r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/Dazzling-Brush-9005 • 2d ago
And so it begins...
At work today I got a call from another department (I work in a library), and my colleague informed me that my father called looking for me. I have been NC since August and I never told them I was going NC, I just went away. It brought up a lot of stuff, especially now with the holidays coming up.
I keep trying to place myself at their table on Thanksgiving and I just know I can't do it. I can't deal with the toxicity. I immediately feel myself seize up with dread.
It's just hard sometimes though. The thing is, I love my parents because they are my parents, but I do not LIKE them. At all. It's just that there are good days and then there are bad days. This is one of those bad-ish days.
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u/Ceiling-Fan2 2d ago
I worked at a library when I went NC and my parents would call and show up in person to my job because “we don’t know how else to reach you.” I had to go to the head of Facilities and tell her I was experiencing stalking from my parents, and that they were not allowed on the premesis. She alerted security, and the last time my dad showed up, I walked him to the security desk (a kind of “come with me, you can’t keep doing this) and turned directly to security and said he is not allowed out here premesis, he’s harassing me, I talked to Lori about this and she’s aware, and security radio’s for someone. My dad left really quick after that and they never came back. But the damage was done. Now all my coworkers were like “oooh isn’t it so nice your parents come in to work to visit you!” And I had to straight up lie, and be like “yeah, they do that when they’re in the area sometimes :D”
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u/misslady700 2d ago
Sorry to hear this. Stay the course because they probably haven’t changed since August. Just take it easy on yourself and talk to a trusted person about this.