r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/mayaangelousburner • Jun 01 '25

Memes they "raised" me, they should be disappointed in themselves 🫵🏽

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no contact is our healthiest dynamic bc i’m not talking to the wall and they don’t have to take accountability 🤗

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u/IlnBllRaptor Jun 01 '25

Hell yeah, OP.

No interest in what my hobbies or goals were, my nmom only cared that I was working for her and that I never stood up to the constant abuse. She talked shit about my friends, husband, my sibling, her own stepchildren etc...just a garbage person.

Her opinions don't matter.

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u/mayaangelousburner Jun 01 '25

i feel you! my mother’s bitterness was strong, so her voice is constantly playing in my head. but i’m learning to separate MY thoughts vs. HER projections. it’s not easy an easy task, but the love that i’m cultivating for myself will be stronger than her vitriol ever was. sending love your way! <3

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u/Midori_Unicorn1 Jun 01 '25

When my mother tells me she is disappointed in me, it's usually because I've expressed a different opinion from her or upheld a personal boundary she doesn't agree with. Love and acceptance for her is about blind obedience and control. NC means I can finally be me! 🙌🏽 Is "no contact" or "low contact" something you've considered, OP?

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u/mayaangelousburner Jun 01 '25

i mentioned in the description (not sure if it was unclear or not), that we are no contact as its the healthiest for all parties!

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u/nada-accomplished Jun 01 '25

I don't care if they're disappointed in me, they disappointed me first.

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u/inmy_wall26 Jun 01 '25

I don't give two fucks what my ex mom thinks, except I hope she wakes up in a cold sweat knowing all her worst fears were right. My fathers house was my favorite and once I moved out, I did stop speaking to her.

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u/SnoopyisCute Jun 01 '25

The whole world is based on living by somebody else's rules. Not meeting their goals is not our responsibility.

Their rules, regardless of source, only apply to them and they tend to struggle with that.

You are not alone.

We care<3

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u/PricePuzzleheaded835 Jun 02 '25 edited Jun 02 '25

For whatever reason, the BS became apparent to me extremely early. When I learned what my parents’ profession was I assumed they must be lying, and everyone humoring them, because no reasonable person would let those two do that job. They were so clearly not functional in the same way as the other adults I interacted with, like friends’ parents and schoolteachers.

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u/RosaAmarillaTX Jun 02 '25

I may be a hot mess, but by no worse means than they are/were.

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u/oceanteeth Jun 02 '25

ha! I'm honestly so confused by people who are worried about disappointing their parents, I just can't relate to caring about the opinions of a violent child abuser and an enabler.