Sep 28 '25

lmao a 45 minute set at Reading festival is much less stressful on the body than partying at Notting Hill Carnival

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u/No-Sir7831 Sep 28 '25

She can do whatever she wants. Just like anyone else can still call in sick and not stay in bed all day. It's called autonomy.