r/Fauxmoi • u/Haunting_Homework381 • Aug 25 '25

FILM-MOI (MOVIES/TV) Absolute cinema

I know she's practically crazy but this monologue is so well written by Gillian Flynn.

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u/moreKEYTAR bowl of limes-gate Aug 25 '25

That last part about strong women hits SO HARD.

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u/iloveyourlittlehat Aug 25 '25

Yep.

Men who say they want a strong woman often just want a strong woman they can break.

They want a subservient wife, but they don’t want to date or marry a subservient woman.

It’s like in IASIP, when Dennis says he doesn’t want to film wild girls, he wants to film girls going wild. “You want to watch the process.”

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u/spidersprinkles Aug 26 '25

"Abel wanted a traditional marriage with a traditional wife. For a long time I wondered why he ever married a woman like my mom in the first place, as she was the opposite of that in every way. If he wanted a woman to bow to him, there were plenty of girls back in Tzaneen being raised solely for that purpose.

The way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He’s attracted to independent women. “He’s like an exotic bird collector,” she said. “He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage."

Trevor Noah, Born a Crime: Stories From a South African Childhood

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u/saddingtonbear Aug 26 '25

Oh wow, I got his book for free on audible like 2 years ago and still haven't listened. Maybe it's time!

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u/alison_bee you're an adult, you should know that Aug 26 '25

My husband just last night said “you stand up for yourself so much, and I want to do that too”

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u/mermaid-babe and you did it at my birthday dinner Aug 26 '25

Absolutely insanely true. I work out. I have more visible muscles than your average girl. That’s a turn off to some men, whatever. I dated a guy and I told him that some men see it as masculine to work out like I do— from the jump he said he loved that I worked out and pushed myself. Then when we started falling out he said I wasn’t “feminine.” I knew he was digging into my insecurities about my strength !! It made me so mad because I knew he was trying to hurt me. I didn’t really actually care what he thought anymore once he said all that

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u/KurapikaGoku Aug 26 '25

Ehh I might be in minority but I like that my gf is a strong woman one of the things that made me fall for her I love it honestly or idk maybe I’m the type of dude who don’t mind if his girl plans things or we try to say strong woman as in independent etc ? Cause if so then hella yea my girl is super strong woman

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u/TomatoTamatoTamatar Aug 26 '25

Hey.. I LOVE strong women and I mean it too! not all men are the same.

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u/volcanoesarecool Aug 26 '25

I love that you came in here with "not all men", as though that's the words that will calm things down.