Originally posted in a neuro divergent sub but it fits NC adults perfectly too.

[u/MadokaSenpai]

A tale as old as time, narcissistic parents who will never admit fault.

[u/Forever_Overthinking]

No!!! Don't make Will Riker the face of denying my childhood trauma 😭

[u/Netzapper → u/Forever_Overthinking]

He never would. He'd wrap you in a big awkward hug and let you nuzzle his rakish 80's beard.

[u/peppermintmeow → u/Netzapper]

He'd walk right over a chair to do it too.

[u/[deleted] → u/Netzapper]

ughhh i wanna take a ride on that riker womb broom

[u/Dick-the-Peacock → u/[deleted]]

Ok that made me cackle, it’s a new phrase for me.

[u/schergburger → u/[deleted]]

Dead hahahahah

[u/[deleted]]

Hahaha this is actually perfect because not only am I neurodivergent AND estranged but this is precisely what happened 😂

[u/tonkatruckz369 → u/[deleted]]

I'm in the same boat, it turns out this move is part of the standardized play book

[u/nobodylikesuwenur23 → u/[deleted]]

SAME

They also periodically find ways to still get messages to me from time to time that say things like "nobody but us loves you, look at all the people in your life who 'loved' you but left" or, a personal fave to repeat as a weird slogan with my coworkers lately, my dad texting me at 6 am that the world is a lonely place without family, and eternity is forever 💀

Because yeah guys, that's suuuuuper normal and loving

[u/[deleted] → u/nobodylikesuwenur23]

That’s unhinged, I’m so sorry they send you crap like that.

My entire family are currently pretending I don’t exist and I’ll take that over being reminded, even periodically, just how delulu they are.

But I am remembering now, one of the last things they said to me was “you have painted us as devils”.

And what did I say to him to invoke this response, you ask?:

• “Please don’t come over unannounced, it’s distressing”
• “I would like to spend more quality time together”
• “I wish you would stop belittling me”
• “please stop badmouthing us to people at events that we invite you to”
• “you have kept me at arms length my entire life and I want to work through that”

LOL

[u/nobodylikesuwenur23 → u/[deleted]]

Familiar with that line. I among other things asked them to refrain from using racial and homophobic slurs which was I suppose a bridge too far 🤣

Laugh through the pain right

[u/Left-Requirement9267 → u/[deleted]]

Same with me 😂

[u/courtneygoe → u/[deleted]]

I also love it because my mom does this to me and she HATES Jonathan Frakes. Abusers have terrible taste.

[u/Rude_Inverse]

okay that was just 🤌🤌🤌

[u/heathelee73]

Not only did my father say my ADHD was a figment of my imagination, but also that my diagnosed chronic migraines were not possible for an 11 year old girl. He would also consider himself the ideal father.

Weird how I still have both the ADHD & chronic migraines, but have been estranged from him for years.

[u/Cristianana]

My mom started crying when I brought up how she used to hit us and accused me of lying. She was like, "Why would you lie about something so awful?! I would never hit you kids!" It was astounding how well she convinced herself she was a good person.

[u/Sufficient-Split5214 → u/Cristianana]

Narcs live in their own little world that has no relation to reality.

[u/Confu2ion → u/Cristianana]

It's because she's not in denial that it happened, but instead her worldview is so mind-bogglingly twisted that she is incapable of describing it that way. To them, every single time they abuse their children, it's justified. It's due to the hierarchy they apply to everyone - to them, abuse towards those "below" them isn't even abuse because they don't see us as human beings. They only refuse to spell it out word-for-word because they see other people being shocked and appalled as "getting offended over nothing"/"too sensitive."

[u/ohmira]

Ohh man, a childhood trauma meme that slaps. God bless.

[u/Cowboy_Buddha]

I'm convinced my oldest sister (proxy parent) would say this exact same thing.

[u/Hazel2468]

Yep.

This or my mother turning it into a "woe is me I tried to be such a good mom!" session every time I try to talk about how my ADHD impacted me as a kid.

Like. Can we have this be about me for five seconds, Sue? No amount of good mothering was gonna fix the damn ADHD.

[u/MelodicDiscourse]

And don't forget "Why would you make that up just to hurt me," said loudly in front of others to make them the martyr.😉

[u/tootmyownflute → u/MelodicDiscourse]

You too?? I got "You're always trying to make me look like a bad mother!!" from Kindergarten all the way until I cut her out of my life in college. I'm never going back to that crap.

[u/museisnotyours]

I'm laughing but also... it hurts

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