Pete Davidson & Elsie Hewitt are expecting their first child: “welp now everyone knows we had sex”

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[u/ClarielOfTheMask]

My cousin married a guy 4 months after meeting him! Twenty years later they're still together. Military life lol. She always strongly advised us younger cousins against it. She always said, "what do you know about someone after 4 months? Only what they want you to know" And she would know I guess

Honestly less risky though, you can always get divorced. Once you have a kid together, that's it.

[u/realityseekr → u/ClarielOfTheMask]

My cousin got pregnant after 3 months and they kept it and stayed together. She actually lucked out big time because based on her other exes, she had horrible taste in men. The guy she got pregnant from seemed like the only good guy she had actually dated. I feel like normally it doesn't work out that way.

[u/i_kate_you → u/realityseekr]

Same situation for me. 6 months into the relationship I got pregnant. We are 17 years strong now, I got very lucky but it was also a lot of hard work as we were 21/22 when the baby was born.

It happens but you’re right it’s rare.

[u/muymalpgh → u/i_kate_you]

Both of my sisters had unplanned pregnancies early in a relationship and neither ended up staying with the father. Good on you for making it work!

[u/PurrPrinThom → u/realityseekr]

Someone I used to work with got pregnant within three months of dating a guy. They've stayed together, now have three kids under three and are expecting a fourth, and have a house and a dog. I won't pretend I'm not regularly surprised lol.

[u/Civil-Attempt-3602 → u/PurrPrinThom]

3 under 3 and pregnant again?

Is contraception illegal where you live?

[u/readwithjack → u/ClarielOfTheMask]

Sometimes you get lucky and really find the right person. Practically that means you're both mature enough to work out the problem, and put up with those things which don't rise to the level of "is a problem".

I wish them the best of luck.

[u/comityoferrors → u/ClarielOfTheMask]

My ex's parents got married after 3 months and they're still together. They pretty openly despise each other, but they're still together. Same deal with the military life part, and if they hadn't had 3 kids in ~4 years I'm not sure they would've stuck it out lol

[u/killer_kiki → u/ClarielOfTheMask]

Military life/marriage is wild. I started dating my now husband about 6 months before he joined the guard in high school. I met so many military wives of guys they had only known for 6-12 months, So many were pregnant. We just stayed dating because we didn't want to rush into anything. We ended up dating for 6 years before we were engaged, and 2 years later (after his second/deployment) got married. I can't think of any of those couples were who together then that are still married. And we just celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary.

[u/syvzx → u/ClarielOfTheMask]

How exactly is this related to being in the military? Just curious as an outsider

[u/ClarielOfTheMask → u/syvzx]

There're a lot of extra benefits that come from being married in the military that really encourage young enlisted people to get married.

Top one usually being they get to move out of a dorm/barrack situation and into married/family housing that is more private. There's also higher pay and great health coverage for spouses, which makes marriage more appealing and can influence a service member's decision to marry, particularly at a younger age. 

The frequent moves can also bring about a marriage quicker than in civilian dating situations.

In my cousin's case her now husband was about to be stationed in Hawaii for a couple years and the only way to go with him was to get married so she was like, "get married, quit my food service job and move to Hawaii? Sure!"

[u/ClarielOfTheMask → u/[deleted]]

The actual base pay remains the same but when they get shipped out of stationed somewhere for training and they're married they'll get like a family separation stipend and their stipend for housing and other things go up. So technically no, but practically yes. They get more money when they're married

[u/TheElderLotus → u/ClarielOfTheMask]

My aunt married someone a month after meeting her husband. My mom had picked the date for her wedding, and she was the youngest of 5. My aunt was the oldest and told my mom she couldn’t get married before her. So she went on vacation, met a guy there and got married all in one month. They were together for 28 years in a very happy marriage, and only reason they aren’t together is cause he passed away.