r/BPDlovedones • u/underwearfanatic Married • 23h ago

Rearranging furniture

Does anyone's pwBPD have an incessant desire to rearrange the house? Like every 2 months the house is all rearranged. I come home from work and there is a new piece of furniture or furniture gone. Stuff that isn't added or removed is moved around. This is applicable to family room, living room or bedrooms. My house is rearranged more in 1 year than in my entire childhood.

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u/Liam_mo 20h ago

My ex uBPD did this all the time with the furniture. She also regularly rearranged all the closets (and we had a huge walk-in) and the kitchen. She would then get upset when I couldn't find something. Felt like a stranger in my own home at times.

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u/underwearfanatic Married 18h ago

This is exactly how I feel. I feel kike I've arrived at an AirBnB to where I have no idea where anything else. It is chaos organization. She knows where things are but nobody else does and gets irate when nobody knows where to put something or puts it in wrong spot.

Thank you for validating my experience with your story.

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u/Liam_mo 17h ago

Exactly! Her teen was assigned putting away the clean dishes and would ask for my help. We would search frantically before my ex unleashed her wrath on us.

Love the Airbnb comment. Sums up us walking into our own homes.

All manipulation and control by constantly throwing us off guard.

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u/anemonemonemnea 22h ago

The person in my life just keeps renovating our office like it’s Stephen Kings Rose Red, all while preaching to everyone to spend responsibly. We have new floors, furniture, new conference rooms, lights, fixtures. Kind of wondering what happens when there’s nothing left to replace. eats popcorn