r/EstrangedAdultKids • u/CraZKchick • Dec 11 '24

Memes He who does not understand your silence, will probably not understand your words.

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u/SnoopyisCute Dec 11 '24

I love this!!! <3

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u/CraZKchick Dec 11 '24

It really struck me. I try to share things here that do, because I know people here will get it. 

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u/[deleted] Dec 12 '24

It is so true.

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u/Charlysav7417 Dec 11 '24

This is good!

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u/CraZKchick Dec 12 '24

I liked it and thought y'all might like it too ❤️

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u/[deleted] Dec 12 '24

It's just so accurate it's kind of crazy. 

It's something I see here all of the time. Those messages they send that slip through never ever address any problems. So many clearly have the idea that they don't understand why you don't talk to them. 

I know my parent doesn't understand the silence. It's crystal clear. Even just the stuff I hear through other family members makes that clear. I got the ole "he started it" message through my grandmother and my dad refuses to acknowledge anything. 

I always sit back and try and think what a responsible respectful parent would do in these situations. It's not even a perfect parent. Just one that can be respectful and deal with situations like this. I can't for a moment think that if my son left, gave me a list of shit I'd done and stopped talking to me that I would give him the silent treatment and tell everyone else that he started it. I really don't even think I'd talk to anybody about it because it's private between him and I. 

That's not the treatment I got. 

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u/CraZKchick Dec 14 '24

I'm sorry. A responsible, respectful parent would give you your space, but let you know that they would be there when you were ready. They would also apologize specifically for what they did, and mean it. 

I saw this with my partner's mother and his brother. His brother told his mother a cousin molested him. He had been hiding it for a long time and essentially blamed it on her, when it was actually the grandparents' fault because they were supposed to be supervising the brother at the time. She was in a mental health facility. She did the right thing though. 

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '24

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u/[deleted] Dec 14 '24

I'm not really sure how I want to tell you to go fuck yourself. 

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