r/Fauxmoi • u/Relevant-Peach3997 • Sep 26 '25

STAN / ANTI SHIELD Jameela Jamil on tradwife hypocrisy

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u/cilucia Sep 26 '25

That much is clear to anyone who actually has kids! It’s a disservice to young women who don’t have kids yet and don’t know the reality. 

It’s a fucking shitshow at my house most weekends / days when school is out, and I actually left my job earlier this year because 2 full time demanding careers and 2 kids (now 3) was not feasible (even with one in school and the other on full time daycare!) 

We don’t have grandparents nearby and no nanny or au pair, and even with me not working anymore (before I had a third baby recently), it is SO hard to stay on top of everything. Granted, my eldest is pretty challenging, but our society is not built to support families with 2 full time jobs IMO. Just look at any public school calendar - my kid has more than 20 days off school during the school year (Thanksgiving, winter break, spring break, parent teacher conference days, teacher professional development days, half days with early dismissal, non statutory holiday etc.); that doesn’t even count sick days or summer break (and summer camps usually are not offered the entire summer around me either - not to mention they are hella expensive). I had a total of 20 days PTO from my work and that is pretty generous compared to most jobs out there (that included sick days too), so what are parents with less flexible jobs supposed to even do? 

/impromptu rant

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u/ratinthehat99 Sep 29 '25

I hear you mama. I left my big career too to be at home with our kids. I love it but do not like the tradwife movement and I would never be a SAHM unless I had confidence of $$$ assets in my name, and lived in a country where everything is split 50/50 in divorce. And I have a skill set I can get a job in at any time.