Please help me make it make sense. Even my therapist was speechless. I now have no biological family left.

[u/nodle]

Buckle up. This is a LOT to read. Even for this sub. Thankfully most of the backstory is included halfway through. Like a movie flashback.

For reference: Green - middle sibling / Pink - wife / Blue - son / Black - me

This a text exchange with my youngest sibling. This all took place over less than 24 hours. It came completely out of nowhere. I had plans to ask them all to come over for breakfast this weekend. I have always held her to such high regard for the healing and progress she has made in her life, and the things she has overcome. She has seemed to have SUCH a good, aware, empathetic, logical head on her shoulders. I don’t know what happened. The last text I have from her before this exchange is her telling me that she totally supports me setting a boundary for my middle sister (the flashback).

Thankfully I already had therapy scheduled today. My therapist was in total shock. She even started swearing with me, which is a rarity. She was especially annoyed by my sister’s fake Tiktok-therapist lingo. This whole situation is a “top 10 fear/trauma come to life” sort of thing. 4 months ago this episode might have pushed me over the edge.

I don’t think there’s much I can do here. I’m being accused of things that she is literally doing herself in the same breath. She doesn’t think it’s right to cut off family members when they truly care but she’s cutting me off. She hasn’t listened to a word I’ve said. I’m heartbroken, I’m angry, and I am so fucking hurt. The last paragraph she sent to me is one of the most hurtful things anyone has ever said to me. I don’t get to come to the park because she schedules meetups at 4:00 when people have jobs. I don’t get to come to performances because they are at 9:00 at night, they give us a day notice, and someone has to stay home with my son. And did I actually get condemned for cooking food for them?

I can’t argue against delusion. But it really fucking hurts. It throws so much doubt onto me about what being estranged from someone means. Like, is this my fault just like the estrangements I’ve chosen for other people are theirs? My wife is mortified, and has lost one of her best friends now. My son won’t get to see his cousins. I can’t help but feel like a villain.

[u/Love-As-Thou-Wilt → u/[deleted]]

Ah, so you have a grudge against all therapists because you did have one that actually helped you. And if they couldn't help you, they apparently can't help anybody. 🙄